Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 19:59     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men are always desperate. It's easy being a woman in that regard. When a woman says she can't find a man, it makes me wonder what is wrong with her.


I think the subtext is that she can't find a non-desperate man.


All men are desperate. You simply have to deduce their weakness.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 19:42     Subject: Re:Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
I've said on here many times that maybe 20% of modern men are equipped to be husbands and fathers.

Simply put, when men were able to structure society for their sole benefit, oppress women, and keep them legally and practically dependent on men, men didn't have to put forth much effort on the home front, emotionally or otherwise. The societal landscape and structure has changed and men have not adapted. Many of them find it easier to pay someone to pretend to care about them rather than put in the work at home and in their relationships.

And despite the above - I'm rooting for men.


Here we are with another crazy poster pulling the percentage of men who are "equipped to be husbands and fathers" right out of her a$$. Any support (in your a$$ or anywhere else) for this position?

How many of "them" pay someone to pretend to care? As I have said on here many times, only 21.74% of women are capable of posting anything other than mindless word drool on DCUM.

PP, what percentage of men do not "put in the work" in their relationships because it is not worth it to them?

How many find that most of the women they know are simply poor candidates for relationships, because these women have been run through, picked over, and are now angry about it? On DCUM, this number is very high.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 10:49     Subject: Re:Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the Only fans thing.

Isn’t there tons of free p*rn online? Why pay?

I don’t get it


It’s the GFE aspect.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 10:47     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm good friends with an OF model and learned a lot about the industry thru her.

First, very few women make good money. Average is something like $200 dollars. The woman you referenced - Lil Tay - is a rapper with over 6 million followers on social media already, and she did a TON of marketing around how she was turning 18 and would drop explicit content on OF.

Also, it's really not men paying for just pictures and videos. My friend makes most of her money in 2 ways:

1. Chatting/messaging
2. Custom videos (people pay thousands for these).

The chatting is with men who are lonely. Some are single, some are married. I actually don't see the problem here. American culture is set up to isolate people, so no wonder men turn to women online. She also often helps get them out of depressive states, getting to talk to another human being who encourages them and supports them helps.

Custom videos are usually very strange kinks nobody would ever ask a partner because it's embarrassing. Things like role playing alien abductions. I think it's fine to have an outlet for these, it's horrible to ask someone to fulfill a fantasy and get laughed at or dumped.

In the old days, some men paid prostitutes to just chat. Today, they do it through OF, I guess. Cheaper than paying a therapist, I suppose.


Hostess bars in Japan have been a thing for many years. Married men go after work, and pay to have a pretty girl to chat with and pour their drinks. Nothing more than that. They do well.

The funny thing on OF is a lot of the "chatting" is with AI-powered bots, if it's just text chatting. I have a friend who writes them for OF models, and he takes a 10% cut. Win-win. But.. do the customers doing the chatting ever wonder why the OF "model" is available to chat 24/7 and never sleeps?
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 10:34     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men are always desperate. It's easy being a woman in that regard. When a woman says she can't find a man, it makes me wonder what is wrong with her.


Most likely inflated sense of self worth and likely swimming outside her lane

dp.. that can be said about incels, too. If you lower your expectations, I'm pretty sure both men and women can find someone. But, that's the problem, people in general want someone they find attractive, and that often times can be outside their lane.

Agreed. But women always think the reason they are single is because there are no suitable men. What they don’t realize is that there are plenty of men, just not the type they think they deserve.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 10:13     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:Men are always desperate. It's easy being a woman in that regard. When a woman says she can't find a man, it makes me wonder what is wrong with her.


I think the subtext is that she can't find a non-desperate man.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 10:04     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men are always desperate. It's easy being a woman in that regard. When a woman says she can't find a man, it makes me wonder what is wrong with her.


Most likely inflated sense of self worth and likely swimming outside her lane

dp.. that can be said about incels, too. If you lower your expectations, I'm pretty sure both men and women can find someone. But, that's the problem, people in general want someone they find attractive, and that often times can be outside their lane.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 10:02     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:Men are always desperate. It's easy being a woman in that regard. When a woman says she can't find a man, it makes me wonder what is wrong with her.


