Just a gift grab. You weren’t invited to the wedding so definitely don’t owe them a wedding gift. Someone can’t have a party a year later and expect wedding presents, that’s insane.

Honestly I’d try to avoid the whole thing. I’m sure you won’t be the only one.

Acquaintances: $75
Friends: $100
Good Friends: $150
Best Friends: $200
Family members: $250+

Adjust amounts based on what you can afford. Nobody expects you to go broke over a wedding gift.

Give more than you would at what you consider "a traditional ceremony." This is an honorable couple doing one of life's hardest things . . . Being a caregiver to your parents. Kudos to the couple.

Anonymous wrote:Op again. I have never actually given cash, it’s always been a registry.

15 years ago everyone was on TheKnot. Registered at Macy’s and Target. I’m a bit unsure of cash territory.

FFS give a Visa gift card and shaddap.

Anonymous wrote:I’d probably do a gift card to a restaurant near them. $100-$250 depending on your budget.

No. A restaurant gift card is a birthday present, not a wedding present. Not to mention they probably need real money way more than they need a single night out.

A nice fat check. Honestly, they saved themselves and their family a ton of money by having a low-key wedding, and they are also sacrificing their privacy to care for the parents and their home. Now they are blessed with a child, which is beautiful. With the way you tell the story, I have nothing but praise and zero criticisms.
Also, don't forget to give something at the upcoming baby shower.

I’d probably do a gift card to a restaurant near them. $100-$250 depending on your budget.

Anonymous wrote:A nice card.

You werent invited to the wedding. Why would you give a wedding gift?

I don’t understand this viewpoint. No one was invited to the wedding ceremony so OP was not excluded. They are hosting a reception now, and have invited OP. A gift is not ever required of course- but it would certainly be customary here.

I’d give $ or a gift card in the same amount that I would give for a regular wedding. Personally.

Unlike others, I don’t see it as a gift grab (absent other information) or look at this in a negative light. It sounds like they have a lot of responsibilities on their plates, and probably not much $, so the eloping was probably the responsible thing to do. Now they are throwing a party to celebrate. Great!

Anonymous wrote:It's a gift grab - just give them what they want and stuff some cash in a card.

This. How tacky.

Anonymous wrote:I'd give a $100 gift card from amazon, target, or where ever they can use it to get stuff for them or the baby. Or, maybe $75 and another $50 for the abby depending on how close you are.

Amazon is a good, versatile choice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again. I have never actually given cash, it’s always been a registry.

15 years ago everyone was on TheKnot. Registered at Macy’s and Target. I’m a bit unsure of cash territory.

Lots of people give checks. Don't worry about it. Agree on $250.

My people never do cash but if there's no registry agree on a check and $250 is about right.

I'd give a $100 gift card from amazon, target, or where ever they can use it to get stuff for them or the baby. Or, maybe $75 and another $50 for the abby depending on how close you are.

Anonymous wrote:Op again. I have never actually given cash, it’s always been a registry.

15 years ago everyone was on TheKnot. Registered at Macy’s and Target. I’m a bit unsure of cash territory.

I was married 15 years ago this fall in DC. Didn’t get a single gift on my wedding day- checks only. I did get lots of gifts at my shower though!

Anonymous wrote:Op again. I have never actually given cash, it’s always been a registry.

15 years ago everyone was on TheKnot. Registered at Macy’s and Target. I’m a bit unsure of cash territory.

Lots of people give checks. Don't worry about it. Agree on $250.