Anonymous wrote:Take the time to mourn the end of your relationship with the man you thought your XDH was, and process your feelings in therapy if you need to. You don’t have to rush into anything new. Focus on yourself, eat well and exercise. It will get better with time.

Yes, all of this.

Self care right now is super important. Get yourself re-centered.

Reach out to supportive girlfriends, even from the past (good time to re-connect). Also, buy yourself a good quality shaky-thing when you are ready.

Take all the time you need.

Tantric massage might be an option once you are in a better emotional space. Healing your relationship to intimate touch.


Ps. Ignore the guy who finished his post with the smiley face (that was super predatory, dude)

"I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles."

I'm a divorced guy and I miss that too. We should get together. =)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Separated from serial cheater husband who was the love of my life and my first and only. Now that he moved out I feel so sad and lonely and I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles.

However the idea of being with someone else makes me want to vomit.

What to do?

Why are you thinking about being with someone else? Haven't you learned your lesson? You want to repeat the same mistake?
Men are not worth it. Find a woman. You'll feel better. Trust me.

I went down that path after my divorce but came to realize that I prefer men. I have no regrets over the experience and I will never say never. After age 70 it might be the best option.

Anonymous wrote:Separated from serial cheater husband who was the love of my life and my first and only. Now that he moved out I feel so sad and lonely and I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles.

However the idea of being with someone else makes me want to vomit.

What to do?

Why are you thinking about being with someone else? Haven't you learned your lesson? You want to repeat the same mistake?
Men are not worth it. Find a woman. You'll feel better. Trust me.

Anonymous wrote:Who is forcing you to have or want sex?

+1. If you think it’s disgusting, don’t do it. Why is this a problem?

Anonymous wrote:Who is forcing you to have or want sex?

+1

Get a divorce and give it time. In my case once my anger and disgust subsided my interest level returned. I was very lucky in that the first guy I was with was the best lover I ever had. Sadly, there were other reasons we didn’t stay together but he was the right person at the right time.

Anonymous wrote:Separated from serial cheater husband who was the love of my life and my first and only. Now that he moved out I feel so sad and lonely and I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles.

However the idea of being with someone else makes me want to vomit.

What to do?

He was clearly not loyal before marriage so you picked wrong and better be careful this time if you even want to go through the trouble again.

Anonymous wrote:Separated from serial cheater husband who was the love of my life and my first and only. Now that he moved out I feel so sad and lonely and I desperately miss hugs kisses and cuddles.

However the idea of being with someone else makes me want to vomit.

What to do?

Get a pet and live a easy life.

Who is forcing you to have or want sex?

Serial cheater implies that you have known before now that he's a cheater. Sucks and it's a massive betrayal. You need a therapist to help you figure out why you put up with this. I've done a lot of work in therapy to learn/understand why I stayed with someone who is not capable of emotional intimacy, never mind the physical stuff. It's been helpful and enlightening.

Get a pet?