Anonymous
09/05/2025 18:41
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:All of these are not exclusive to marriage or a given because of marriage alone.
To claim marriage instantly bestows these things is false.
No but it ties it all in a bow and is a signal to everyone else that you're in a lifelong commitment. Many people wouldn't have any of these things without marriage. DH and I would have never had children out of wedlock, nor bought a home together.
Aren't you a bible thumping peach.
I have been married for over 40 years with a great marriage however, I absolutely would have had children out of "wedlock". How do you not understand how many single mothers have raised some very dam good humans? House LOL you are really out of touch.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 18:24
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Not sure I'd add anything new, but I love the question. What comes to mind:
- partnership and support. Someone who has my back when I'm falling apart, someone who is solidly in my court/on my side. When my parents were sick and dying I was sooooo thankful I had a husband who loved and supported me. When I have a terrible day he's on my side. Etc...
- Wealth. I had no idea how significant a difference there would be in a two income household. We're both very finanically responsible and were in good shape coming in to the marriage, so that's a big part of it. But what we've been able to build together is an exponential increase over what we could have done individually. I'm shocked at how dramatic a difference there is.
- relaxation. I'm not constantly having to try to be the best looking, most charming version of myself. He loves me in sweats, in my formula stained bathrobe, while vegging out for family movie night, etc... (And I can still pull out all the stops if I want to.)
- Freedom. We each wholeheartedly support the other in being able to maintain/pursue our individual interests. So we take primary responsibility for the kids/house etc.. in order for the other one to occasionally get away or engage in a hobby, etc... It would be impossible to do so many things if I were a single parent.
- laughter. THe middle of the night pillow talk for commiserating, or laughing, or processing... It's built on so much shared history that no one else can replace or replicate.
- healthcare decision making. when the time comes we will each know what the other wants and will have the legal right to make that happen. Having seen far too many people go through awful things without the support of someone legally empowered to make decisions, be by their side, etc... - that is extremely valuable.
That's some of what comes to mind. It's nice to have someone to share life's joys and struggles with, and sometimes it's really important that the person has legal standing.
- partnership and support. Someone who has my back when I'm falling apart, someone who is solidly in my court/on my side. When my parents were sick and dying I was sooooo thankful I had a husband who loved and supported me. When I have a terrible day he's on my side. Etc...
- Wealth. I had no idea how significant a difference there would be in a two income household. We're both very finanically responsible and were in good shape coming in to the marriage, so that's a big part of it. But what we've been able to build together is an exponential increase over what we could have done individually. I'm shocked at how dramatic a difference there is.
- relaxation. I'm not constantly having to try to be the best looking, most charming version of myself. He loves me in sweats, in my formula stained bathrobe, while vegging out for family movie night, etc... (And I can still pull out all the stops if I want to.)
- Freedom. We each wholeheartedly support the other in being able to maintain/pursue our individual interests. So we take primary responsibility for the kids/house etc.. in order for the other one to occasionally get away or engage in a hobby, etc... It would be impossible to do so many things if I were a single parent.
- laughter. THe middle of the night pillow talk for commiserating, or laughing, or processing... It's built on so much shared history that no one else can replace or replicate.
- healthcare decision making. when the time comes we will each know what the other wants and will have the legal right to make that happen. Having seen far too many people go through awful things without the support of someone legally empowered to make decisions, be by their side, etc... - that is extremely valuable.
That's some of what comes to mind. It's nice to have someone to share life's joys and struggles with, and sometimes it's really important that the person has legal standing.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 15:40
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
To be honest, the year we spent living together before marriage was just as good as the 19 years since. The best parts of cohabitation are shared finances and how easy it is to spend time together.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 15:34
Subject: Re:What’s the best part of marriage?
Creating a family together and great sex with my best friend.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 15:24
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Knowing someone has my back, and maybe more importantly, our kids' best interests at heart.
We don't have a good marriage at all, but DH's loyalty is a #1 best trait about him
This.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 14:48
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if I want to get married.
Are you a female? if so the best part of getting married is having someone support you so you can stay home and raise the kids.
Also, I hated dating so once I found the one I was done with the whole dating scene! Thank God!
Anonymous
09/05/2025 12:31
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
I just recovered from Covid, and it was nice having a spouse to bring me soup and smoothies and deal with all the kid stuff.
Regular sex.
Raising a family together. This is only good if you pick a partner who you are confident will be a good parent. Mine is an excellent dad. We have relative strengths, like he's great with sports, but I have to cover homework and dentist appointments.
Logistical help running the house.
Companionship: someone to travel with or just sit on the couch and watch tv with.
Regular sex.
Raising a family together. This is only good if you pick a partner who you are confident will be a good parent. Mine is an excellent dad. We have relative strengths, like he's great with sports, but I have to cover homework and dentist appointments.
Logistical help running the house.
Companionship: someone to travel with or just sit on the couch and watch tv with.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 11:50
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Sex whenever I want
Anonymous
09/05/2025 10:48
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Amazing if good, nightmare if bad.
Choose wisely.
Choose wisely.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 10:41
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if I want to get married.
Easy .. Then don't
Anonymous
09/05/2025 10:20
Subject: Re:What’s the best part of marriage?
Anonymous wrote:Having someone in your life that has your back, just as you have their’s.
This^. 1000%
Anonymous
09/05/2025 09:53
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Teammate
Someone to talk with
Raise children together
Pooled resources - salaries, one home
Someone to tag team taking care of things or you
More social circles
Most trusted one
Can play good cop, bad cop with repairmen, school, family events!
Someone to talk with
Raise children together
Pooled resources - salaries, one home
Someone to tag team taking care of things or you
More social circles
Most trusted one
Can play good cop, bad cop with repairmen, school, family events!
Anonymous
09/05/2025 09:33
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Marriage is the bedrock of a moral society
Anonymous
09/05/2025 09:21
Subject: Re:What’s the best part of marriage?
If you don't know if you want to get married, marriage is not for you.
Anonymous
09/05/2025 09:18
Subject: What’s the best part of marriage?
Getting divorced.