Anonymous
08/20/2025 16:09
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Op, give it time. She may adjust. The friendship may adjust. When my Pell Grant college roommate's start up hit it big and she became a multimillionaire at 30, there was an adjustment. I asked her about new concerns. Concerns she had that I didn't, but were now part of her life. Such as, "do you feel you're getting good financial advice? Can you trust the advice? How are your siblings handling your financial situation?" There are stresses you don't know about. But your friend will probably need to talk about. They are real to her.
Decades later this friend and I are still friends. There were some low points. One Christmas I realized she had used a Personal Shopper to buy my present. She had no idea what she had given me. For me, that hurt. Decades later, the relationship feels much better. We go on a yearly vacation together. I feel close to her now. I didn't much from age 30 - 40. It's worth keeping the door open.
Decades later this friend and I are still friends. There were some low points. One Christmas I realized she had used a Personal Shopper to buy my present. She had no idea what she had given me. For me, that hurt. Decades later, the relationship feels much better. We go on a yearly vacation together. I feel close to her now. I didn't much from age 30 - 40. It's worth keeping the door open.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 15:20
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:Thread title should be "Normal evolution of recently rich friend."
Nothing weird about this, all tracks.
+1 Save the rest of the judgement for Saint Peter.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 15:15
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is me in the other side. My husband and I laddered up and had rented for years due to frequent moves. We finally bought a dream home and I was so excited to share the ongoing renovations with my friend. I was also shocked at the prices of some of the things we were buying and shared how crazy it was!
She came to visit and saw my house and that just did us in. The next time I visited her, she asked me to stop talking about money and I readily agreed. A week later,through text, she accused me of bragging to make others feel bad and that I did it on purpose even after I had stopped talking about the house!
This whole thing was a combination of her insecurities and jealousy. I genuinely wanted to share my experiences with her and was so excited to finally own again and never meant to upset her or brag.
I would hope that you would talk to her and give her a fair chance and tell her how you feel. She genuinely might not know how it is affecting you. If she continues to swing the conversations to her and what she has AFTER your talk, I’d move on with my friendship.
I will be honest and say that it’s a difficult position for you both though so this will work only if the friendship has a solid base.
Nobody wants to hear about your renovations, friend or otherwise. It’s great that you’re excited about it, but keep the details to yourself unless someone has specifically asked.
Not much of a friendship then is it, if she can't share what's going on in her life.
It’s one thing to say “we’re redoing our kitchen and I can’t wait but it’s such a mess and an inconvenience now! What’s new with you?…”
Quite another to go on and on in great detail about every decision, every dilemma, every change order, every contractor mess-up, how much everything costs, etc. I get that this tends to take over one’s life, but it does not make for interesting conversation, unless your friend clearly shows deep interest in the details.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 15:05
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Thread title should be "Normal evolution of recently rich friend."
Nothing weird about this, all tracks.
Nothing weird about this, all tracks.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 15:04
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I experienced something similar when a neighborhood friend who moved away and into a more exclusive neighborhood with her rich new husband. Suddenly, overnight, she thought she was better than me.
It hurt a lot at first, and I was almost embarrassed by my own circumstances. Then I realized that her behavior said more about her than it could ever say about me. She’s insecure in her new reality. I dropped her, and it hurt, but I couldn’t carry that around.
She is better than you now. Sorry. Money isn't everything but it is a lot. It's not like you were soul mates -- you were friends.
She is better becaue she married someone with money? BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA talk about a morally deficient person! It's you, PP.
Right? She’s the same person, now she just has her husband’s cash.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:57
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I experienced something similar when a neighborhood friend who moved away and into a more exclusive neighborhood with her rich new husband. Suddenly, overnight, she thought she was better than me.
It hurt a lot at first, and I was almost embarrassed by my own circumstances. Then I realized that her behavior said more about her than it could ever say about me. She’s insecure in her new reality. I dropped her, and it hurt, but I couldn’t carry that around.
She is better than you now. Sorry. Money isn't everything but it is a lot. It's not like you were soul mates -- you were friends.
She is better becaue she married someone with money? BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA talk about a morally deficient person! It's you, PP.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:54
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
What it would be like to have a fling with a Wal-Mart man.Anonymous wrote:What did you talk about before?
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:29
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:What did you talk about before?
