Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 10:47     Subject: Re:My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:Those of you saying coloring gray looks worse "trust me," why are you so deadset on that perspective? It's just wrong. One look at Hollywood celebrities can clear this misperception in a second. Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Anniston, Jennifer Garner, Demi Moore, Juliane Moore... I could go on and on. All these women are clearly old enough to have gray hair, but all very naturally color it. Stop saying coloring ages or looks bad. If you're not lazy, coloring looks a million times better and more youthful.


All of those women have straight hair. Curly hair is more fragile and damage-prone.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 10:17     Subject: Re:My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Those of you saying coloring gray looks worse "trust me," why are you so deadset on that perspective? It's just wrong. One look at Hollywood celebrities can clear this misperception in a second. Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Anniston, Jennifer Garner, Demi Moore, Juliane Moore... I could go on and on. All these women are clearly old enough to have gray hair, but all very naturally color it. Stop saying coloring ages or looks bad. If you're not lazy, coloring looks a million times better and more youthful.


And how much do they pay and how much time do they spend in the salon? The type of color that is accessible and realistic for a lot of us just looks bad. Sometimes looking your age is overall more attractive than trying to cover it up. A 50 year old woman may fit into trendy 20 something clothes but that doesn’t mean it’s a good look.

No shade on women who want to color their hair, but I can attest that if you are a low maintenance type, it may not make you look or feel better … then you will be stuck growing it out for 2 years.

And another BIG issue is damage. My hair got totally fried by highlights and did not look cute. I’ve finally grown them out mostly and very happy to have healthy hair back. celebs can get their hair styled every day or wear a wig - the rest of us bumble along with the tell-tale straw hair of the middle aged.


+1 those women can afford to pay top dollar for stylists and products and in some cases cosmetic procedures and surgery. This is not accessible for the vast majority of us regular people.

Anonymous
Post 09/08/2025 10:14     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Def look for an expert cutting curly hair. I have excellent recs for a stylist in Rockville, I have an appointment later this month,
The curly cactus ph 520-6091037
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 17:07     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Use hair oil after you wash it. My gray frizzy hair was transformed. Now it is still gray but is shiny and soft and behaves!

I use shy uemura and one bottle lasts almost a year. Rub a little in when the hair is wet.


I've tried oil (like Argan Oil) but it just makes my hair look greasy. Am I doing it wrong?


Oil doesn't work for me either. Part of the problem with curly hair is that there are A LOT of different types of hair so what works for one person does not work for another. Honestly that is why I have not found curly hair stylists very helpful either: they tend to have one idea of what works.

For me, cream and gel are the only things that work. No oil, mouse, spray, etc has every done anything good. But that's just my hair.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 16:14     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:Use hair oil after you wash it. My gray frizzy hair was transformed. Now it is still gray but is shiny and soft and behaves!

I use shy uemura and one bottle lasts almost a year. Rub a little in when the hair is wet.


I've tried oil (like Argan Oil) but it just makes my hair look greasy. Am I doing it wrong?
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2025 09:30     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Use hair oil after you wash it. My gray frizzy hair was transformed. Now it is still gray but is shiny and soft and behaves!

I use shy uemura and one bottle lasts almost a year. Rub a little in when the hair is wet.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 12:55     Subject: Re:My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:Those of you saying coloring gray looks worse "trust me," why are you so deadset on that perspective? It's just wrong. One look at Hollywood celebrities can clear this misperception in a second. Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Anniston, Jennifer Garner, Demi Moore, Juliane Moore... I could go on and on. All these women are clearly old enough to have gray hair, but all very naturally color it. Stop saying coloring ages or looks bad. If you're not lazy, coloring looks a million times better and more youthful.


And how much do they pay and how much time do they spend in the salon? The type of color that is accessible and realistic for a lot of us just looks bad. Sometimes looking your age is overall more attractive than trying to cover it up. A 50 year old woman may fit into trendy 20 something clothes but that doesn’t mean it’s a good look.

No shade on women who want to color their hair, but I can attest that if you are a low maintenance type, it may not make you look or feel better … then you will be stuck growing it out for 2 years.

And another BIG issue is damage. My hair got totally fried by highlights and did not look cute. I’ve finally grown them out mostly and very happy to have healthy hair back. celebs can get their hair styled every day or wear a wig - the rest of us bumble along with the tell-tale straw hair of the middle aged.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 12:47     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:It's time for the ice floe.


hahahaha
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:18     Subject: Re:My frizzy curly grey hair...
Those of you saying coloring gray looks worse "trust me," why are you so deadset on that perspective? It's just wrong. One look at Hollywood celebrities can clear this misperception in a second. Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Anniston, Jennifer Garner, Demi Moore, Juliane Moore... I could go on and on. All these women are clearly old enough to have gray hair, but all very naturally color it. Stop saying coloring ages or looks bad. If you're not lazy, coloring looks a million times better and more youthful.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:17     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Go to a Curly Girl salon (Oasis in Rickville, Fiddleheads in DC), and explain the situation. They will give you the right cut for what your looking for, and if you decide you want it, the right color
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:06     Subject: Re:My frizzy curly grey hair...
Probably a stupid question, but for those who are newly curly, have you had your haircut by a stylist who specializes in curly hair? It helps a lot.

I love my (now curlier) gray hair. It’s pretty much scrunch and go and I get compliments regularly so I think I’m not deluding myself.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 21:51     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:I would do keratin. It’s expensive but mine lasts about 9 months. It makes my hair look so much better


Where do you get it? Which keratin treatment specifically?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 21:50     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Following. It's hard to be both gray and curly, so I dye mine at home. I'd love to straighten it and go gray.


What kind of dye do you use, and what does it look like? Why do you want to switch to straightening?


I use L'Oreal and the color I like is a cooler (ash) version of my original hair color. I think gray hair looks fantastic on my friends with straight or slightly wavy hair, and I'd love to stop dyeing, but I don't see a realistic way to go straight. Blow-outs don't even work and I don't want to fry my hair with treatments.

I can style mine so it's not frizzy (conditioner in the shower, conditioner after the shower, then gel; avoid going outside until dry) but it takes a long time to dry and the curl pattern is unpredictable. I end up wearing it in an updo instead of messing with it, but I would like to wear it down more.


OP here. This last part was exactly me before I cut it. Now that it’s short the curl pattern is even more unpredictable. Does the dye job really look much better?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 21:48     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Anonymous wrote:Cute hats would be what I would do.


Cute hats every day all day, at work and the gym and the restaurant? Although I am beginning to understand why hats were invented.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2025 09:36     Subject: My frizzy curly grey hair...
Cute hats would be what I would do.