Anonymous
09/13/2025 17:09
Subject: 1st grader inappropriately touching kids
Anonymous wrote:FTM so I need advice on how to proceed. DS told me that one of his classmates is inappropriately touching him. Obviously at baseline I’ve reported this to the teacher in writing and requested a conference ASAP.
I don’t want to send my child into this environment on Monday before the conference, but I don’t want to send the message that he did anything wrong. If anything, it’s the other child who shouldn’t be allowed to attend until the matter is investigated.
I’m also very worried for the other child. He’s SN and a foster kid…
Kids do that, it's very common at elementary age. They obviously have to learn boundaries and some kids are slower learners. At that age, a simple punch in the tummy or nose will put a stop to it ricky tick, and your own kiddo will be seen as tough and not to be bullied or messed with for at least the rest of the school year.
Anonymous
09/13/2025 17:01
Subject: 1st grader inappropriately touching kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Call CPS. It's very likely that the other kid is being/was abused. The school should be calling CPS, but you should do it in case they don't.
You're really jumping to conclusions there.
I'm a lawyer who represents kids in the foster care system. If the kid who touched OP's kid was my client, I would be pushing for him to be referred for a forensic interview.
So there's substantial filtering that occurs before kids get to you.
The kid who touched OP's kid is in foster care, so identically situated as my clients. He is likely be have been exposed to inappropriate materials and/or touch -- at least possible enough that someone should look into it.
NP. My girl was poked in the ass multiple times by a girl (who was quirky). When the school was notified they moved the girl out of DD's groups (aftercare) and the girl started crying and banging her head against a wall. She was the only child of two professional and loving parents. They were beside themselves. Perfectly nice couple, with a weird kid who was socially inept.
Anonymous
09/13/2025 16:54
Subject: 1st grader inappropriately touching kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Call CPS. It's very likely that the other kid is being/was abused. The school should be calling CPS, but you should do it in case they don't.
You're really jumping to conclusions there.
I'm a lawyer who represents kids in the foster care system. If the kid who touched OP's kid was my client, I would be pushing for him to be referred for a forensic interview.
So there's substantial filtering that occurs before kids get to you.
The kid who touched OP's kid is in foster care, so identically situated as my clients. He is likely be have been exposed to inappropriate materials and/or touch -- at least possible enough that someone should look into it.
Anonymous
09/13/2025 09:06
Subject: 1st grader inappropriately touching kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.
Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.
Buckle up.
i was abused relentlessly at a local private when I grew up so you can just forget about your classist assumption.
I made no comparison of any kind.
You shared one data point and all kinds of assumptions of your own.
Thanks for contributing so brilliantly.
Anonymous
09/13/2025 09:01
Subject: 1st grader inappropriately touching kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.
Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.
Buckle up.
+1
Another case for private school. At the very least ask to be I'm a different class. They should grant that request. Also, I'd report the incident to CPS.
Do some research if you think private school is safe
Just stay away from the Catholics
Anonymous
09/13/2025 09:01
Subject: 1st grader inappropriately touching kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to the zoo or something on Monday. Nothing wrong with playing hooky once in a while.
Too often in American public schools, trauma impacted kids harm others MANY times before anything is done. If it's ever done.
Buckle up.
i was abused relentlessly at a local private when I grew up so you can just forget about your classist assumption.
When most people say private, they aren't talking about your abusive church school with a long history if hiding sexual assault. They are talking about the schools who filter out problem kids and curate the student body. It's not for classiest reasons - it's to give our children a better learning environment. It's hard to concentrate if you are being abused.