Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 20:14     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Isn’t it odd that adults can be so wrapped up in the dating lives of teens?
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 20:14     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's not that deep.

I have some very good mom friends and yes I would tell them if I heard their kid is dating someone.


Why?


They don't have anything else to talk about.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 20:12     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:It's not that deep.

I have some very good mom friends and yes I would tell them if I heard their kid is dating someone.


Why?
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 20:10     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:NO, because you are not a direct report. If YOU had witnessed something directly, then perhaps you might mention it, if you knew the parents were against dating for their minor children, or something like that. But this is gossip, and it's not a seriously traumatizing, or life-or-death issue. So ethically, it would not be a good idea to act on gossip.

Sometimes you do need to act on hearsay, when for example you hear of abusive situations, for example between a coach and a student athlete. These situations do happen. A rowing coach at Whitman was jailed for this, after years of allegations that no parent took seriously. Or if you hear of drinking and driving. But your story is not that kind of story.




This.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:59     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:It's not that deep.

I have some very good mom friends and yes I would tell them if I heard their kid is dating someone.


No, because you don't know whether it's true or not. It's because of people like you that gossip turns into weapons.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:56     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:It's not that deep.

I have some very good mom friends and yes I would tell them if I heard their kid is dating someone.


I also have some very good mom friends and I would never.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:55     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A few of our friends have kids who all attend the same high school. My children attended a different high school. One friend said her child told her about my friend’s daughter and her girlfriend.

I personally would want to be made aware as a parent. I would also want to know if my daughter had a boyfriend.


Presumably you can find other things to gossip about. Or just complain about your husband. Don't make drama for others.


I would want to know if this was my child. I guess all of you would not want to know.


This is 3rd or 4th hand information
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:54     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
It's not that deep.

I have some very good mom friends and yes I would tell them if I heard their kid is dating someone.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:34     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Would you think the same thing if the girl had a boyfriend? Or do you only think it's worth reporting because it's a same sex relationship? I cannot tell you how incredibly cruel it would be to 'out' a girl you hardly know to her parent. You say you'd want to know if it was your kid, so ask your kid. The people who aren't your kids are none of your concern.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:27     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
NO, because you are not a direct report. If YOU had witnessed something directly, then perhaps you might mention it, if you knew the parents were against dating for their minor children, or something like that. But this is gossip, and it's not a seriously traumatizing, or life-or-death issue. So ethically, it would not be a good idea to act on gossip.

Sometimes you do need to act on hearsay, when for example you hear of abusive situations, for example between a coach and a student athlete. These situations do happen. A rowing coach at Whitman was jailed for this, after years of allegations that no parent took seriously. Or if you hear of drinking and driving. But your story is not that kind of story.


Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:22     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A few of our friends have kids who all attend the same high school. My children attended a different high school. One friend said her child told her about my friend’s daughter and her girlfriend.

I personally would want to be made aware as a parent. I would also want to know if my daughter had a boyfriend.


Presumably you can find other things to gossip about. Or just complain about your husband. Don't make drama for others.


I would want to know if this was my child. I guess all of you would not want to know.


It's disturbing that you think that's the issue.

Get help.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:15     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
Like I used to teach my kids: Would you be telling to talk & show what you know, or would you be telling to help?

If someone is in danger, being exploited, etc., obviously tell the mom so someone can help the kid.

If there is no problem that would be improved by you telling the mom, I advise minding your own business and saying nothing.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:13     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
MYOB she's not your kid.
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:08     Subject: Re:Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
NO
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2025 19:07     Subject: Would you tell friend her daughter has a girlfriend?
If the mom doesn't know, there's probably a reason. I wouldn't out a kid unless there was a safety issue.