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Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for the responses everyone. He texted his family members to give them a heads up and they don’t care. So I’m just going to try and tough it out.

I’m sorry that things are hard. But this is one of those times in marriage that you just have to put in a little more. There isn’t always a good way around that. You know that which why you assumed you’d be roasted. I just lost a parent and couldn’t imagine my husband being anything but supportive of attending things related to my parent. But he has lost a parent too and I did that when it was hard on me. DCUM would absolutely roast a husband who made it hard for a wife to attend her mother’s memorial.

I would not roast a husband who came on with the exact same story as OP. the sex of the spouse is irrelevant here.

So many of you are so gross. GI viruses are extremely contagious. If it's Covid, also very contagious and airborne. I can't imagine going camping when I thought I might be a poop time bomb or carrying Covid and infect a bunch of people who were camping. Especially not a fragile elderly person.

OP, you sound like a good parent and wife. You are considering your DH's feelings in the midst of a really hard time. Your DH sounds like a selfish person. To those talking about how you have to suck it up sometimes in life, the DH needs to suck up the FOMO to protect his extended family and help his actual family. Good Lord.

Anonymous wrote:He shouldn't go, but not because you need help -- he shouldn't go because no one wants a stomach bug. I'm sorry everything is so hard right now.

This.
Are you guys on medication? Can you have your son wear Depends for the short run, as long as there is a risk of accidents?

Sounds like a rough time for your family. I hope things turn around.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for the responses everyone. He texted his family members to give them a heads up and they don’t care. So I’m just going to try and tough it out.

I’m sorry that things are hard. But this is one of those times in marriage that you just have to put in a little more. There isn’t always a good way around that. You know that which why you assumed you’d be roasted. I just lost a parent and couldn’t imagine my husband being anything but supportive of attending things related to my parent. But he has lost a parent too and I did that when it was hard on me. DCUM would absolutely roast a husband who made it hard for a wife to attend her mother’s memorial.

The camping trip has a place to poop. Or is he going to infect a port-a-potty?

I think a memorial service for a father is extremely important. If a camping trip, sounds like social distancing is possible.

OP, your situation sounds exhausting and no fun, but I would still encourage my husband to go. Also have you talked to your son’s doctor? I worry about your kid getting dehydrated.

Your husband wants a weekend w out his sick wife and child..

OP here - thanks for the responses everyone. He texted his family members to give them a heads up and they don’t care. So I’m just going to try and tough it out.

Your husband is selfish. Not only should his sick wife and child come first but he’s now going to possibly get others sick.

Ick!

Have you lost a parent OP?

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you, 3 PPs for being kind. I appreciate it. I wish he would consider the risk of him contracting it or bringing germs with him. His mother is in a skilled nursing facility right now and is very medically fragile. The nursing facility is allowing her to go on the overnight, but a stomach virus could likely put her in the hospital.

Your husband is a pos to expose his mother .

Sorry OP you married garbage

What a horrible thing for him to do.

Someone died that person could give a crap whether he is there or not the living people are impacted here how dare he be so callous.

He should call his family members and tell them that he has a stomach virus and should he come. Tell them that he has already infected his kid and wife.

Lets see what the family members think.

Gosh, I'm worried about his poor family. Seems likely he could infect them.

I am sure he feels like he has to go, and probably he doesn’t want to but feels so much guilt. And if they are outside and he isn’t sick, it’s unlikely that he will pass anything if he doesn’t have symptoms, so that should be fine.
For you though, I’m sorry. My husband left to go to work when we all had the stomach bug, and my youngest was seven days old. I almost divorced him, lol. He felt such extreme guilt and fear about missing work now that he had all these kids to take care of, but still, it was horrible.
Put the kid in pull ups all weekend, watch so much tv and just be easy on yourself, sleep and rest and hydrate. I’m so sorry, hang in there.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard for each of you. How far away is the camping trip? Could he go for a few hours, masking and distancing, to participate, but also minimize exposure, and then return home?

+1

If it is only for one night, I assume it is not that far away? Maybe he could go for the day into evening (or whatever part is most important) and then head home. Seems fairly likely he will start to come down with it soon too. Should be pretty understandable, and still shows making a big effort.