Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 18:20     Subject: Cuddle theory
Girls who feel isolated and unloved seek comfort. Plenty of boys and infantile men around to offer them the wrong kind of comfort.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 18:13     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:Parents of teenagers - is there anything to the cuddle theory where if you show your baby and child massive amounts of physical affection they will not want to date and/or be sexually active as teens?

It sounds looney too me but my friend who has kids with a 10 year difference swears by it. But she's always "conducting little science experiments" and "testing out theories" on her kids as she says


That is not only nonsense, it is really weird.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 04:02     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:Teens from stable homes who feel loved and secure at home are less likely to seek out validation and connection through sex. That does not mean those teens don’t also enjoy having sex. They are having sex for different reasons and that can look pop different in terms of safe sex practices, number of partners, boundaries, etc.


Teens who come from stable homes are also much more likely to be closely supervised and in a lot of activities when younger teens. I met a lot of teen parents when I was working with kids in juvie, and the reality that no one was looking out for these kids was pretty universal.

The other sad reality is that kids who are abused as children are also likely to be sexually active younger too.

I don't think people really conceptualize what life can be like for some kids. They really are written off the second they're born.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 03:40     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know about physical affection per se, but it’s widely known that kids who feel loved. Accepted, and respected in their families don’t seek attention from others (in a romantic sense) until they are adults.


Please cite sources ma'am


Try a library.


It’s polite to give a little information on where your information came from. Especially when you write that it’s widely known. Is it just your opinion? Is it a study from long ago, a recent study, an American study.

It’s rude to say try a library.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 01:09     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know about physical affection per se, but it’s widely known that kids who feel loved. Accepted, and respected in their families don’t seek attention from others (in a romantic sense) until they are adults.


This. Physical affection, appropriate behavior and respect for someone’s boundaries will help them in their lives later. If you have been neglected, disrespected or violated you won’t learn what feels good and safe, what is only yours to protect, or how to speak up.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 00:26     Subject: Cuddle theory
I’ve actually observed the opposite - kids used to lots of physical touch seek out this in their relationships - friendships and then dating as they are comfortable in their body and also are used to seeking out that need.

You are assuming that sex and dating as a teen is a bad thing - I don’t think it is? It’s quite normal especially by 16.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 12:01     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:Parents of teenagers - is there anything to the cuddle theory where if you show your baby and child massive amounts of physical affection they will not want to date and/or be sexually active as teens?

It sounds looney too me but my friend who has kids with a 10 year difference swears by it. But she's always "conducting little science experiments" and "testing out theories" on her kids as she says[/quot

You friend us dumb
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 11:50     Subject: Cuddle theory
I feel like this is the type of thing that extreme attachment parenting believers latch onto to justify their parenting choices.

Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 11:46     Subject: Cuddle theory
This is wishful thinking. It won’t stop teens from being interested in sex. It might help have higher self esteem and help them stay away from bad relationships though. Think young women with Daddy issues.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 11:19     Subject: Cuddle theory
Teens from stable homes who feel loved and secure at home are less likely to seek out validation and connection through sex. That does not mean those teens don’t also enjoy having sex. They are having sex for different reasons and that can look pop different in terms of safe sex practices, number of partners, boundaries, etc.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 11:14     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She has anecdotal evidence, which is not a scientifically valid way to conduct experiments.

- scientist


Ms. Scientist,

Aren’t anecdotes what prompts scientists to research something?


Different PP but with a science background and trying to design a properly controlled study here would pretty much be impossible.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 11:11     Subject: Cuddle theory

Weird.
Ask your Pediatrician
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 10:34     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:She has anecdotal evidence, which is not a scientifically valid way to conduct experiments.

- scientist


Ms. Scientist,

Aren’t anecdotes what prompts scientists to research something?
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 10:31     Subject: Cuddle theory
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know about physical affection per se, but it’s widely known that kids who feel loved. Accepted, and respected in their families don’t seek attention from others (in a romantic sense) until they are adults.


This…is not true. At all.


+1 close to the dumbest thing I've read on here.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 10:30     Subject: Cuddle theory
She has anecdotal evidence, which is not a scientifically valid way to conduct experiments.

- scientist