Anonymous wrote:Specific link to joke book
https://a.co/d/hVrasOK

And other ideas

airplane kit
https://a.co/d/bHgnZLx

Inspirational sports book
https://a.co/d/5o1q4pb

Silly socks
https://a.co/d/9tzTgYf

Too young for a 12 year old.

I think this is very sweet but the best idea is adding a note with a memory of their dad in periodically. It’s hard to establish a relationship but I think it’s sweet you are trying.

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I got the girl a card. I think zi need a card for the boy this year. Then next year branch out to joke books, fact books, etc for both. Sound reasonable?

They have outgrown that stuff by that age.

Anonymous wrote: Don’t send clothes. They likely have enough, the kid is not going to appreciate it or remember it. They will open it and throw it in the drawers with their other clothes and outgrow it in six months.

Id give a kid joke book. Easy to mail. That’s a stocking stuffer that my kid appreciated @ that age

My kid wouldn't want a joke book at that age. They'd be thrilled for a hoodie or something else.

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I got the girl a card. I think zi need a card for the boy this year. Then next year branch out to joke books, fact books, etc for both. Sound reasonable?

Sounds great, very kind of you!

OP again. I got the girl a card. I think zi need a card for the boy this year. Then next year branch out to joke books, fact books, etc for both. Sound reasonable?

OP here. Some good card and joke ideas. Some seem a bit young. But I will keep at it.
TRUE we don't know each other. But I hadva great aunt I never met who sent me a bone china teacup and saucer every year. She was in her 80s I guess. I remember her name and have the cups.

Cards are different but I would like to have them have us in mind enough that someday we can meet. DH is estranged from his sister, their paternal grandmother.

Fact book
https://www.amazon.com/Weird-True-World-2025-wonders/dp/1426376421?

OP HERE
This is last year https://www.amazon.com/Ribbli-Basketball-Handmade-Greeting-Birthday/dp/B0811GDC3V

AND year before https://www.amazon.com/WOWPAPERART-Boy-Soccer-Player-Retirement/dp/B07VXTJ1NR

OP save your $. The kids don’t know you and a random birthday card will be tossed out.

Joke book sounds interesting. Any ideas for specific ones. They are Californian. OP

Specific link to joke book
https://a.co/d/hVrasOK

And other ideas

airplane kit
https://a.co/d/bHgnZLx

Inspirational sports book
https://a.co/d/5o1q4pb

Silly socks
https://a.co/d/9tzTgYf

Don’t send clothes. They likely have enough, the kid is not going to appreciate it or remember it. They will open it and throw it in the drawers with their other clothes and outgrow it in six months.

Id give a kid joke book. Easy to mail. That’s a stocking stuffer that my kid appreciated @ that age

Here are two possibilities:

https://www.freshcutpaper.com/products/birthday-pug-pop-up-card

https://www.amazon.com/MOROLURU-Birthday-Decorations-Daughter-Granddaughter/dp/B0DT6ZLJZV/ref=asc_df_B0DT6ZLJZV?mcid=97809ad38722344786572d99ef064767&hvocijid=13698726630844127087-B0DT6ZLJZV-&hvexpln=73&tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=721245378154&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13698726630844127087&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016823&hvtargid=pla-2281435177578&psc=1

Get Black Gold color variant for a boy

It's right in the title. They want to send a very fancy $10 card. The parents won't let them send gift cards. Agree with the PP who said get him one that makes a lot of silly noise. At the drug store. You'll have to test them out which is embarrassing.