Most likely inflated sense of self worth and likely swimming outside her lane
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:58     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Men are always desperate. It's easy being a woman in that regard. When a woman says she can't find a man, it makes me wonder what is wrong with her.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:57     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
It's not just US men. It's men in general. They are not able to keep up with the changing times.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:56     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some us men have become hopelessly desperate. I just read about this new Onlyfans model who made a whopping $1M+ within 24 hours of joining the platform.

This is very disturbing. Why are men spending this absurd amount of money on someone they will never meet in person. They are spending money on her just because she is "beautiful". This is crazy because a lot of women are single and looking and these are the losers that they may sadly end up with.

Does anyone know why have men become this desperate?


I've said on here many times that maybe 20% of modern men are equipped to be husbands and fathers.

Simply put, when men were able to structure society for their sole benefit, oppress women, and keep them legally and practically dependent on men, men didn't have to put forth much effort on the home front, emotionally or otherwise. The societal landscape and structure has changed and men have not adapted. Many of them find it easier to pay someone to pretend to care about them rather than put in the work at home and in their relationships.

And despite the above - I'm rooting for men.

Society has changed for the worse. Family system is collapsing. In the past men and women had different roles, which was closer to our nature and society was better off. There may have been few bad apples but there was no systematic oppression.

? wtf - of course there was. If you were not a white male hetero you were oppressed. I'd rather live in today's society where a minority woman is free and able to get high paying jobs, live on her own terms.

I'm 54, F minority. I would not want to live in the "olden" days. My mother did that, and she had a very hard life. H3ll to the no.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:52     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:I'm good friends with an OF model and learned a lot about the industry thru her.

First, very few women make good money. Average is something like $200 dollars. The woman you referenced - Lil Tay - is a rapper with over 6 million followers on social media already, and she did a TON of marketing around how she was turning 18 and would drop explicit content on OF.

Also, it's really not men paying for just pictures and videos. My friend makes most of her money in 2 ways:

1. Chatting/messaging
2. Custom videos (people pay thousands for these).

The chatting is with men who are lonely. Some are single, some are married. I actually don't see the problem here. American culture is set up to isolate people, so no wonder men turn to women online. She also often helps get them out of depressive states, getting to talk to another human being who encourages them and supports them helps.

Custom videos are usually very strange kinks nobody would ever ask a partner because it's embarrassing. Things like role playing alien abductions. I think it's fine to have an outlet for these, it's horrible to ask someone to fulfill a fantasy and get laughed at or dumped.

In the old days, some men paid prostitutes to just chat. Today, they do it through OF, I guess. Cheaper than paying a therapist, I suppose.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:52     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Temptation. Sin. Lack of character and morals.
Find some inner strength. Find God. Focus on being a good person every day. Surround yourself with other good people.

This is nothing new. Sin and temptation have existed since the beginning of time. You have to CHOOSE good every day.
"And if your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It’s better to enter eternal life with only one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell."
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:48     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
I mean, selling sex isn't a remotely new phenomenon. Prostitution is called the oldest profession for a reason. In the 1800s, there were multiple famous courtesan. Women's fashion actually emulated trends started by courtesan for ages.

So... is this really terribly different?
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2025 09:47     Subject: Some us men have become hopelessly desperate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some us men have become hopelessly desperate. I just read about this new Onlyfans model who made a whopping $1M+ within 24 hours of joining the platform.

This is very disturbing. Why are men spending this absurd amount of money on someone they will never meet in person. They are spending money on her just because she is "beautiful". This is crazy because a lot of women are single and looking and these are the losers that they may sadly end up with.

Does anyone know why have men become this desperate?


I've said on here many times that maybe 20% of modern men are equipped to be husbands and fathers.

Simply put, when men were able to structure society for their sole benefit, oppress women, and keep them legally and practically dependent on men, men didn't have to put forth much effort on the home front, emotionally or otherwise. The societal landscape and structure has changed and men have not adapted. Many of them find it easier to pay someone to pretend to care about them rather than put in the work at home and in their relationships.

And despite the above - I'm rooting for men.

Society has changed for the worse. Family system is collapsing. In the past men and women had different roles, which was closer to our nature and society was better off. There may have been few bad apples but there was no systematic oppression.