If you are playing 9 hole golf courses they are mostly for beginners and not for people who know all the rules and etiquette. This is less likely on a regular 18hole course.

Are you golfing early a.m., tee times on the weekend? Traditionally men worked during the week, which meant that HWs could golf during the week, so the early weekend slots were when the men got their turn.

It was like this when I first started golfing with my Dad 30+yrs ago. We'd show up for the first weekend time of the day and there were usually a few side eyes and comments.

They soon shut their mouths though because I could outdrive most of them while playing off of of the same tees, didn't take practice swings, and since I wasn't trying to muscle the ball my shots were clean and straight, so my pace of play was quick.

Having a young woman outdrive you, can really mess with the head. Good times watching heads explode and games fall apart to the point where they were holding me up.

Lol good times.

I've aged quite a bit since then and lack the club speed of my youth but I still have a decent enough short game so I can usually keep up.

I'm also teaching my DS to play so, if the prior group has already cleared the hole, and we weren't waiting for them to do so, we will let the group behind us play through. We also don't do the first a.m., we book twilight where possible on nicer courses. So, generally don't get much hate.

Find a group of women to play with. There is safety in numbers. And it will probably be more fun for you.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman newly into golf, and I’m pretty terrible. As I should be, right? Who is good when they first start almost anything? One of the reasons you take up something new is to master something, to challenge yourself, to stretch and grow. So, I’m new and I’m terrible.

I always golf with at least one other person I know. So that way there is someone to laugh/commiserate with if someone is being a jerk. I also have had numerous people - good golfers, golf instructors, etc repeatedly tell me: you belong here. You are playing respectfully and you bought a tee time. So act like you belong here.

Finally, do whatever you’d do if someone was being a jerk, or what you’d do in a workplace if someone was taking up your space. In a bored voice “Wow, Jim. That was bold. Having a bad day?” Then carry on. Unbothered, unhurried. I know it is hard, but don’t shrink yourself to fit a jerk’s desire for you to take up less space.

I’m pretty good at dealing with it… I’m Irish and have 7 brothers so I can stand up for myself.

Since I get paired with other, usually men, I noticed how surprised and taken aback they are. I’m just like oh yea it happens all the time.

Anonymous wrote:If a guy is paying daily greens fees at a public course he should STFU and wait his turn to play. He’s welcome to pony up the $100k to join a private course if pace of play is that important to him.

Signed a male golfer that’s played public courses for 45 years and has no patience with idiots.

I’m gonna equate it to going and sitting in the cheap seats at a Redskins game you’re just gonna deal with some debauchery.

Anonymous wrote:Which courses here have only 9 holes?

In MoCo, there's needwood, northwest and sligo creek.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of men on golf courses are drunk

Agree. Golf, bowling, & softball are popular with some men because they can be performed with a belly full of beer.

Yep. Agree with this.

Anonymous wrote:Which courses here have only 9 holes?

A bunch of the public municipal courses do. Jefferson, Oakmont, Pinecrest in Fairfax. East Potomac in DC has two.

I’m a man, so I recognize that I’m not the target, but I’ve been golfing my entire life and haven’t encountered anything like what OP describes. Guys are generally indifferent or happy to have a woman playing with. I played a couple of months ago and was paired up with this older Asian woman. She wasn’t very good, but you could tell she loved playing and had all the fun gadgets. Any guy who is rude to others on the golf course is very likely a dick in real life, so I’m sorry that you’ve encountered that sort.

Which courses here have only 9 holes?

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman newly into golf, and I’m pretty terrible. As I should be, right? Who is good when they first start almost anything? One of the reasons you take up something new is to master something, to challenge yourself, to stretch and grow. So, I’m new and I’m terrible.

I always golf with at least one other person I know. So that way there is someone to laugh/commiserate with if someone is being a jerk. I also have had numerous people - good golfers, golf instructors, etc repeatedly tell me: you belong here. You are playing respectfully and you bought a tee time. So act like you belong here.

Finally, do whatever you’d do if someone was being a jerk, or what you’d do in a workplace if someone was taking up your space. In a bored voice “Wow, Jim. That was bold. Having a bad day?” Then carry on. Unbothered, unhurried. I know it is hard, but don’t shrink yourself to fit a jerk’s desire for you to take up less space.

I'm the former Bostonian who just posted. The instructor who taught me to play was on the tour for a while (not a name anyone would know) and he was the most chill, encouraging guy out there. He sometimes paired me up with one of his other clients who was on a Big10 team. She was obviously light years better than me, but she was also super kind.

I don't think secure golfers make fun of newbies. They know new golfers are good for the sport.

I stopped golfing when I moved to Virginia.

When I lived in Boston, my former boss and I could golf every Friday morning at a different semi-private or muni course. We played all over the greater metro area and never had an issue.

When I moved here, I got unwanted comments so, so much. Granted, I was alone, but it was kind of crazy how often guys feel that a female golfer shouldn't exist.

It got to the point that I started just going to ranges to be closer to staff.

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Anonymous wrote:Let people play through. That way they aren't anywhere near you. When o play golf, there shouldn't be anyone not in the game watching me

They can’t “play through” because they aren’t waiting or catching up to us. Also we don’t play slow so that’s not the issue

The heckling was a situation where 2 holes were side by side but in the opposite direction… also guys hit their ball onto the wrong fairway all the time.

It's not a women issue. It's a you problem

If a guy is paying daily greens fees at a public course he should STFU and wait his turn to play. He’s welcome to pony up the $100k to join a private course if pace of play is that important to him.

Signed a male golfer that’s played public courses for 45 years and has no patience with idiots.

I’m a woman newly into golf, and I’m pretty terrible. As I should be, right? Who is good when they first start almost anything? One of the reasons you take up something new is to master something, to challenge yourself, to stretch and grow. So, I’m new and I’m terrible.

I always golf with at least one other person I know. So that way there is someone to laugh/commiserate with if someone is being a jerk. I also have had numerous people - good golfers, golf instructors, etc repeatedly tell me: you belong here. You are playing respectfully and you bought a tee time. So act like you belong here.

Finally, do whatever you’d do if someone was being a jerk, or what you’d do in a workplace if someone was taking up your space. In a bored voice “Wow, Jim. That was bold. Having a bad day?” Then carry on. Unbothered, unhurried. I know it is hard, but don’t shrink yourself to fit a jerk’s desire for you to take up less space.

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Anonymous wrote:Where are you golfing? This has not happened at the courses I go to

I only do the 9 holes courses in moco

Must be MAGA flying into MoCo from the Midwest. MoCo is known for its premier 9-hole golf courses.

Anonymous wrote:Let people play through. That way they aren't anywhere near you. When o play golf, there shouldn't be anyone not in the game watching me

They can’t “play through” because they aren’t waiting or catching up to us. Also we don’t play slow so that’s not the issue

The heckling was a situation where 2 holes were side by side but in the opposite direction… also guys hit their ball onto the wrong fairway all the time.