Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

It depends on what kind of sickness. If they are vomitting, no. If it is a cold, we should have things in the house that they would like better- like soup.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

And that take out is still in the fridge 3 days later because she still has the flu and is only drinking ginger ale. No...it is not assumed.

Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

Nothing happens without a conversation. If you want something, ask for it.

Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

If my spouse didn't ask me if I wanted food brought home (and what) I would ask him to please bring me something.. and tell him what I wanted.

Either way I get food.

Also .. if he doesn't ask and I don't want food, I'll tell him that so he doesn't bring something as a nice surprise.

People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

.no there's food in the house.

If they are so sick they are bed ridden I'll bring them food if it's wanted but usually if someone is that sick they want to be left to sleep.

And if you're crowd sourcing your spouse's actions you aren't that sick. If you're well enough to be petty and get on the Internet you're well enough to sort out your own food and go to a party.

Man, it would suck being married to such a careless, heartless wench like you. You not only have no problem letting your sick DH starve in bed but you encourage him to go intereact with others and get them ill. Classy

He would ask but not assume. Eg if I were sleeping and didn’t answer his text he would come home empty-handed.

If I’m ill I usually don’t want food prepared outside. If I have a craving I’ll ask for something specific like pho and spouse will bring it when they get home from their plans.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not, we don't eat takeout regularly and I wouldn't assume someone incredibly sick could digest much. I think you have to ask.

Takeout doesn’t have to be unhealthy food. I know people who eat far more unhealthy cooked from scratch dishes than some restaurant meals.

This isn't a debate over whether takeout is "healthy." When someone in my family is very sick they're usually only up for toast or plain noodles. If my spouse wanted something when I got home I would make them food, but we don't do takeout just for convenience.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

Thanks for clarifying. Yes we have both done so.

No, not without discussion. The sick spouse should say what they are up to eating. We don’t expect the other to guess.

I think OP is the sick spouse and the rest off the family attended the dinner and she stayed home? In that case yes it would be nice if the spouse who went to the restaurant inquired about her desire for food...but he might have just assumed she had no appetite depending on the illness. OP could have just as easily texted her desire. This would not be a big issue to me. Hard to know what a sick person wants. Maybe they are asleep and do not want to be texted.

Ill people often don't have an appetite. Especially in the first 24 hours.