I always feel like I have it together when my home is clean (enough!), organized, stocked w/everything that I need ➕ caught up on all of my laundry.

When all that is all done - - I feel like I have accomplished the basics and am on a good path…

I’m going to answer differently. I know I have it together when I can drive and let people go in front of me or not feel rage when someone cuts me off or drives rudely/aggressively, etc. it has taken me YEARS to get to the point. I’m still not perfect.

My teens are super sweet at home and out of the house.

I’m a damn good cook.


(But don’t worry, I have plenty of flaws!)

Anonymous wrote:The two weeks after I've gotten my hair dyed and no grey hair has grown back in yet.

AND

No dirty dishes to be washed.

AND

All laundry has been done.

+1

Clutter free spaces, but also clutter free mind. I have nothing to worry about including having to go work.

I’m an empty nester so my house/life is pretty together most of the time. Empty nester life is so much easier than when my kids were little! Well, minus caring for older parents. But, I do like:

—A house/fridge with healthy food
—Fresh flowers
—NO work stress…that’s prob the biggest thing for me. Even though I often can’t control the stressors, my goal is to stay centered anyway. Makes me feel like I have my shit together
—A chunk of new biz in the Fall that carries into the new year
—Trips planned throughout the year

Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.

I think it's important for kids to see you NOT have it together. They need to know burnout is real. That people get stressed and aren't 100%. And that it's OKAY when that happens. No one is put together 100% of the time and trying to act like you are isn't good for your mental health. So have those days where you have a movie marathon with your kids and make popcorn and order pizza for delivery because you just don't have it in you to drive and pick it up. Your kids won't remember that you looked like a mess and had no energy. They'll just remember the fun day they had with you.

When DS was 5 I was going through a really stressful time with work and an extremely sick parent. It was a weekend and DH was away helping my sick parent and I remember spending half the day on the couch with DS doing nothing before I forced myself to take him to an arcade and then to pick up take out. I was almost in tears putting him to bed because I felt like such a failure for wasting nearly an entire day with him. And so I apologized for us having such a bad day and he looked at me like I had 3 heads. I'll never forget him telling me how much FUN he had with me all day.