Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 19:49     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:"You won't know a person's intentions, male or female, until after the first few dates."

Good luck with that approach.


Well if you want to be extra pessimistic and philosophical, then I suppose you'd agree that you never really truly know someone's intentions.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 19:30     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
"You won't know a person's intentions, male or female, until after the first few dates."

Good luck with that approach.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 18:21     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, if you aren't screening for those seeking a LTR, you're unlikely to get anything but men interested in a ONS. They quality will be really low too. You probably wouldn't want to be seen out in public with them. Or they'll be married or want a poly situation.


You won't know a person's intentions, male or female, until after the first few dates.

Most people who say they are looking for LTR, are lying and want to hookup.

Same as most people who say "I don't do hookups" are the ones who will hookup with anyone.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 18:03     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Unfortunately, if you aren't screening for those seeking a LTR, you're unlikely to get anything but men interested in a ONS. They quality will be really low too. You probably wouldn't want to be seen out in public with them. Or they'll be married or want a poly situation.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 17:57     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NP with a quick question that it not worth opening a new thread. I’m new to the online dating. After the first date, when do you expect a man to invite you on a second date, if he is interested? I met someone on Saturday, and when we said goodbye, he suggested to meet again for a certain activity, but since then, hasn’t proposed a specific date. We exchanged some messages on the app yesterday, but he didn’t bring up the subject of meeting again. Does it mean that he is not interested? Should I unmatch him or send a message explicitly asking if he is interested in meeting again and if he isn’t, then no hard feelings and ok to unmatch? I like him but don’t want to invest any energy into thinking about him, if he isn’t interested.


Just ask. Worst that happens is you get turned down and no other date from him.

Good way to plan in the future is plan ahead, and if a date goes well, make plans to do some light get-together before you say goodnight at the first date.

"I really enjoyed meeting you! Let's get together this____ and do ______, or if you are busy that day/time, then when would be good for you?

Good to know! In how many days after the first date do you normally have the second one?
I plan to ask him later tonight if he doesn’t reach out by then.


Eh, within a week is good standard. 2-3 days perhaps. Just depends on each other's schedules and what you are doing, where going, etc.

But yes take some initiative and ask. Many women feel shy or entitled and expect the man to always make the moves and plans, but it should be more balanced.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 17:23     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its all the same people.

If you dont meet in person within a week of chatting online, it will never happen.

First meeting should be coffee/drinks, dont lock in for a whole meal event until youve met in real life and establiahed interest in a second date.

Have low expectations.

Assume they are seeing other women.



Ridiculous. Like there aren't new people constantly joining the app.

Like saying if you don't get a bite the first 5 min of fishing in the ocean, you will never get a bite. Fish move around.


This poster said that if you don't meet in person fairly quickly, you are dealing with someone who just wants to chat/text endlessly and not actually bother to make a plan to meet, which is generally true. It doesn't say that if you don't meet your match in a week, you never will. It says don't waste your time messaging with someone for 3 weeks.


Yeah, oops! I read it wrong, but couldn't delete my post afterwards. Was just hoping nobody would notice. Dangit!


NP
It’s very understandable you made a mistake. But reread your message. Saying “ridiculous” seemed unnecessarily blunt. it’s fine but just a lesson on b even tho you respond anonymously, you could be nicer because just like you made a mistake. The other person probably could’ve made a mistake in their thinking as well.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 17:15     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NP with a quick question that it not worth opening a new thread. I’m new to the online dating. After the first date, when do you expect a man to invite you on a second date, if he is interested? I met someone on Saturday, and when we said goodbye, he suggested to meet again for a certain activity, but since then, hasn’t proposed a specific date. We exchanged some messages on the app yesterday, but he didn’t bring up the subject of meeting again. Does it mean that he is not interested? Should I unmatch him or send a message explicitly asking if he is interested in meeting again and if he isn’t, then no hard feelings and ok to unmatch? I like him but don’t want to invest any energy into thinking about him, if he isn’t interested.


Just ask. Worst that happens is you get turned down and no other date from him.

Good way to plan in the future is plan ahead, and if a date goes well, make plans to do some light get-together before you say goodnight at the first date.

