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Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

I have gray rocked multiple family members, going on over 10 years now. No regrets. Not even once have I wished I was communicating with those Maga Losers.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

Being bored and looking vaguely at the horizon line when someone is speaking is cruel and weird behavior. It is not acceptable in an ongoing relationship. It would make anyone angry. If your purpose is to show the other person they don't matter, might as well stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out. Other methods of dealing with people make more sense. Grey rock is for people who are freaks themselves -- there's a reason you're family after all.

Ah so we have found an enraged narcissist who has run out of supply..ie other people who will enable their bad behavior. Yes a narcissist will react with rage because you are cutting off their supply especially if they don’t have easier target to turn to to get it. I strongly suggest that you reflect for a moment to realize if someone is gray rocking you then you have violated all boundaries, good behavior and are so toxic that the poor person is attempted to find a way to co exist around you, They do not want to be part of your nonsense! Let them be!

If only life were this easy. If only you could win every argument by pretending you already have and not bothering to read or think in any other way.

Normal people don't respond well to grey rock. It is not a test for narcissism. You don't have many social skills if you revert to ignoring someone like a child.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

Being bored and looking vaguely at the horizon line when someone is speaking is cruel and weird behavior. It is not acceptable in an ongoing relationship. It would make anyone angry. If your purpose is to show the other person they don't matter, might as well stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out. Other methods of dealing with people make more sense. Grey rock is for people who are freaks themselves -- there's a reason you're family after all.

Why are you on this thread if you don’t actually know what Gray Rock is or like it?!? I Gray Rocked mg MIL successfully for 10 years. We maintained a civil relationship so you have no idea what you’re talking about.

Anonymous wrote:I don't known if this is exactly gray rocking, but in the same vein. My mother has a tendency to gossip viciously about me to friends and family members. She has nothing else going on in her life, so any information she learns about me is twisted into drama and tall tales. I've worked really hard to cut off the flow of information she hears about me to stop that drama. Basically, if she doesn't know any details about my life, then she can't twist them or gossip about them. I'm sure relatives still hear how horrible I am for mostly cutting her off, but that story gets repetitive and hopefully she'll lose interest. We're not zero contact, but things I do share are super neutral, like the kids started school or turned a year older. She gets nothing that could be criticized.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

Being bored and looking vaguely at the horizon line when someone is speaking is cruel and weird behavior. It is not acceptable in an ongoing relationship. It would make anyone angry. If your purpose is to show the other person they don't matter, might as well stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out. Other methods of dealing with people make more sense. Grey rock is for people who are freaks themselves -- there's a reason you're family after all.

Ah so we have found an enraged narcissist who has run out of supply..ie other people who will enable their bad behavior. Yes a narcissist will react with rage because you are cutting off their supply especially if they don’t have easier target to turn to to get it. I strongly suggest that you reflect for a moment to realize if someone is gray rocking you then you have violated all boundaries, good behavior and are so toxic that the poor person is attempted to find a way to co exist around you, They do not want to be part of your nonsense! Let them be!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

Being bored and looking vaguely at the horizon line when someone is speaking is cruel and weird behavior. It is not acceptable in an ongoing relationship. It would make anyone angry. If your purpose is to show the other person they don't matter, might as well stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out. Other methods of dealing with people make more sense. Grey rock is for people who are freaks themselves -- there's a reason you're family after all.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

Being bored and looking vaguely at the horizon line when someone is speaking is cruel and weird behavior. It is not acceptable in an ongoing relationship. It would make anyone angry. If your purpose is to show the other person they don't matter, might as well stick your fingers in your ears and stick your tongue out. Other methods of dealing with people make more sense. Grey rock is for people who are freaks themselves -- there's a reason you're family after all.

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Anonymous wrote:Gray rock isn't silent treatment. It's not reacting when they provoke you or ignoring questions that they can use to attack you. What type of things does she do that bother you?

She’s very emotionally unstable AND volatile, sometimes at the same time. It’s hard to explain, there is just always this tension, like you’re walking on eggshells with her. You have to be careful what you say. Even the most benign comments she might take personally, or find a way to make them about her in a negative way. I’m tired of tiptoeing and censoring even the most benign topics of discussion to make her comfortable. Not everything is about her! I hope I’m making sense. Basically, she will turn everything around on you, even ketchup. Once, I asked for ketchup for the table, and they brought a restaurant branded ketchup. She made a huge deal about how disgusting it is not to bring Heinz. I simply said, “I don’t mind. I’ll use it.” And she gave me the cold shoulder for months after that, claiming I judged her.

Grey rock is pretty much doing that and letting her cold shoulder roll off your back. (Ha.) So if the says you were judging her later, you look puzzled and say “Huh. That wasn’t my intention. Sorry. Anyway, how about that sports team?”

You’re basically assuming that she’ll respond like a normal person, and if she doesn’t then she looks bananas.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

I have gray rocked multiple family members, going on over 10 years now. No regrets. Not even once have I wished I was communicating with those Maga Losers.

Maga losers from TEN years ago? Unlikely.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

I have gray rocked multiple family members, going on over 10 years now. No regrets. Not even once have I wished I was communicating with those Maga Losers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Not exactly. It is correct that you will not have a close relationship ever because the person you are grey rocking demands a more intrusive and controlling level of access to you. The grey rock target will become frustrated and enraged because they aren’t getting what they want.

Grey does work when what you are seeking is co existence. You don’t want to avoid extended family events because they are there. You don’t want the drama of a big break up. You want to be polite and civil. The technique basically encourages the target to seek out someone else to torture. This works as long as there are other people pleasures around that they haven’t burned bridges with yet.

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.

Anonymous wrote:You can't use grey rock with someone you expect to have an ongoing relationship with. It's like killing a plant and then expecting it to come back to life later. It won't. Don't do grey rock on a family member.