Anonymous wrote:If people are going to make people pay for destination weddings, they should not get upset that you want to enjoy the destination. You attended the ceremony, the inbetween, and the reception. You were fine.

No one “makes” you go to a destination wedding.

If people are going to make people pay for destination weddings, they should not get upset that you want to enjoy the destination. You attended the ceremony, the inbetween, and the reception. You were fine.

I never leave before the cake is cut. After that, anything goes.

Yes, if you are the bride or groom, you should not leave early.

Depends on who you are to the bride/groom and how large the reception is.

Distant cousin at a wedding of 100+ people? No problem leaving early.

Sibling or close friend at a wedding of 30 people? You should stay.

Maybe they were not at an all-inclusive.

If you are at an all inclusive, why spend so much time on the appetizers/meal/cake?

Some people can turn a destination wedding into a mini-vacation. Others don’t have the luxury and have already spent days of their limited leave just getting there and then getting home.

I think it's a little rude because it's a destination wedding. Presumably you're there multiple days and have the opportunity to do other things then. Destination weddings tend to be smaller and more obvious you're skipping out and it's not a regulat wedding where you've got to get home to do stuff, you're just bailing early to sit on the beach, which does give the message you think their wedding and planned events kind of sucked. Wouldn't bat an eye at someone leaving to put a kid down for a nap or something but, "we hit our limit with this shindig so we are taking off to hit the bar/beach/shops" isn't a great look.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reception was like from 12-5 and still going? Wow.

I thought the etiquette rule was you could
Leave once the cake was cut

Mass was 11-1 and then1-2 was cocktails/appetizers, then lunch was served at 3. Speeches and dancing at 4.

Cake wasn’t cut yet.

11-5 is a long time, so I get it. Sounds like the afternoon was dragging on. I think it’s excusable as long as they don’t make a big deal of it. It’s especially understandable if they had kids with them.