Anonymous wrote:You can do either…but you could also attend the pool party and not swim. Lots of people will probably be just hanging out by the side of the pool talking.

I go to lots of pool parties, wear a cute sundress or shorts, and never do more than dip my toes in the water, if that.

I always accept the invitation by saying that I am not a swimmer, but would love to hang out with everyone.

No one blinks an eye. In fact, very few adults actually get into the water. The only ones who do are the random women who drink too much at these kind of things, or parents who have little kids in tow at the family friendly parties.

Lol holy moly Americans are super weird about their bodies. Enjoy the pool what the hell?

Unless your boss and coworkers are in their 20's, it's unlikely anyone will even put on a bathing suit except for kids. Wear a kaftan or sundress and you should be safe from the swimming thing.

Anonymous wrote:A manager of mine has a pool. He's offered to hosta company pool party on Labor Day. I declined the initial invitation because... I don't want to go swimming with my co workers. But there were too many conflicts with others, so he moved it to the preceding weekend. Do I just decline again or wait until the day of and claim illness?

Just make up another excuse - family or illness is best paths