Anonymous wrote:Do FWB go on dates? Or he just comes and f...ks you? I always wondered what this means. Are women actually feeling ok, not used in such case?

I am the one who connected with the old college friend.
Sometimes I would go to his group house for dinner and overnight. Sometimes he would come by after work for sex and maybe overnight. He losned me his car for 2 weeks when he went out of town. I didn't feel more used than I was using him.
But this was the 70s and I didn't want romance.

I've had some since my divorce. I met them online. We were attracted to each other but realized quickly that we were not right for long term relationships. I like them both a lot, but we definitely are not committed to each other or exclusive. One of them lives in another country but comes to visit family once in a while. One of them is married but has been separated for many years and the spouse moved to another country.

Grad school here, mid-20s. It was an interesting relationship, we became really good friends and had a great physical connection but for some reason it just wasn’t love. Not sure why. Both happily married to others now.

28-30, co-worker, same age

Neither of us were married at the time, now we're married to other people and in our 40s

I had a few in my 20s.

The first two I met at bars, the last was at a speed dating event.

One of them was really special to me but we never really aligned on wanting to be in a relationship at the same time, I don't think we were compatible long term but the sex was amazing.

Had many in my 20s. We'd go on a date once or twice but it would fizzle from there due to both our work/travel schedules, so it just became FWB. For example one did not like to go out late, so I'd be with my friends at teh club partying and I'd text her at 1am to see if she was up, and then I'd head over and we'd have fun.

Late 20s, early 30s. Grad school.

Anonymous wrote:I want one. What can be better than sex without drama. Beautiful. A side question. FWB are ok also for married people?

No that is more like a FAFO

Anonymous wrote:In my 20s and in my 50s. Lol

Same friend?

Yup so great. Had one in college. Less of a friend. More of benefits. But we were friendly. Some of the best hookups because there was no attachment and all pleasure, spanning over a year or so until graduation. He tried to rekindle it years later but I was a mt a different place in my life and didn’t take him up on it.

Do FWB go on dates? Or he just comes and f...ks you? I always wondered what this means. Are women actually feeling ok, not used in such case?

Anonymous wrote:How old were you and how did you meet them?

In my 20’s and went on for a little under 20 years.

I want one. What can be better than sex without drama. Beautiful. A side question. FWB are ok also for married people?

I tried a FWB thing when I was around 20. It didn’t work out, turns out I can’t have sex without an emotional connection. Guy ended up contacting me again a few years later wanting to try a relationship, but I had already met DH by then.

When I was in college, I had a couple of "friendships" that involved us hanging out and usually fooling around. In one case, I developed feelings and had to distance myself when it was really clear that he did not have feelings for me. With another guy, I was fine with the dynamic but he started seeing someone seriously and ended other sexual relationships.

Overall, I think this kind of arrangement conflicts with anyone trying to build a primary romantic relationship or nuclear family. Early in life, when that's not a priority, it can work okay. I've also seen it work okay later in life when people do not want to combine lives or be entangled.