Anonymous
01/20/2026 22:32
Subject: Re:Explain this to me
If I cared so much about societal expectations then I wouldn't be trans! 
Anonymous
01/19/2026 12:27
Subject: Explain this to me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So a young person born female feels so adamant about the strictness of gender that they have to change genders to accommodate who they feel they are inside. Fine. Are they also expecting to support a spouse and kids the way society expects that men will? Are they making career and life choices that realistically allow that to happen?
If not what aspects of being “male” are they embracing besides external appearance?
Hi Grandma! More than half of my friends make more than their husbands. There are your average finance or CFO types that make more and live modestly. And then there are three very high earning women with "house husbands." They earn million+ each year and their husbands don't work.
I'm guessing you don't know many successful people and don't live in an expensive neighborhood. Probably not even in the DC area. Otherwise you would know better. But kudos for trying to stir some $hite up on your first day without the kids home.
This is far more likely in high in come households than in middle class or working class households because the jobs depend less on physical skills and more on knowledge based skills
Anonymous
01/19/2026 12:24
Subject: Explain this to me
Anonymous wrote:I know plenty of Households where the female is the money maker and or in charge.
There is no written rule men are bread winners always or in charge of a relationship.
Your premise is raging Christian Nationalist vibes. Project 2025 vibes on how families need to be which is absurdly bad .
Women are in charge of more households than men. Anyone who decided to change their gender doesn’t think about old fashioned gender regulations put on society by white Christian fools.
This isn't about who heads households or who makes more money. Gender roles exist. Those gender roles exist in muslim countries, hindu countries, shinto countries, etc. they are not Christian social constructs, they predate christianity. In modern society where women have birth control, relatively equal pay, relatively equal opportunity, the gender roles are a lot looser but they still exist because of things like pregnancy and physical strength.
Anonymous
09/04/2025 12:13
Subject: Explain this to me
Anonymous wrote:I know three married adult trans men with kids. They all work to support their families, to the exact same extent as the cis men I know.
Tell me about this! Who did they marry? Who carried the kids?
Anonymous
09/04/2025 12:12
Subject: Explain this to me
Anonymous wrote:IME as a lesbian who knows a lot of queer people - most, but not all, young females identifying as trans males are not actually interested in being “traditional” family supporting breadwinner HOHs and aren’t thinking about future children. They just don’t want to be (seen as) women or it is a coping mechanism for experiencing some form of internalized misogyny.
But guess what, a lot of young cisgender heterosexual males and females aren’t thinking much about that either.
It may change as they get older.
OP. This is one of the things I am wondering about. Could you tell me more about what you wrote above re: not wanting to be seen as women/coping with internalized misogyny?
What do you think about transition-supporting hormone therapy (T) for these FTM boys? What about "top surgery"?
It seems like they would wind up putting themselves into such a tiny bracket of adults physically, I wonder who they will form adult committed sexual relationships with.
Anonymous
08/25/2025 14:44
Subject: Explain this to me
I know three married adult trans men with kids. They all work to support their families, to the exact same extent as the cis men I know.