Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 04:20     Subject: The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
Do you have any interest at all in the friend?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 03:42     Subject: The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:I have several female friends and one very good friend of over 16 years. It's ALWAYS a problem for me when dating and a problem for her about half the time. I wish I had a solution for you. I'd say, introduce them and let her see she's no threat but it sounds like you've already done that.


One day you will either get together with the very good friend or you will decide that the girlfriend relationship is serious enough to prioritize the girlfriend over the “very good friend” but until then, no need to back burner the very good friend.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 01:01     Subject: The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
I have several female friends and one very good friend of over 16 years. It's ALWAYS a problem for me when dating and a problem for her about half the time. I wish I had a solution for you. I'd say, introduce them and let her see she's no threat but it sounds like you've already done that.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 00:26     Subject: The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, when you're married - no. No woman as a best friend. As to when that change needs to happen, sometime between beginning to date and being married. No exact time but if it isn't happening naturally, you are not in the right marriage-mindset to commit. No one should want to marry you.


Entirely wrong-headed response.


I agree that the previous response seems insane to me. I have a very good friend who's a man, and my brother has a best friend who's a woman. If you're strong in your relationship it shouldn't matter.

I also agree with the people who say that your girlfriend has a lot of baggage.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 00:21     Subject: The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, when you're married - no. No woman as a best friend. As to when that change needs to happen, sometime between beginning to date and being married. No exact time but if it isn't happening naturally, you are not in the right marriage-mindset to commit. No one should want to marry you.


Agreed. Female friend is find best friend absolutely not. Some women have to learn this the hard way.


Ugh, I detest people who think like that. So narrow minded and petty.


Detest all you want. Get back to us here in the real world after reality bites you in the ass.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 00:16     Subject: The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, when you're married - no. No woman as a best friend. As to when that change needs to happen, sometime between beginning to date and being married. No exact time but if it isn't happening naturally, you are not in the right marriage-mindset to commit. No one should want to marry you.


Agreed. Female friend is find best friend absolutely not. Some women have to learn this the hard way.


Ugh, I detest people who think like that. So narrow minded and petty.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2025 00:14     Subject: Re:The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:While it may be unfair for a romantic partner to request that you eradicate a friendship - - I can also see things from her point of view.

In all honesty a compromise here is totally doable.
Talk to your Female friend ➕ let her know how your new girlfriend feels.
Then you can spend less time around her & she will not think you are blowing her off.

Wishing you all the best of luck here!


Ops girlfriend hasn't asked him to drop anyone.