Teen life is different now. Many teens want to stay home and gram. Many when they get together are on the phones. They like air-conditioning and comfort. In that environment there’s a lot of not feeling like playing basketball. There’s definitely little to no watching TV unless double-screening.

Social anxiety?

How can you help? Stop trying to force him to invite people over. He likes keeping them at a distance, and that's ok. They're school friends and he's probably embarrassed about you and/or someone else in your household.

Just here to commiserate and feels better to know my DS isn’t the only one.

He is in multiple group chats where friends suggest activities and has off season workouts that morph into social things but he never suggests. Our house is also fun. Hasn’t had a friend over in years. Hosting definitely gives him anxiety. I Hope it’s different when he has his own dorm or apt because that would be red flag for a future gf.

Anonymous wrote:What happens if you do the inviting?

That doesn’t work in high school.

Maybe if she’s friends with a specific kid’s parents she could invite the whole family over for dinner or a cookout, but that’s very different than the kid having a friend to hang out with over summer. Anything beyond that would be ridiculously awkward, and she will succeed in ending the few friendships her son may have.