I used to prefer older men but now in my 40s, I prefer younger. 35-45 is perfect.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48, and my age range is 30-60. I’m currently casually seeing a 36 y.o., and it’s been very enjoyable thus far. A few days ago I went on a date with a 58 y.o. man, and he is so much looking for serious, committed relationship, started planning our future life together on the first date and then sent me a message saying how he would want to pour all his energies, heart and soul into me, but he would need the same in return. I’d rather keep dating the guys in their 30s, much less demanding.

There's a name for that. Cougar/Panther.

I’m 48, and my age range is 30-60. I’m currently casually seeing a 36 y.o., and it’s been very enjoyable thus far. A few days ago I went on a date with a 58 y.o. man, and he is so much looking for serious, committed relationship, started planning our future life together on the first date and then sent me a message saying how he would want to pour all his energies, heart and soul into me, but he would need the same in return. I’d rather keep dating the guys in their 30s, much less demanding.

Anonymous wrote:New to this. Am 45 and was talking to my friends and when I told them I put 40-55 they thought it was crazy. Is mid-50s that old? I had not thought about it very much. For an LTR, what do you think makes sense? Why?

You should be looking for mid 50s to early 60s at your age if you don't want anymore children.

Many men in their 40s and 50s will be wanting to meet someone to still have kids most likely. If they don't want any or more, then you could dating around your own age.

So your settings are about right.

But also, why limit it at all? You never know your perfect Romeo might be an outlier in age, so don't restrict.

Completely depends on the man. Some 55 year olds are as good as dead. Others are fit, sharp, and make great partners.

If you prioritize fitness you can find a man who does. My late 40s guy is in excellent shape. And he’s two years out from having a fully empty nest.

If there’s an ED issue, there are pills for that.

Anonymous wrote:37 yo Guy here. I don’t date women over 29.

Because they're smart enough to catch on to your bs before you can run what little game you think you have, yeah? Gross, bro.

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Anonymous wrote:People keep mentioning taking care of men as they get old. When do most men get "old" in your experience?

All men over 45 years of age in my dating experience had some ED issues. 70% were close to overweight.
Just go on the apps - you’ll see the number of sick and fat men prevails the number of fat women
Obesity in men outnumbers female obesity after age 45.

+1. Every man I've dated over 40 had ED issues, and most have horrible health. Even if they're thin, they eat junk and don't work out. One of my favorite dates is hiking, and one of the big reasons I stopped dating men over 40 is that when I wanted to hike, they couldn't because of knee problems, heart problems, overall out of shape, etc.

After 50 they really start to go downhill. Sadly, most men don't go to the doctor or live healthy lifestyles, it's wives who push them to do those things. So after 50, the years of fast food and lack of medical care catch up. I watched many women in my family care for sick husbands who refused to care for themselves - the worst was an aunt whose husband drank too much and ate too much, developed diabetes, refused to get treatment, and lost a foot. After that he was disabled, couldn't work his previous job, and needed constant care. All for something that was 100% preventable.

37 yo Guy here. I don’t date women over 29.

you need to set it to 50-80

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

Yes, a tween. My friends are in their early to mid-40s so I guess 55 seems old to them and their DHs are already feeling "old" to them as they age with health conditions and just regular aging so they are projecting ahead 10-15 years.

Yes, their DHs are getting "old" but the women magically aren't aging at all. A very DCUM perspective.

By do you think men on average live 5 years less than women ? Death is a consequence of aging and related deceases. Cancers, heart deceases, skin deceases bombard your body in higher rate.
So yea, an equal age equivalent for a 55 yo man is a 60 yo woman etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

Yes, a tween. My friends are in their early to mid-40s so I guess 55 seems old to them and their DHs are already feeling "old" to them as they age with health conditions and just regular aging so they are projecting ahead 10-15 years.

Yes, their DHs are getting "old" but the women magically aren't aging at all. A very DCUM perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 42 and my filters are 37-49. I strongly prefer men within 3 years of my age, either way, and all of my lifelong relationships have fallen with that range. I’m retiring at 50 and fit relative to my peers, and would also like to avoid being homebound due to an aging spouse. My only kid goes off to college in a couple of years. I basically target divorced dads in a similar stage of life.

Divorced dads will have much younger kids than you. I’m 47 yo empty nester and most men in their 40s have kids in primary and middle school. Realistically professional men become empty nesters by mid 50s.
It’s a trade off between dating someone who is almost never available on weekends and an older man in his mid 50s.
I find it very problematic dating men jn 40-50s, so I do get it when women just go for younger single men hookups . Divorced older men with kids still at home don’t have much to offer and no time to build a relationship

+1. Also 47 but my kids are 11 and 13. My ex-husband is almost 52 and he will not be an empty nester until he is 60. Men in their 40s usually have a little kids or middle school kids. They’re not divorced empty-nesters.

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Anonymous wrote:I am late 40s. I don't set filters. I don't date for long term.

I have went on dates with 25-47. I have had long-term-ish situations I have ended with ages 33-36.

I would not date someone older than 50 in any scenario. I am not going to be a nurse with a purse and I if I am not going to remarry (which I won't), younger men are better.

Even my 92-year-old grandma at the time of divorce when I was 42 told me, "you need to be careful with older men." Many women date older and end of being a nurse maid. That is fine if you are married to them for 20+ years...it is not fine now.

Look at Emma Willis / @ 49, she has an 11-year-old, a 13-year-old, and a 70-year-old husband with dementia.

She’s in for a large lump sum payoff and her kids inheritance. But what’s the point to be in it for a financially stable woman with an average Joe ?
I personally think that even 50s men who make 1m/year but have multiple kids are not worth the trouble. Most of their assets are already created by age 50. Everything will be spent and go to kids. Few of these men want to remarry so any woman will be just a provider of pleasant dates and travel to him.

Only makes sense to date older when he can bring millions to table and really nice lifestyle

Anonymous wrote:People keep mentioning taking care of men as they get old. When do most men get "old" in your experience?

All men over 45 years of age in my dating experience had some ED issues. 70% were close to overweight.
Just go on the apps - you’ll see the number of sick and fat men prevails the number of fat women
Obesity in men outnumbers female obesity after age 45.