Do you work? It's definitely time to get your ducks in a row op. He's over it and either cheating again or it's imminent.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s not ok. He’s being a jerk. Set your boundaries and be firm. Model self respect and self advocating for your kids. They are learning from the two of you.

+1.
So you sit queit while your DH says these things in front of your kids? Come on OP!

The older one sort of cocked her head and looked at me wide eyed when he said that. I didn’t want to get into a whole thing in front of the kids.

How will they learn that it's not okay for him to talk to you like that if you don't " get into a whole thing " in front of them? They are watching and learning.

Plan your divorce. He’s probably cheating again and or wants out of the marriage.

Don’t sit back and be his punching bag though.Absolutely not.

Call him out on his rude comments.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s not ok. He’s being a jerk. Set your boundaries and be firm. Model self respect and self advocating for your kids. They are learning from the two of you.

+1.
So you sit queit while your DH says these things in front of your kids? Come on OP!

The older one sort of cocked her head and looked at me wide eyed when he said that. I didn’t want to get into a whole thing in front of the kids.

OP, don't be his doormat. You accepted his actions and he is treating you accordingly. He doesn't respect you at this point, demand better for yourself.

I agree on grey rocking him. Do your thing. Treat him with civility, but that's it. This will either bring him around or convince you that you are better off without him. Maybe both.

Time for you to make very quiet plans to get out. Act normal and neutral and get your ducks in a row.

Anonymous wrote:He's insulting you and this is POST "emotional" affair? He should be kissing up to you. This relationship sounds over.

There was a period after I caught him that he was super lovey-dovey but only lasted a month or two.

He's cheating (again). It's a very common first sign.

Anonymous wrote:That’s not ok. He’s being a jerk. Set your boundaries and be firm. Model self respect and self advocating for your kids. They are learning from the two of you.

+1.
So you sit queit while your DH says these things in front of your kids? Come on OP!

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Anonymous wrote:Hes cheating on you and needs to make you the bad guy in his mind.

I didn’t want to cloud my first post with this information but I suppose it is really important.
He had a year and a half long emotional affair, it was all online but they would tell each other I love you. That ended and things have been improving but there’s still something really wrong here.

He wishes his life was different, indulges in escapism, and blames you for his unhappiness.

He does replay the past where he says he made a compromise but if he stayed the course he would be wealthy/successful/happy/whatever.
His options are currently wide open but he sees everything like he missed the train and is just stuck in this life, he’s not stuck he can do whatever he wants with my full support.
We aren’t rich but we have a really nice life, healthy children and a nice home.

Anonymous wrote:Do you want to be with him? Do you love him? Have kids with him? Rely on him for financial support?

When he’s being affectionate and not angry everything is great, when he’s like this I never want to see him again. I can feel so optimistic about us and happy then he has some sort of outburst like this and everything just runs out of my body.
I am the breadwinner, if we split up we would both have a major downgrade in circumstances.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hes cheating on you and needs to make you the bad guy in his mind.

I didn’t want to cloud my first post with this information but I suppose it is really important.
He had a year and a half long emotional affair, it was all online but they would tell each other I love you. That ended and things have been improving but there’s still something really wrong here.

He wishes his life was different, indulges in escapism, and blames you for his unhappiness.

He's insulting you and this is POST "emotional" affair? He should be kissing up to you. This relationship sounds over.

Do you want to be with him? Do you love him? Have kids with him? Rely on him for financial support?