Anonymous
Post 07/09/2025 08:03     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
Anonymous wrote:So we have a part time caregiver for our one kid. Her job is relatively easy, after school until 7. Our kid has structured activities so the job doesn't require a lot of interaction with our kid.

She is guaranteed a minimum number of hours per week (20)
We pay her for the 2 weeks per year we are on vacation.

She is now asking for a raise and another paid week off for vacation. When I explained that she already gets 2 weeks off paid, she said it's our vacation - not hers and she needs another week that she gets to choose, paid by us.

I'm thinking that's a lot for a part time employee - 3 weeks paid time off per year. Am I being unreasonable?


Whether or not you think her job is "easy" is not relevant. What matters is the value that she is providing and the market for an alternative provider. Can you find another part-time nanny to work from 2-7 who will not ask for a raise or extra time off? Then hire that person.

I do always roll my eyes when people describe a job they are paying someone for as easy or when people emphasize how easy their kids are. That just downplays the work of caregiving
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 13:32     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
I don't give our nanny any additional paid time off because we travel 4-5 weeks a year, and we still pay her for that time, and let her know well in advance so she can plan her travel accordingly. If she takes off a day here and there for sickness or a special family event, we just let it go. If she wants to go out of the country for 3 weeks in a way that disrupts our schedule and I have to hire other help, I don't pay her (I mention this because it happened once).
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 12:35     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
Completely unreasonable on your part. Our PT nanny has guaranteed hours. Our vacation isn't even really counted into her PTO. She knows we take 2-3 weeks off and she's paid no matter what. She gets 10 days PTO of her choosing and 10 sick days. I think she's only ever used 2 sick days and she's always worked with us on taking her PTO. We treat her well and in return she's worked with us for years and has been flexible with us when a couple things have cropped up.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 12:29     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
What if your boss told you when you are allowed to use your pto?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 14:17     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
It is very difficult to find someone to work from 4 to 7 who is reliable.

I’d give her the third week off paid and give her a raise.

Don’t you and your husband get a raise each year?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 12:27     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
Yes you are being unreasonable. You need to pay her 52 weeks out of the year and yes one week should be of her choosing.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 12:26     Subject: Am I out of line? Question about Nanny benefits
Anonymous wrote:Give her the third week unpaid


and watch her find another job and drop OP in a hot second.