Which washing machines did the best job at the laundromat and what was on sale at Dollar General.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:28
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
What did you talk about before?
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:27
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:My friend made it big and started running around with a stadium suite/private jet/private island crowd. I see her when she is bored or when those friends have other obligations. It’s pretty weird and I don’t relate to most of her life anymore.
I can’t even say the right casual comments. The other day she was talking about their new pool and how much the kids are enjoying it and I said that you know it’s a good summer when kids smell like chlorine all the time. Totally deadpan, she goes “it’s saltwater, of course.” Oops.
This is also hysterical, and the kind of behavior that makes clueless rich people so enjoyable to read about.
I had a situation sort of similar to PP’s where a friend I met through kid sports and elementary school activities would still happily talk to me about the sorts of things we always had if we were one-on-one, but couldn’t stop talking about tennis and lavish vacations if we were in a crowd with other people who lived that lifestyle. They eventually moved their kids to private school and the relationship faded.
At the same time, we have mutual neighborhood friends who did end up with a private jet and stadium box as the husband became increasingly successful. None of the staggering wealth made any difference to the relationships in that case. They are the same funny, thoughtful people they always were and don’t care that most of their friends aren’t part of that milieu. It really does come down to personality in the end.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:23
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
She’s movin’ on up to the East Side, to a deluxe apartment in the sky. Good luck to her and George.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:19
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:We have worked our butts off and sacrificed a lot to be wealthy, at least by Midwest standards. We still put in a lot of hours working.
Our best couples friends just inherited a farm and cash from a long lost single uncle. She was the only cousin who received anything.
The insecurity and jealousy we felt is because they didn't earn it.
But, such is life. We got over it.
Her siblings and cousins, however, did not.
You "got over" something wonderful and life changing having to your best friend?
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:18
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is me in the other side. My husband and I laddered up and had rented for years due to frequent moves. We finally bought a dream home and I was so excited to share the ongoing renovations with my friend. I was also shocked at the prices of some of the things we were buying and shared how crazy it was!
She came to visit and saw my house and that just did us in. The next time I visited her, she asked me to stop talking about money and I readily agreed. A week later,through text, she accused me of bragging to make others feel bad and that I did it on purpose even after I had stopped talking about the house!
This whole thing was a combination of her insecurities and jealousy. I genuinely wanted to share my experiences with her and was so excited to finally own again and never meant to upset her or brag.
I would hope that you would talk to her and give her a fair chance and tell her how you feel. She genuinely might not know how it is affecting you. If she continues to swing the conversations to her and what she has AFTER your talk, I’d move on with my friendship.
I will be honest and say that it’s a difficult position for you both though so this will work only if the friendship has a solid base.
Nobody wants to hear about your renovations, friend or otherwise. It’s great that you’re excited about it, but keep the details to yourself unless someone has specifically asked.
Not much of a friendship then is it, if she can't share what's going on in her life.
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:18
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I experienced something similar when a neighborhood friend who moved away and into a more exclusive neighborhood with her rich new husband. Suddenly, overnight, she thought she was better than me.
It hurt a lot at first, and I was almost embarrassed by my own circumstances. Then I realized that her behavior said more about her than it could ever say about me. She’s insecure in her new reality. I dropped her, and it hurt, but I couldn’t carry that around.
Yes!
This happened with my MIL when she married up. Suddenly all she could talk about was her big house and fancy car and how her new husband didn’t care what she spent money on, because he could afford it. It became a trademark— He Can Afford It!™️
It was so clear to me that she was trying to convince everyone that she belonged where she was. It’s absolutely insecurity.
This is sad, but also very funny. Perfect for holiday bingo!
Anonymous
08/20/2025 14:13
Subject: Weird evolution of recently rich friend
We have worked our butts off and sacrificed a lot to be wealthy, at least by Midwest standards. We still put in a lot of hours working.
Our best couples friends just inherited a farm and cash from a long lost single uncle. She was the only cousin who received anything.
The insecurity and jealousy we felt is because they didn't earn it.
But, such is life. We got over it.
Her siblings and cousins, however, did not.
Our best couples friends just inherited a farm and cash from a long lost single uncle. She was the only cousin who received anything.
The insecurity and jealousy we felt is because they didn't earn it.
But, such is life. We got over it.
Her siblings and cousins, however, did not.