Anonymous
09/27/2025 11:11
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Formal means formal for me. I would rather be overdressed than underdressed.
I normally clarify what formal means to the host and I also ask other invitees what they will be wearing. There are different kinds of formal, and since I am from an immigrant culture, I also have formal and dressy outfits from my own culture
I normally clarify what formal means to the host and I also ask other invitees what they will be wearing. There are different kinds of formal, and since I am from an immigrant culture, I also have formal and dressy outfits from my own culture
Anonymous
09/27/2025 11:04
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Black jeans and a glittery top. Jeans and a black turtleneck channel Steve Jobs.
Next time just don't invite the poors. Kidding but very casual person you don't ever dress businesslike?
Next time just don't invite the poors. Kidding but very casual person you don't ever dress businesslike?
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:57
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
I don’t have formal clothing.
I am very casual and wear a uniform for work.
So do you want me to come casual or do you want me to skip?
What matters more, asthetics or friendships?
I am very casual and wear a uniform for work.
So do you want me to come casual or do you want me to skip?
What matters more, asthetics or friendships?
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:43
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Anonymous wrote:Good ettiquette dictates people follow the dress code. It also means that the host should do everything to make that guest feel comfortable.
As a host I would actually feel sorry for that guest - could they not pull an outfit together? - they must feel uncomfortable and out of place.... but no, I wouldn't think about it deeper than that.
+1, I would wonder if the invitation wasn't clear or they didn't have clothes. I would assume they must be embarrassed.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:37
Subject: Re:Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Yes I believe that it is EXTREMELY disrespectful to wear jeans 👖 to a formal event in a ballroom.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:36
Subject: Re:Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Maybe the guest doesn't have formal wear that fits or can't afford it. Regardless, it's the responsibility of the host to ensure all guests are comfortable.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:29
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
A kid? Wouldn't bother me at all
An adult? I would assume you're one of those "look at me and how I'm not a sheep and I do what I want!" Types. Who are generally pretty obnoxious to be around.
An adult? I would assume you're one of those "look at me and how I'm not a sheep and I do what I want!" Types. Who are generally pretty obnoxious to be around.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:20
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
If you can't muster enough respect for the host/hostess to dress appropriately, do not accept the invitation.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:14
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Good ettiquette dictates people follow the dress code. It also means that the host should do everything to make that guest feel comfortable.
As a host I would actually feel sorry for that guest - could they not pull an outfit together? - they must feel uncomfortable and out of place.... but no, I wouldn't think about it deeper than that.
As a host I would actually feel sorry for that guest - could they not pull an outfit together? - they must feel uncomfortable and out of place.... but no, I wouldn't think about it deeper than that.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:09
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Some people have terrible social skills. Accept that fact and move on.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 08:00
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Anonymous wrote:She will just be humiliating herself. Let it go.
This.
She could easily wear black dress pants and a silk or sequined blouse/jacket to attempt to blend in.
Formal likely means cocktail dress if it’s a birthday party.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 07:52
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Anonymous wrote:As the host, I'd be annoyed, but I wouldn't say anything.
But I also wouldn't have a huge birthday party for myself as an adult.
+1 to both of these.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 07:50
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
She will just be humiliating herself. Let it go.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 07:48
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
To me, formal means a long dress/tux.. I would bet $$ the host.'s idea of formal means "no jeans " Best guess, people will be dressed all over the place. As others have stated, what you say depends on the person who plans to wear jeans.
Anonymous
09/27/2025 07:44
Subject: Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?
Disrespectful. Rude. Tacky. All of it. The host probably won’t say anything. Other guests will talk about it.