Anonymous
08/30/2025 02:09
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:What defines a dud? I have two siblings who are unmarried and broke in their 30’s but seem generally happy. They were on track to have normal white collar careers but pivoted in their 20’s to follow their dreams. Their lives are unstable though and usually whenever s*** happens they have to ask family for money
In my opinion this defines a “dud”. But unfortunately majority or young adults fall in this category
Anonymous
08/30/2025 01:52
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Ex’s family: grandma had two sons, one a dud, one normal. The normal one had two sons, one normal, one a dud but reformed.
My side: my father with dud like tendencies, had a son a daughter, son and his kids are fine, daughter’s kid has dud like tendencies.
My side: my father with dud like tendencies, had a son a daughter, son and his kids are fine, daughter’s kid has dud like tendencies.
Anonymous
08/30/2025 00:03
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Calling your kid a dud makes you the dud
Agree. Maybe OP doesn't see the apple right next to the tree
Anonymous
08/29/2025 23:46
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kids are dudes from a long line of dudes.
May they abide.
👏 🏆
Anonymous
08/29/2025 22:20
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
It was easier to be a dud back in the day, now society is more demanding.
And dud is mean, most people are average....
And dud is mean, most people are average....
Anonymous
08/29/2025 22:05
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Calling your kid a dud makes you the dud
Amen
Anonymous
08/29/2025 22:04
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
I am the dud, and I am an outlier/step down.
Anonymous
08/29/2025 22:04
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
What defines a dud? I have two siblings who are unmarried and broke in their 30’s but seem generally happy. They were on track to have normal white collar careers but pivoted in their 20’s to follow their dreams. Their lives are unstable though and usually whenever s*** happens they have to ask family for money
Anonymous
08/27/2025 22:28
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?
Failure to launch
My kid has some disabilities that require a longer runway to launch. That doesn't make her a "dud."
I really appreciate how you framed this! You sound like an amazing parent who is giving your daughter everything she needs to thrive in her own time.
Anonymous
08/26/2025 19:00
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:I have a brother in prison, but I wouldn’t call him a dud. His birth parents were substance abusers and he was born addicted. He qualified for a lot services from birth, but many weren’t well done and there was a significant amount of household instability undermining everything. I was out of the house by then with a child of my own so I wasn’t involved in a way that might have made a difference.
I would say he’s the outlier though because all five other kids are law abiding as are his two bio siblings on either side of his birth. He is just brain damaged enough to lack impulse control but not enough to legally not be accountable. He likes prison because it is highly structured and he has limited choices.
Only two other relatives have ever been in trouble with the law and one of those was arrested for a Civil Rights Era sit in.
Is he adopted? It might be a genetic propensity for criminal behavior and susceptibility to substance abuse disorders. Sometimes you can do everything right and kids still end up struggling in life because they are genetically unlucky.
Anonymous
08/25/2025 10:19
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If your children turned out to be duds or on the path towards that, is it just reverting back to your family history or are they an outlier/step down?
Obama, Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezzos, all had dud fathers yet became the dudest dudes.
They all had good moms and (step)dads
Anonymous
08/25/2025 10:18
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:If your children turned out to be duds or on the path towards that, is it just reverting back to your family history or are they an outlier/step down?
Obama, Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezzos, all had dud fathers yet became the dudest dudes.
Anonymous
08/24/2025 22:05
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves
Anonymous
08/24/2025 22:01
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?
Failure to launch
My kid has some disabilities that require a longer runway to launch. That doesn't make her a "dud."
+1000
Anonymous
08/24/2025 21:19
Subject: If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?
Look up regression to the mean