Anonymous
09/14/2025 13:12
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
"Decent young men" and "DC" don't belong in the same sentence.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 12:34
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Do women really struggle attracting men? Or do they struggle attracting the men they can't have?
Anonymous
09/14/2025 12:05
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Your best bet is a friend of someone you know. Friend of a friend can be too limiting. So broaden your network. All the usual - pick up a hobby, join some sort of sports team, etc. And it's not necessarily that you're going to meet the person directly through that group, your goal is to get to know people who may have a second degree connection. It will also by happenstance be very good for your career, as well as optimizing for your overall happiness by community building.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 12:00
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was also going to say — join a Christian church.
I am grew up in a family that attended church every Sunday but moved to the big city, and became agnostic for a long time. I was not into religion at all.
But in my early 40s, after some serious personal failings, I decided to look at faith again and I was astounded at what I found the second time around. It completely changed my life for the better.
There was previously a gender gap in church attendance with women attending church more than men. That gap is gone now. Churches are now filled with young men and they are the sort of young men who you would probably want to date — instead of men who are only in it for sex, are afraid to commit, and have zero interest in personal change and growth — the men I meet at church are seeking true love, seeing inner beauty, dedicated to becoming better versions of themselves, deeply in touch with their emotions and shortcomings, and wanting to live life in a Christ-like way that is filled with compassion, kindness, and grace, but also leadership and being of service.
I admire them because they are much better people than I was when I was their age and only selfishly cared about myself.
No, the young men that go to church are MAGAs these days. If you want a partner that will, say, respect your right to vote, stay far, far away from churches.
I was the person who originally posted this reply.
I would ask — do you actually attend a church? I do and it has been my experience that most young men I encounter at church, especially in this area, are not MAGA. That is a caricature from the media and espoused by people who don’t actually go to church. I have never, ever, ever met someone at my church who has believed that women shouldn’t have the right to vote. I am not talking about extremist fringe churches.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 10:48
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Anonymous wrote:Leave DC. This town is filled with type A dorks who don’t know how to socialize. Do you want a Russ Vought because this is the place to meet a Russ Vought.
Or Stephen Miller.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 10:30
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Anonymous wrote:I was also going to say — join a Christian church.
I am grew up in a family that attended church every Sunday but moved to the big city, and became agnostic for a long time. I was not into religion at all.
But in my early 40s, after some serious personal failings, I decided to look at faith again and I was astounded at what I found the second time around. It completely changed my life for the better.
There was previously a gender gap in church attendance with women attending church more than men. That gap is gone now. Churches are now filled with young men and they are the sort of young men who you would probably want to date — instead of men who are only in it for sex, are afraid to commit, and have zero interest in personal change and growth — the men I meet at church are seeking true love, seeing inner beauty, dedicated to becoming better versions of themselves, deeply in touch with their emotions and shortcomings, and wanting to live life in a Christ-like way that is filled with compassion, kindness, and grace, but also leadership and being of service.
I admire them because they are much better people than I was when I was their age and only selfishly cared about myself.
No, the young men that go to church are MAGAs these days. If you want a partner that will, say, respect your right to vote, stay far, far away from churches.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 10:23
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Honestly all of my best bfs (in early 30s and no longer single) were from dating apps. I'm not sure why some of you have the problems you do with them; I was very selective.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:52
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Anonymous wrote:I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much.
Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.
Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.
It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.
This worked for me and other singles I know. Keep your sense of humor and treat every conversation, coffee date, and dinner date as an interesting experience. I have 2 daughters in college and will definitely recommend this to them if they are looking for men to date after they finish school.
And they can see that the good man I am dating now in my 50s I found through the OLDs.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:47
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Find where local soccer clubs and teams practice and play. Go watch. It's usually after work.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:45
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much.
Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.
Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.
It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.
Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.
Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.
It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:41
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Anonymous wrote:At your age you are in high demand. Men have to choose between you and desperate 35+ women, 40+ women who couldn't find anyone to marry them, delusional divorced women who think they still look 30 at 50, etc
You are in a category of your own. Don't be afraid to approach men.
Yeah, you’re dating in easy mode for the next 5 years. Enjoy!
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:39
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
I wish I could introduce you to my son. He is 24 and 2 years out of college as well. He is a mechanical engineer. Unfortunately he rather stay home and play video games or play soccer after work etc.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:33
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
At your age you are in high demand. Men have to choose between you and desperate 35+ women, 40+ women who couldn't find anyone to marry them, delusional divorced women who think they still look 30 at 50, etc
You are in a category of your own. Don't be afraid to approach men.
You are in a category of your own. Don't be afraid to approach men.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 09:27
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
What's wrong with dating men in their 40's if she likes him?
Anonymous
09/13/2025 23:05
Subject: Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?
Anonymous wrote:I was also going to say — join a Christian church.
I am grew up in a family that attended church every Sunday but moved to the big city, and became agnostic for a long time. I was not into religion at all.
But in my early 40s, after some serious personal failings, I decided to look at faith again and I was astounded at what I found the second time around. It completely changed my life for the better.
There was previously a gender gap in church attendance with women attending church more than men. That gap is gone now. Churches are now filled with young men and they are the sort of young men who you would probably want to date — instead of men who are only in it for sex, are afraid to commit, and have zero interest in personal change and growth — the men I meet at church are seeking true love, seeing inner beauty, dedicated to becoming better versions of themselves, deeply in touch with their emotions and shortcomings, and wanting to live life in a Christ-like way that is filled with compassion, kindness, and grace, but also leadership and being of service.
I admire them because they are much better people than I was when I was their age and only selfishly cared about myself.
OP is 24. Do you suggest her to dating 40s men you meet in church? I haven't seen too many early 20s men in my church