Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone is toxic in their own unique way.
The ones who deny that are the ones you speak of.
This 100%. To all the PPs for instance, just listen to yourselves. None of you sound like them most gracious people in the world. Workplaces in particular bring out the worst in people. I work for a woman who was a strong supervisor and a major advocate for all her direct reports. Then she was overlooked for a well-deserved promotion in favor of a far less-qualified man, and she became more like the OP described. Many would now describe her as "toxic," but what about the "toxic" situation that put her there? I try to just separate people from their work lives and give most people grace.
Perfect example of toxic person blame
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone is toxic in their own unique way.
The ones who deny that are the ones you speak of.
This is an excellent example of a toxic person, and a toxic mindset. No OP I would say most often they don't because they lack true self awareness, and see everyone esles as the propblem and/or learn just enough therapy speak to be manipulative
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone is toxic in their own unique way.
The ones who deny that are the ones you speak of.
This 100%. To all the PPs for instance, just listen to yourselves. None of you sound like them most gracious people in the world. Workplaces in particular bring out the worst in people. I work for a woman who was a strong supervisor and a major advocate for all her direct reports. Then she was overlooked for a well-deserved promotion in favor of a far less-qualified man, and she became more like the OP described. Many would now describe her as "toxic," but what about the "toxic" situation that put her there? I try to just separate people from their work lives and give most people grace.
Anonymous wrote:They are not aware they are toxic. When problems arise from their behavior, they easily blame others for them. Also, people like this often have a little cohort of people who have latched onto them and will support even their worst behavior. It's really interesting, but there are a lot of broken people in the world and this dynamic is bizarrely common. those hangers-on will happily tell the toxic person that she is the best and that anyone who doesn't like her is a hater, and in return the toxic person will reward them by treating them better than other people, so they enjoy an elevated position.
Anonymous wrote:If she’s so awful, why isn’t she fired?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone is toxic in their own unique way.
The ones who deny that are the ones you speak of.
This 100%. To all the PPs for instance, just listen to yourselves. None of you sound like them most gracious people in the world. Workplaces in particular bring out the worst in people. I work for a woman who was a strong supervisor and a major advocate for all her direct reports. Then she was overlooked for a well-deserved promotion in favor of a far less-qualified man, and she became more like the OP described. Many would now describe her as "toxic," but what about the "toxic" situation that put her there? I try to just separate people from their work lives and give most people grace.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My mother is toxic af. Criticizes other women’s bodies to the point of making them cry while saying it’s because she’s a nurse and cares about their health (she has not worked as a nurse for 40 years). She complains about not having enough money despite living in a mansion close-in and yet makes fun of people for living in exurbs. She attends church weekly and identifies as a superior Christian, yet does not exhibit any of the grace, humility or generosity that Christians should aspire to. She makes any family event, whether a wedding or a funeral, all about her and has to be the star of the show.
Sister, is that you?
PP, I feel for you. Similar mother, I am nearly certain she has narcissistic personality disorder--not the social media portrayal of it-but the real thing.