Anonymous wrote:Rather than opening the marriage or divorcing immediately for the children, did anyone have a solid revenge affair to even out the relationship?

If so, did it improve your self esteem and act as an equalizer or make you hate yourself for becoming the same person that destroyed you?

Asking for a friend…..of course!

Even out?
That’s not how it works.

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Anonymous wrote:It only works if spouse knows about it but won’t divorce because of it.

This.

You can bring it up to your spouse. Say you want to "level the playing field" and start over, but you must cuck him first and he must either watch it happen, or watch the video of it.

If he agrees to the punishment for his cheating, then you do it and see if you can both forgive each other.

If he doesn't agree to it, then you can come up with another form of punishment.

This is the best advice. My husband and I went through something similar early on in our marriage. 10 years later and our bond is stronger than ever.

I don't understand this. I could never be intimate with anyone whom I didn't genuinely appreciate. That number of men is tiny. So the probability of me meeting someone who qualifies at the exact moment I happen to learn of my spouse's affair... is vanishingly small. I prefer to make my displeasure known by living my best life. Being healthy, looking great, dressing well, going out with friends. And if in the course of this best life, I meet my future significant other, why not?

Anonymous wrote:It only works if spouse knows about it but won’t divorce because of it.

This.

You can bring it up to your spouse. Say you want to "level the playing field" and start over, but you must cuck him first and he must either watch it happen, or watch the video of it.

If he agrees to the punishment for his cheating, then you do it and see if you can both forgive each other.

If he doesn't agree to it, then you can come up with another form of punishment.

It only works if spouse knows about it but won’t divorce because of it.

Get it. Hit it and quit it.

Living in a dumpy apartment on the other side of town and having to put your kids in a crappier school ain’t worth a divorce. My only friends who say the divorce was worth it are either (1) wildly rich and suffer no economic hit or (2) the marriage was abusive and getting divorced was safer for everyone.

If the spouse is tolerable then have fun, stay safe, be discreet, and think about divorce once kids have left the nest. Most people can’t divorce without losing their lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:Have some self respect OP.

This

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Anonymous wrote:Why would I throw away my integrity just because my spouse did? Also, it would require using another person which is not my style.

I felt the same. Cheating is not in my blood. I have integrity and morals.

I thought the same thing about myself. Funny what 5 years of emotional and physical neglect will do to a person.

Then you aren’t the same. Not enough for me to ever cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would I throw away my integrity just because my spouse did? Also, it would require using another person which is not my style.

I felt the same. Cheating is not in my blood. I have integrity and morals.

I thought the same thing about myself. Funny what 5 years of emotional and physical neglect will do to a person.

Anonymous wrote:Why would I throw away my integrity just because my spouse did? Also, it would require using another person which is not my style.

I felt the same. Cheating is not in my blood. I have integrity and morals.

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Anonymous wrote:Look if you want to satisfy your ego don't waste your time. Now matter how old how ugly how fat etc you can find that one person somewhere who will be willing to accompany you for your revenge affair. Did that satisfy your ego? Don't worry if you step out you will find someone. So just save your time effort and energy for something more fulfilling.

AP was ugly and less fit, same age, no career/income. No need to revenge that. lol buh-bye!

Ha! Yes! Revenge was: go, you get that.

+1 The revenge was that they’d both be stuck with an absolute piece of sh@t.

Why would I throw away my integrity just because my spouse did? Also, it would require using another person which is not my style.

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Anonymous wrote:Look if you want to satisfy your ego don't waste your time. Now matter how old how ugly how fat etc you can find that one person somewhere who will be willing to accompany you for your revenge affair. Did that satisfy your ego? Don't worry if you step out you will find someone. So just save your time effort and energy for something more fulfilling.

AP was ugly and less fit, same age, no career/income. No need to revenge that. lol buh-bye!

Ha! Yes! Revenge was: go, you get that.

Anonymous wrote:Look if you want to satisfy your ego don't waste your time. Now matter how old how ugly how fat etc you can find that one person somewhere who will be willing to accompany you for your revenge affair. Did that satisfy your ego? Don't worry if you step out you will find someone. So just save your time effort and energy for something more fulfilling.

AP was ugly and less fit, same age, no career/income. No need to revenge that. lol buh-bye!

Do a gangbang and film it. Make sure he sees it.