Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 11:05     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have hired her back. She needs $34 an hour, so she's going to leave you to go get it. You should have said we already made alternate childcare arrangements since you said you weren't coming back, and we can't afford your new rate, but if you're interested in babysitting occasionally for date nights I know the kids would love to see you.


To be fair, we can use the additional help and we can afford the new rate. It’s more the principle of it.


Don't be cheap. Pay your nanny well!
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 10:56     Subject: Returning nanny
You’re too poor to pay her then just tell her that. She wants $34, pay it or move on.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 10:54     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she and you both need a better fit. Maybe she should invest in a cna degree to get more income. I don’t think enabling this situation for her is helping her as you think.


I don’t think it’s helpful at all. I think she needs a 40 hour a week job.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 10:25     Subject: Returning nanny
It sounds like she and you both need a better fit. Maybe she should invest in a cna degree to get more income. I don’t think enabling this situation for her is helping her as you think.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 10:21     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:Is she bringing her baby?
I’d agree to the $28 per hour to be honest.
Guarantee tbat amount each work and the hours needed. If sge wants to find another babysitting gig as well then she can do that to make up the difference.


She’s not.

Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:58     Subject: Returning nanny
Is she bringing her baby?
I’d agree to the $28 per hour to be honest.
Guarantee tbat amount each work and the hours needed. If sge wants to find another babysitting gig as well then she can do that to make up the difference.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:53     Subject: Re:Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:OP if you feel that she is trying to take advantage of you then she probably is.

And feeling this way on your end will likely breed resentment for you going forward.

There are many excellent Nannies out there who won’t ask such an exorbitant rate & I think you should begin your search for one.

I wish you all the best in this. 😃


It’s not so much that I think she is trying to purposely take advantage, but that she doesn’t want to work much since she had a baby but has unreasonable expectations on pay to subsidize the fewer working hours.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:41     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I made $25 as a nanny 25 years ago. I don’t think $34 is too high, probably a tad low actually.


$25 is standard in my area. Especially off the books.


I pay $28 for two kids in DC. $34 is very high especially for a MCOL! She’d have to have a ton of experience to warrant that.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:31     Subject: Re:Returning nanny
OP if you feel that she is trying to take advantage of you then she probably is.

And feeling this way on your end will likely breed resentment for you going forward.

There are many excellent Nannies out there who won’t ask such an exorbitant rate & I think you should begin your search for one.

I wish you all the best in this. 😃
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:26     Subject: Re:Returning nanny
Since you signed your children up for other care then you are not obligated to hire her back.

I may have misread your posting though, will she be needed in September??

Just let her know that $34/HR is beyond what you can afford (or are willing to pay her) so try to negotiate possibly $30/HR.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:24     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have hired her back. She needs $34 an hour, so she's going to leave you to go get it. You should have said we already made alternate childcare arrangements since you said you weren't coming back, and we can't afford your new rate, but if you're interested in babysitting occasionally for date nights I know the kids would love to see you.


Is she though? She’s not likely to earn this in my community. She knows my kids and the job is a known.

This is only for 13 hours a week. I’d assume if she needed more money, she’d offer more hours, no?



No, she wants time with her new baby.


Who doesn’t? I also want more time with my kids.

Am I responsible for subsidizing her time? That’s essentially what I’m doing. I will be paying well above market rate.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:23     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:You sound cheap. Do you know how hard it is to find someone you like? You want to ruin that over 60 bucks?


I do know it’s difficult to find someone good.

It’s not that I care so much about the $60, but I’m concerned I’m being taken advantage of.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:18     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:I made $25 as a nanny 25 years ago. I don’t think $34 is too high, probably a tad low actually.


$25 is standard in my area. Especially off the books.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:12     Subject: Returning nanny
I made $25 as a nanny 25 years ago. I don’t think $34 is too high, probably a tad low actually.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 09:10     Subject: Returning nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have hired her back. She needs $34 an hour, so she's going to leave you to go get it. You should have said we already made alternate childcare arrangements since you said you weren't coming back, and we can't afford your new rate, but if you're interested in babysitting occasionally for date nights I know the kids would love to see you.


Is she though? She’s not likely to earn this in my community. She knows my kids and the job is a known.

This is only for 13 hours a week. I’d assume if she needed more money, she’d offer more hours, no?



No, she wants time with her new baby.