Anonymous wrote:Why do you care OP? Maybe she's just trying to normalize elbow knockers. Stop staring at her body!

I honestly don't care - it was literally the first time I ever noticed this feature on her. Normally I never notice people's boobs.

Anonymous wrote:Not to hijack this and I’m not your friend but I could be, except for the dating part. I need new bras. Mine are terrible and I’m sagging bad. I’m overweight and go for comfort.

I’m also completely embarrassed at the thought of going to Trousseau. What can you expect from an appointment? How much are bras? Are they uncomfortable?

I’ve been wearing wireless cheap comfortable Amazon bras for years. Maybe your friend is like me. I think I’m a DDD.

I'm the saggy girl with the direct sil. I order a bunch from wacoal and return what doesn't work.

Not to hijack this and I’m not your friend but I could be, except for the dating part. I need new bras. Mine are terrible and I’m sagging bad. I’m overweight and go for comfort.

I’m also completely embarrassed at the thought of going to Trousseau. What can you expect from an appointment? How much are bras? Are they uncomfortable?

I’ve been wearing wireless cheap comfortable Amazon bras for years. Maybe your friend is like me. I think I’m a DDD.

Thanks for reminding me I need to buy new ones too!

I think the only way you can tell your friend is if you make the story about you and how you realized one day you needed new bras

Anonymous wrote:Go get bra fittings together.

Or recommend your great solution or store and leave it there. That's enough of a hint.

I have slumping, comfy bras and dressing up bras. She may also.

Don't hurt your friend's feelings. Any new man in her life will see things how they are naturally at some point.

Anonymous wrote:If you’re close friends, just start a conversation about bras or shopping or something and then mention that you hate bra shopping and hm just go to Nordstrom for them to fit you. And rattle on about how they are so pricey but last forever and you just get one good one, etc etc. If you’re close, she might say, oh I haven’t replaced mine in forever, at which point you say, oh really? You should treat yourself! And then maybe you guys go together if that’s not weird.

Nordstrom can't fit elbow knockers. OP, take her to Trousseau.

Why do you care OP? Maybe she's just trying to normalize elbow knockers. Stop staring at her body!

If you’re close friends, just start a conversation about bras or shopping or something and then mention that you hate bra shopping and hm just go to Nordstrom for them to fit you. And rattle on about how they are so pricey but last forever and you just get one good one, etc etc. If you’re close, she might say, oh I haven’t replaced mine in forever, at which point you say, oh really? You should treat yourself! And then maybe you guys go together if that’s not weird.

No.

Sometimes love and good intentions get lost and lead you down a dead end. Just turn around and go back.

If she is talking to you and says “I hate how my clothes fit and I’m insecure about my boobs” or something then yeah, you can give her all kinds of bra advice.

Otherwise, no. Keep it to yourself.

Some women like to be natural. I rarely wear a bra. Granted. I am a B cup. When I go out, I have people tell me that my nipples are showing through the shirt. Ok, lucky you… don’t care. Maybe she does not care.

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Anonymous wrote:If she’s just starting to date again, tell her you want to take her to Trousseau for an upgraded set of undergarments. Those ladies will fit her well and get her taken care of.

This. Make it about her dating life, not her life life. And treat her!

This

Go get bra fittings together.

+1

You might suggest doing to a Fit for the Cure event. https://www.wacoal-america.com/fit-for-the-cure?srsltid=AfmBOorQBfUT41Z0G34V6ThvzBaq6LlfvofInYPvelwWVe2On_cQyqQh Maybe other companies do something similar.

Make it seem like you need new bras and this seems like a nice way to get some and help fight breast cancer. Maybe she'd like to join you?

Um, NO, OP. She's in her fifties. It's normal to sag. You sound mean. Leave her alone.

I think the only way this might get work is as a gift, where you go shopping together, and you make it about your dating life. “Jane, I discovered this great new bra shop! Now that you’re dating again, I’d love to take you and treat you to an early bday gift. It would make me so happy!” If you’re particularly close and have some sense she’d take it okay, you could add “You like Ike’s gorgeous in that picture - but your girls kind of looked saggy! I’m kind of obsessed with perky boobs right now after figuring out what was possible for me with a good fitting bra. Please let me take you!!.” Make it about you and your bra and enthusiasm, not her, other than being an ally as she starts dating.

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Anonymous wrote:My sil did that to me the very first time I met her. She said "oh are you comfortable with your breasts like that? When I go out, I like them to be perky". I was like I'm an f - wtf?! That said I had lost 50+ lbs and my bras were stretched out. Don't do what my sil did, although I did need to hear the message. They are still close to my elbows though. Can't get rid of all the volume...

Kinda love her for her direct message.

Yeah, I guess... she basically told me my bras were good for the house but i needed new push up ones to go out in. I was definitely put off. It was the fourth day I met her on an away trip. I'm sure she was waiting from day one to say something.

Ugh. Is she horrible in general? She has to be.