"I really enjoyed meeting you! Let's get together this____ and do ______, or if you are busy that day/time, then when would be good for you?

Good to know! In how many days after the first date do you normally have the second one?
I plan to ask him later tonight if he doesn’t reach out by then.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 17:12     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:NP with a quick question that it not worth opening a new thread. I’m new to the online dating. After the first date, when do you expect a man to invite you on a second date, if he is interested? I met someone on Saturday, and when we said goodbye, he suggested to meet again for a certain activity, but since then, hasn’t proposed a specific date. We exchanged some messages on the app yesterday, but he didn’t bring up the subject of meeting again. Does it mean that he is not interested? Should I unmatch him or send a message explicitly asking if he is interested in meeting again and if he isn’t, then no hard feelings and ok to unmatch? I like him but don’t want to invest any energy into thinking about him, if he isn’t interested.


Just ask. Worst that happens is you get turned down and no other date from him.

Good way to plan in the future is plan ahead, and if a date goes well, make plans to do some light get-together before you say goodnight at the first date.

"I really enjoyed meeting you! Let's get together this____ and do ______, or if you are busy that day/time, then when would be good for you?
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 16:08     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
NP with a quick question that it not worth opening a new thread. I’m new to the online dating. After the first date, when do you expect a man to invite you on a second date, if he is interested? I met someone on Saturday, and when we said goodbye, he suggested to meet again for a certain activity, but since then, hasn’t proposed a specific date. We exchanged some messages on the app yesterday, but he didn’t bring up the subject of meeting again. Does it mean that he is not interested? Should I unmatch him or send a message explicitly asking if he is interested in meeting again and if he isn’t, then no hard feelings and ok to unmatch? I like him but don’t want to invest any energy into thinking about him, if he isn’t interested.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 19:00     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its all the same people.

If you dont meet in person within a week of chatting online, it will never happen.

First meeting should be coffee/drinks, dont lock in for a whole meal event until youve met in real life and establiahed interest in a second date.

Have low expectations.

Assume they are seeing other women.



Ridiculous. Like there aren't new people constantly joining the app.

Like saying if you don't get a bite the first 5 min of fishing in the ocean, you will never get a bite. Fish move around.


This poster said that if you don't meet in person fairly quickly, you are dealing with someone who just wants to chat/text endlessly and not actually bother to make a plan to meet, which is generally true. It doesn't say that if you don't meet your match in a week, you never will. It says don't waste your time messaging with someone for 3 weeks.


Yeah, oops! I read it wrong, but couldn't delete my post afterwards. Was just hoping nobody would notice. Dangit!


Haha!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 18:50     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its all the same people.

If you dont meet in person within a week of chatting online, it will never happen.

First meeting should be coffee/drinks, dont lock in for a whole meal event until youve met in real life and establiahed interest in a second date.

Have low expectations.

Assume they are seeing other women.



Ridiculous. Like there aren't new people constantly joining the app.

Like saying if you don't get a bite the first 5 min of fishing in the ocean, you will never get a bite. Fish move around.


This poster said that if you don't meet in person fairly quickly, you are dealing with someone who just wants to chat/text endlessly and not actually bother to make a plan to meet, which is generally true. It doesn't say that if you don't meet your match in a week, you never will. It says don't waste your time messaging with someone for 3 weeks.


Yeah, oops! I read it wrong, but couldn't delete my post afterwards. Was just hoping nobody would notice. Dangit!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2025 18:30     Subject: Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Its all the same people.

If you dont meet in person within a week of chatting online, it will never happen.

First meeting should be coffee/drinks, dont lock in for a whole meal event until youve met in real life and establiahed interest in a second date.

Have low expectations.

Assume they are seeing other women.



Ridiculous. Like there aren't new people constantly joining the app.

Like saying if you don't get a bite the first 5 min of fishing in the ocean, you will never get a bite. Fish move around.


This poster said that if you don't meet in person fairly quickly, you are dealing with someone who just wants to chat/text endlessly and not actually bother to make a plan to meet, which is generally true. It doesn't say that if you don't meet your match in a week, you never will. It says don't waste your time messaging with someone for 3 weeks.