Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 17:29     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You could pay a photographer to take pics for a couple hundred bucks


If they look too good, people will think they are fake (scammers).


Yep, that's a thing also.

Casual pics are best. No other girls or especially men in the pics, or you will get passed by OP.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 12:35     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My very attractive divorced friend who only wants casual gave up on online. When she's in the mood, she just walks into a bar. Over time, she's come to prefer them young. Easier to control is her rational after some bad experiences. So college bars. Sometimes hotel bars. She never sees them again.


Women have now reclaimed the "going young" trend post divorce long dominated by men. Bravo!


I'm a divorced man in his 50s. I live close to downtown and like to do stuff in the city. I find most women in their 50s are a little too suburban and domestic for me. They don't enjoy the city lifestyle the way I do. But every once in a while I come across a 50 something woman's profile that seems like a lifestyle match. One woman and I texted a bit. She'd been in a punk band when she was younger. Then she got a PhD in clinical psychology and became a therapist. We made plans to meet for coffee but then she cancelled because she was sick. A few days later I went to my favorite coffee shop, alone, and saw her on a date with a guy in his 30s. At first I thought he was her son but then I noticed she was eyeing him in a sexual way, touching her hair in a flirty way, and just giving off the vibe of a woman who thinks a date is going really well. At that moment I thought "now I know how all those angry 50 year old women feel about guys my age dating younger women." I felt a little deflated. But good for her! (I think she lives near me because I also saw her on another date, with an attractive woman--she said she dated men and women.)


It's a phase that's all. Younger men can make older women feel more desirable. It's as simple as that. These women know this is temporary. A 60 years old woman is not going to have a bunch of 30 years old men running after.

There is also an element of control at play. An older woman is probably accomplished and has a lot going for herself. It's attractive. A young man can be attracted to that.


It's not love. It's romance. It's fun. They are just enjoying life. They are not delusional that these men are going to introduce them to their family to marry them. It's a transaction that benefits everyone. The woman gets amazing sex. The guy gets amazing sex as well from a woman who is liberated and most importantly a stress free relationship. She is not going be jealous. She is not going to text him 10 times a day wondering where he is who he is with why he didn't pick up his phone etc.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 12:20     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My very attractive divorced friend who only wants casual gave up on online. When she's in the mood, she just walks into a bar. Over time, she's come to prefer them young. Easier to control is her rational after some bad experiences. So college bars. Sometimes hotel bars. She never sees them again.


Women have now reclaimed the "going young" trend post divorce long dominated by men. Bravo!


I'm a divorced man in his 50s. I live close to downtown and like to do stuff in the city. I find most women in their 50s are a little too suburban and domestic for me. They don't enjoy the city lifestyle the way I do. But every once in a while I come across a 50 something woman's profile that seems like a lifestyle match. One woman and I texted a bit. She'd been in a punk band when she was younger. Then she got a PhD in clinical psychology and became a therapist. We made plans to meet for coffee but then she cancelled because she was sick. A few days later I went to my favorite coffee shop, alone, and saw her on a date with a guy in his 30s. At first I thought he was her son but then I noticed she was eyeing him in a sexual way, touching her hair in a flirty way, and just giving off the vibe of a woman who thinks a date is going really well. At that moment I thought "now I know how all those angry 50 year old women feel about guys my age dating younger women." I felt a little deflated. But good for her! (I think she lives near me because I also saw her on another date, with an attractive woman--she said she dated men and women.)
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 11:01     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:How do you blur out other people's faces in group photos?


Google it...geez
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 11:00     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:My very attractive divorced friend who only wants casual gave up on online. When she's in the mood, she just walks into a bar. Over time, she's come to prefer them young. Easier to control is her rational after some bad experiences. So college bars. Sometimes hotel bars. She never sees them again.


Women have now reclaimed the "going young" trend post divorce long dominated by men. Bravo!
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 10:58     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Sometimes I wonder if women come here just to brag. I have never seen a single woman who struggled to attract men on old regardless of how she looks.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2025 10:55     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
How do you blur out other people's faces in group photos?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 19:26     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
My very attractive divorced friend who only wants casual gave up on online. When she's in the mood, she just walks into a bar. Over time, she's come to prefer them young. Easier to control is her rational after some bad experiences. So college bars. Sometimes hotel bars. She never sees them again.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 19:12     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people have a pic with others. It shows you’re not a loner and you have social connections.

Use google draw or something to indicate who you are with an arrow etc. or use the caption (“like my silly hat?”)


It’s an iron law that the profile person is always, always the least attractive one in the friend group photo. When it’s the first photo I never fail guessing who’s profile it is.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 18:51     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people have a pic with others. It shows you’re not a loner and you have social connections.

Use google draw or something to indicate who you are with an arrow etc. or use the caption (“like my silly hat?”)


Do NOT put your unsuspecting friends or strangers in your photos. If you can’t get around it, at a minimum blur out faces. Plus it is confusing to try and discern who you are supposed to be looking at when there are multiple people.

Go out to a park or something with a tripod and use the Portrait Mode on your phone and the timer and take a billion pictures. Do it around the golden hour and several of them are bound to work out. You don’t want all selfies. As other people have said, make sure to get full body shots as well as head shots.


Forgot to mention, for the love of god, do not over use filters or heaven forbid do the stupid cartoon bunny ears or faces. Keep it real. No one likes a face tuned AI bot or to be catfished.

And good luck! I met the love of my life on Hinge, but had a ton of fun playing that field post divorce but before I met him.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 18:47     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people have a pic with others. It shows you’re not a loner and you have social connections.

Use google draw or something to indicate who you are with an arrow etc. or use the caption (“like my silly hat?”)


Do NOT put your unsuspecting friends or strangers in your photos. If you can’t get around it, at a minimum blur out faces. Plus it is confusing to try and discern who you are supposed to be looking at when there are multiple people.

Go out to a park or something with a tripod and use the Portrait Mode on your phone and the timer and take a billion pictures. Do it around the golden hour and several of them are bound to work out. You don’t want all selfies. As other people have said, make sure to get full body shots as well as head shots.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 18:42     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:Don't hire a professional photographer. You will look like a desperate striver. Take some selfies, and just FYI, lighting is everything. Then submit to photofeeler for feedback.
Gracias. No I don't need photos that look like a high school senior's photoshoot, that I didn't do for my own kids because, no. Checking out photofeeler!
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 18:15     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Don't hire a professional photographer. You will look like a desperate striver. Take some selfies, and just FYI, lighting is everything. Then submit to photofeeler for feedback.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 13:37     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people have a pic with others. It shows you’re not a loner and you have social connections.

Use google draw or something to indicate who you are with an arrow etc. or use the caption (“like my silly hat?”)


No
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2025 13:35     Subject: Dating profile photos help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just learn to use a timer on your camera on your phone and take some pictures. Ask ChatGPT about it.
Oh good idea! I did that a few months ago for my passport photo. It turned into quite a production but my photo was finally accepted after two dozen attempts...


Lol. PP here. My DH just went through this while submitting a passport renewal app last week -- we kept taking pictures that followed the guidelines, but they kept getting rejected.