Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, good input.

For context, I am early 50s and have menopause weight going on - It has been very hard to find a dress that has sleeves and is forgiving to my very full bust. Any suggestions on alternatives very welcome. I like the dress I posted but will not wear it to the wedding given the gray area. For those who said it is ugly, fine, but it is hard to find dresses that fit a size 8 body and are not too youthful, have sleeves and do not show cleavage.

OP, I'm also early 50's and have similar challenges - I think that dress is cute and I wouldn't think twice about whether it's too white for a wedding - it's not.

Also, there's a big different between being 28 and wearing white or beige to a wedding, and being 50. Let's face it - neither you or I, at 50+, are going to upstage the bride.

Wear some fun, colored shoes and call it a day.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s fine to wear to a wedding- that’s a bold pattern, not too much white.

I agree. I'm sick of these blanket "rules". That dress is a print, it's not solid white. And it's also cream, not stark white. That plus the large navy pattern makes it perfectly fine.

I if the colors were swapped so it was mostly navy, I would say yes. It’s mostly white. So no.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, good input.

For context, I am early 50s and have menopause weight going on - It has been very hard to find a dress that has sleeves and is forgiving to my very full bust. Any suggestions on alternatives very welcome. I like the dress I posted but will not wear it to the wedding given the gray area. For those who said it is ugly, fine, but it is hard to find dresses that fit a size 8 body and are not too youthful, have sleeves and do not show cleavage.

A high neck like the one on the dress you posted is the worst for a large bust. Try a V neck or other neck that comes to a point (like a button down, sweetheart, notch neck, etc). FWIW, size 8 is not big compared to the average American and early 50's is not necessarily time to start dressing like a grandma (unless you want to). Some ideas below.

This board is full of bored ladies would like nothing more than to find links for you. We can give much better suggestions if you tell us the wedding venue, time of year, expected weather, dress code, your personal taste, etc.

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/misook-watercolor-dress?ID=5388591&CategoryID=1005206#SLEEVE_LENGTH/3%2F4%20Sleeve

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/phase-eight-abbie-textured-dress?ID=5528936&tdp=cm_app~zBCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_G~xcm_choiceId~zcidB5RSBI-4d155b18-e5d7-4eda-b27e-2f4b2e76ad6d%40H23%40RECOMMENDED%2BFOR%2BYOU%242910%245528891~xcm_pos~zPos3~xcm_srcCatID~z2910

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/t-tahari-tiered-maxi-dress?ID=5537546&tdp=cm_app~zBCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_G~xcm_choiceId~zcidB5RSBI-dacca3f5-afdb-49c8-b064-5651f4ef267d%40H23%40RECOMMENDED%2BFOR%2BYOU%242910%245490993~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z2910

Anonymous wrote:Generally, if you have to ask...

+1

This style won't do much for you if you are self conscious about your weight as it has that thin waist. Maybe consider something with ruching.

There's a big area between appropriate for 50s and matronly. Don't dress yourself older than you are.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, good input.

For context, I am early 50s and have menopause weight going on - It has been very hard to find a dress that has sleeves and is forgiving to my very full bust. Any suggestions on alternatives very welcome. I like the dress I posted but will not wear it to the wedding given the gray area. For those who said it is ugly, fine, but it is hard to find dresses that fit a size 8 body and are not too youthful, have sleeves and do not show cleavage.

go back and search for fit and flare with long sleeves. saw several nice options!

OP here. Ok, good input.

For context, I am early 50s and have menopause weight going on - It has been very hard to find a dress that has sleeves and is forgiving to my very full bust. Any suggestions on alternatives very welcome. I like the dress I posted but will not wear it to the wedding given the gray area. For those who said it is ugly, fine, but it is hard to find dresses that fit a size 8 body and are not too youthful, have sleeves and do not show cleavage.

It's fine.

That skirt is hideous. Putting those little frills on the end completely undermines the look of it and makes it matronly.

Anonymous wrote:Beware, the new trend is for the close friends of the bride to “accidentally” spill red wine on dumb beeyoches who are selfish and stupid enough to wear white to their wedding. And good for them.

Brides should not wear white

So cute! I love it but probably not for a wedding.

I wouldn't.

Pick something else

No!