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Anonymous wrote:Any of my long time group of friends since law school (25 plus years) and my more recent group of friends (10 years) could say that and I would not be offended in the slightest. They would be sort of joking around but also happy if I invited them. I think you are being weird. Actual close friends aren’t offended if any other friend suggests that they hang out even at the first friend’s house, etc. — they know the friend will just say no if it doesn’t work and nobody cares.

For example, I invited my friend of 25 plus years was from the west coast to the east coast with her family to stay at our beach house with us on the east coast. I invited them two years in a row. This summer will be year three. But it was actually my friend who texted me months ago and said they were working on some plans and would love to fly cross country to see us if that worked for us. I was THRILLED, not offended. If it didn’t work for us, I could have said no and she would not have been offended. To me, this is how close friendships work.

People on DCUM don’t have close friendships, that's abundantly clear on many threads like this one and others. They have transactional relationships and are socially off just trying to rinse off that Ohio stink to feel self important.

Anonymous wrote:Any of my long time group of friends since law school (25 plus years) and my more recent group of friends (10 years) could say that and I would not be offended in the slightest. They would be sort of joking around but also happy if I invited them. I think you are being weird. Actual close friends aren’t offended if any other friend suggests that they hang out even at the first friend’s house, etc. — they know the friend will just say no if it doesn’t work and nobody cares.

For example, I invited my friend of 25 plus years was from the west coast to the east coast with her family to stay at our beach house with us on the east coast. I invited them two years in a row. This summer will be year three. But it was actually my friend who texted me months ago and said they were working on some plans and would love to fly cross country to see us if that worked for us. I was THRILLED, not offended. If it didn’t work for us, I could have said no and she would not have been offended. To me, this is how close friendships work.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not seeing anything wrong with the friend. She’s happy for you, not jealous, acknowledging it is something special and wants to see it. I don’t get the reaction.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club.

Many clubs do not have minimums. Please do not assume when you go with a friend. We recently had guests with us and spent over $200 on their family. The following weekend we all went out to a casual dinner and they asked us to split the check. We did so but later I casually told her: hey when we go to the pool, there’s a guest fee of 25 per person and we pay for the food at the restaurant. Let’s be sure to split that next time.

Anonymous wrote:Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club.