« I have to work all day and then work at night to prep for the next day. »

Do not make any effort for such entitled, rude people, OP, and insist that you need to work.

I would 100% let my spouse handle this on their own. If your spouse will not handle it and expects you to do it, well then (let's say it together friends): you have a spouse problem, not an in-law problem.

I assume you're husband will be spending time with them? Just tell them it's bad timing for you, and tell them about your work stuff.

Anonymous wrote:1. My in laws are being unreasonable.

2. Yes, they are, but MINE are worse. Tell them to go straight to hell.

We can close the thread now.

Weird take. I found the prior posts to be empathizing with OP, not trying to tell her she didn't have it so bad.

1. My in laws are being unreasonable.

2. Yes, they are, but MINE are worse. Tell them to go straight to hell.

We can close the thread now.

Anonymous wrote:Thankfully they are your husband’s parents, so I’m sure they are happy to see him. If the issue if your husband is pissed he has to entertain them alone, that’s a husband problem.

This.

I used to be extremely accommodating to my in-laws until one time they showed up unannounced around 2 pm and then chastised me for not having welcomed them by 5 pm, when I had been working all afternoon (I work from home). After that I told my husband it was on him to deal with them.

This sounds delightful, I love having an excuse to lean in when my in laws visit!

The worst for us was that year when offices were all still remote but everyone was vaccinated and traveling. DH was so happy when his office opened in person ad hoc and optional. Whenever MIL came into town, he just had to go in everyday.

She did not understand WFH. She thinks she can pop her head in anytime, whatever call we are on we can just call back to chit chat later, and there’s no problem with us spending half the day running errands for and with her because she heard on Fox that working from home is just goofing off. She also doesn’t understand kids school punctuality counts, kid activities and basically doing anything where the kids’ needs are placed above hers. After all, she never put any of her children’s needs above hers, why would we? She’s not mean she’s just hopelessly, cluelessly and unapologetically self centered.

“This is a busy work week for me, sorry I can’t spend much time with you. Hope you have a great time with Brad, I’m sure the son you raised will take great care of you!”