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Anonymous wrote:I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

Op here- I am a single mom and I'm worried that if I gave more notice, they would tell me to just finish out two weeks and be done. My new job pays once a month on the 30th so already my next check is going to be Sept 30th and that's a long stretch for me financially without getting paid.

Did they do that to the person who gave notice last Friday? If that is a worry or something you’ve seen before at your org I understand that, you should make the best call for you. I haven’t worked at places that do that but I know there are sales places etc that walk you right out. If that is the case then I agree wait until Monday and tell her in person

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

Op here- I am a single mom and I'm worried that if I gave more notice, they would tell me to just finish out two weeks and be done. My new job pays once a month on the 30th so already my next check is going to be Sept 30th and that's a long stretch for me financially without getting paid.

Then either give 2 weeks notice on Monday when she comes back or do it today. Is she reasonable? Do not do it tomorrow before she goes away, it will cause stress. If she is reasonable then she will understand and let you're last day be x day.

You don't want someone calling her for a reference and ask about notice/how you were during the notice transition and be told you told her right before a vacation. I ALWAYS ask references about how the employee did during their transition time for leaving that role. It tells you so much. People also do backdoor references in my field (you don't put them down, but they contact them anyway/ see them at a function). Back in the day when I was young I lost out on a role because of this type of reference so I learned to always try and leave on good terms/ help as much as I can with the transition.

I would tell her today. Don't do it right before her vacation, that is cruel and she will be thinking about it during vacation. If you tell her today she has time to process and do something about it (put an ad up, talk to HR, set up next steps) before she leaves to go away.

I had someone give their notice the day before I was leaving for 12 days (and I had not taken any kind of vacation/ days off for almost a year). It was stressful on my time off because when I got back their was little time to go over transition plans and they left with things a mess.

I would have MUCH rather they told me days before I left so we could have made a plan for the transition/what was expected for them to complete before they left/etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

Op here- I am a single mom and I'm worried that if I gave more notice, they would tell me to just finish out two weeks and be done. My new job pays once a month on the 30th so already my next check is going to be Sept 30th and that's a long stretch for me financially without getting paid.

You're good. 2 weeks is standard with more people giving less notice since companies have seemed to let people go day of notice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

Op here- I am a single mom and I'm worried that if I gave more notice, they would tell me to just finish out two weeks and be done. My new job pays once a month on the 30th so already my next check is going to be Sept 30th and that's a long stretch for me financially without getting paid.

We are telling you that more than 2 weeks is preferable for most leadership to be able to replace an employee, especially if already going out of the office. Also, they are not legally required to give you 2 weeks. Tell her that your last day will be Aug X and you wanted to tell her before she was out of the office. Most reasonable people would have no issue with that.

Anonymous wrote:I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

Op here- I am a single mom and I'm worried that if I gave more notice, they would tell me to just finish out two weeks and be done. My new job pays once a month on the 30th so already my next check is going to be Sept 30th and that's a long stretch for me financially without getting paid.

Anonymous wrote:I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

Omg.

Giving notice is always stressful. Asking for advice is fine. Not everything needs a therapist.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or today.

I do have a one on one with her in an hour, but wasn't mentally prepared to do it today.

Do it. I"d want to know. And I'd want to make a plan with you to leave and you could work on that plan Wed-Fri while i'm trying my best to put that out of my mind. I have no idea what you do but I much prefer people give 3-4 weeks notice b/c it makes for a nicer transition. Also, if she has to replace two of you, she might want to rethink the roles and responsibilities and can do that on her blissful beach walk.

+1 and also to the definitely not over email. And remember that experienced bosses are used to this. While she will be sad to lose you, it is part of being in leadership and she will move forward- it’s all good. You need to do what’s right for you and she and the company/organization will be fine

I think your black and white thinking of exactly 2 weeks notice, and rigidity around not being prepared to tell her today when you have a planned meeting... should be discussed with a therapist.

I think you are vastly overestimating how much this will “ruin” her vacation. just tell her now.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or today.

I do have a one on one with her in an hour, but wasn't mentally prepared to do it today.

Do it. I"d want to know. And I'd want to make a plan with you to leave and you could work on that plan Wed-Fri while i'm trying my best to put that out of my mind. I have no idea what you do but I much prefer people give 3-4 weeks notice b/c it makes for a nicer transition. Also, if she has to replace two of you, she might want to rethink the roles and responsibilities and can do that on her blissful beach walk.

+1 It would be rude to tell her right before she leaves. Give her time to work with HR.

and don't do this via email. Ever (unless you are being abused in some way).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or today.

I do have a one on one with her in an hour, but wasn't mentally prepared to do it today.

Do it. I"d want to know. And I'd want to make a plan with you to leave and you could work on that plan Wed-Fri while i'm trying my best to put that out of my mind. I have no idea what you do but I much prefer people give 3-4 weeks notice b/c it makes for a nicer transition. Also, if she has to replace two of you, she might want to rethink the roles and responsibilities and can do that on her blissful beach walk.

Yeah honestly today is the day - I’m surprised you weren’t always planning it for your 1:1! You got this op

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Anonymous wrote:Or today.

I do have a one on one with her in an hour, but wasn't mentally prepared to do it today.

WTF it will be weird if you act like things are fine today, discussing projects, etc then come back tomorrow with your notice. Mentally prepared? Get over yourself.