Anonymous
09/28/2025 18:56
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
That is really obnoxious - they have to get through 10 other kids before they reach the goalie.
Anonymous
09/28/2025 10:08
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Have you talked to her about this?
I just said “it’s a hard game if our team isn’t taking shots” bc her son is attack
Anyone who loudly puts down a child playing a sport is a nut. But that being said, I do think you should confront her. I would tell her it upserts your family, especially your son. Ask her if she could be less voca with her frustrationsl. Understand, you will create a little drama on the team - but your son needs to know someone is sticking up for him. It probably won't stop anything but at least you can say you tried.
Anonymous
09/28/2025 10:04
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On my son’s fifth grade rec team there’s a mom that continues to make comments about my son (goalie) implying he’s the reason. At this age, there seems to be a misunderstanding the goalie will get every shot, even undefended ones. If your child is a goalie did you deal with a few parents in the team that would get upset with your child, even if their own attack didn’t score once in a game and they lost?
My kid is a soccer goalie, and my spouse reminds him when he's upset about a loss and blaming himself, that the ball got past 8 other players before it got past him (9v9).
I hate this argument (see my comment right above). The goalie is there for a reason and has a job to do. Instead of acting like any time they face a shot it’s the teammates fault, have objective discussions about whether they should be stopping the shots they are facing. Especially in soccer where many of the shots faced are flat out unstoppable. Lacrosse too. Goalies are going to flat out get beat, often.
We used to talk about whether my son was facing the type of shots he wanted to face/ that his defense was set up to give him. Then we talk about things like his percentages and maybe a few individual shots, to get an idea of how he played overall.
Now he’s in college riding the bench so tbh I miss those talks
You are confusing the tactical discussion of player responsibilities with the fact that this Mom is a low life. No parent should be criticizing kids out loud in fifth grade, full stop.
Anonymous
09/28/2025 09:30
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On my son’s fifth grade rec team there’s a mom that continues to make comments about my son (goalie) implying he’s the reason. At this age, there seems to be a misunderstanding the goalie will get every shot, even undefended ones. If your child is a goalie did you deal with a few parents in the team that would get upset with your child, even if their own attack didn’t score once in a game and they lost?
My kid is a soccer goalie, and my spouse reminds him when he's upset about a loss and blaming himself, that the ball got past 8 other players before it got past him (9v9).
I hate this argument (see my comment right above). The goalie is there for a reason and has a job to do. Instead of acting like any time they face a shot it’s the teammates fault, have objective discussions about whether they should be stopping the shots they are facing. Especially in soccer where many of the shots faced are flat out unstoppable. Lacrosse too. Goalies are going to flat out get beat, often.
We used to talk about whether my son was facing the type of shots he wanted to face/ that his defense was set up to give him. Then we talk about things like his percentages and maybe a few individual shots, to get an idea of how he played overall.
Now he’s in college riding the bench so tbh I miss those talks
Anonymous
09/28/2025 09:21
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Clueless parent but if he and she the goalie is going going 0-7 or 0-8 it isn’t the team.
How is it not on the team to score and level it up? The team has to score too.
lol this post is obviously about saves vs shots. Not the score of the game.
Goalies are going to face shots. Acting like a team should hold their opponents shotless is not a helpful discussion. It’s very possible that it is the goalies fault.
That is HIGHLY unlikely, and is ridiculous for a parent to say in public at any level.
If it were me I would shut that parent up myself. I would also talk to the coach and let them know we would find somewhere else to play or something else to do with our time if that down stop.
Worst comes to worst, coach agrees with parent and maybe your kid should switch to Middy. Then they can deal with finding another goalie
Anonymous
09/28/2025 09:10
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
So it's okay for a parent to repeatedly call out a 5th grader because it's club and they may have gotten some goalie lessons? Are you even half serious?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would it matter if we were talking about a club team?Anonymous wrote:5th grade rec people. We aren’t talking about a club team
More positions are specialized at club vs rec. maybe this kid is only playing half the time in goal. Maybe hasn’t had a goalie lesson yet. A goalie at 5th grade club most likely has worked with a goalie coach. Meaning to call out a goalie at the rec level is absurd.
Anonymous
09/28/2025 07:46
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:On my son’s fifth grade rec team there’s a mom that continues to make comments about my son (goalie) implying he’s the reason. At this age, there seems to be a misunderstanding the goalie will get every shot, even undefended ones. If your child is a goalie did you deal with a few parents in the team that would get upset with your child, even if their own attack didn’t score once in a game and they lost?
My kid is a soccer goalie, and my spouse reminds him when he's upset about a loss and blaming himself, that the ball got past 8 other players before it got past him (9v9).
Anonymous
09/28/2025 01:45
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:Have you talked to her about this?
I just said “it’s a hard game if our team isn’t taking shots” bc her son is attack
Anonymous
09/28/2025 00:41
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Have you talked to her about this?
Anonymous
09/27/2025 23:09
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Typical lacrosse Mom.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 22:23
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
I have an 8th grade goalie and we would go nuts if this happened. It’s such a hard position, the goalie feels bad enough letting anything pass they don’t need a reminder. We would go straight to the coach and if the situation didn’t change we would be looking for a new team. Go get your goalie kids, they deserve the support.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 21:14
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
OP, have the coach talk to her. She sounds like a clueless beyotch.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 20:34
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Anonymous wrote:Why would it matter if we were talking about a club team?Anonymous wrote:5th grade rec people. We aren’t talking about a club team
More positions are specialized at club vs rec. maybe this kid is only playing half the time in goal. Maybe hasn’t had a goalie lesson yet. A goalie at 5th grade club most likely has worked with a goalie coach. Meaning to call out a goalie at the rec level is absurd.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 19:47
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
If a goalie sees a shot that means everyone else on the team failed in their job.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 17:58
Subject: Do you blame the team’s goalie when they lose?
Why would it matter if we were talking about a club team?Anonymous wrote:5th grade rec people. We aren’t talking about a club team