Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 16:40     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Great this works for you.

However, why does your girlfriend need to be a part of any communication between you and your ex wife?

Are you and your ex wife not able to communicate as two civil adults?

Especially now that your kids are adults? Why are the two of you even communicating??

Shame on all three of you.

You sir for not being able to establish boundaries with your ex wife

Your ex wife for crossing boundaries and
Your girlfriend for getting into the middle of your baggage -- EWWW





OP here. Thanks for all the helpful responses, especially the affirmations.

To this PP, how do you know I’m a “sir”? I never identified myself as a man.

As to establishing boundaries, it’s a pretty pretty hard when your ex is a sometimes-dry-drunk alcoholic-BPD-rageaholic.


Sir/Ma’am - do better.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 15:42     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Great this works for you.

However, why does your girlfriend need to be a part of any communication between you and your ex wife?

Are you and your ex wife not able to communicate as two civil adults?

Especially now that your kids are adults? Why are the two of you even communicating??

Shame on all three of you.

You sir for not being able to establish boundaries with your ex wife

Your ex wife for crossing boundaries and
Your girlfriend for getting into the middle of your baggage -- EWWW





OP here. Thanks for all the helpful responses, especially the affirmations.

To this PP, how do you know I’m a “sir”? I never identified myself as a man.

As to establishing boundaries, it’s a pretty pretty hard when your ex is an sometimes-dry-drunk alcoholic-BPD-rageaholic.

Yeah, but your current gf is controlling and jealous/insecure/doesn't trust you. You have poor boundaries. Work on yourself.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 15:37     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:
Great this works for you.

However, why does your girlfriend need to be a part of any communication between you and your ex wife?

Are you and your ex wife not able to communicate as two civil adults?

Especially now that your kids are adults? Why are the two of you even communicating??

Shame on all three of you.

You sir for not being able to establish boundaries with your ex wife

Your ex wife for crossing boundaries and
Your girlfriend for getting into the middle of your baggage -- EWWW





OP here. Thanks for all the helpful responses, especially the affirmations.

To this PP, how do you know I’m a “sir”? I never identified myself as a man.

As to establishing boundaries, it’s a pretty pretty hard when your ex is an sometimes-dry-drunk alcoholic-BPD-rageaholic.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 15:14     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)

Great this works for you.

However, why does your girlfriend need to be a part of any communication between you and your ex wife?

Are you and your ex wife not able to communicate as two civil adults?

Especially now that your kids are adults? Why are the two of you even communicating??

Shame on all three of you.

You sir for not being able to establish boundaries with your ex wife

Your ex wife for crossing boundaries and
Your girlfriend for getting into the middle of your baggage -- EWWW



Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:53     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Weird, I have zero interest in nasty emails from my husband's ex. He deals with it as a grown up.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:48     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
As others have said, what are you communicating about? My parents got divorced when I was in my 20s and really never needed to communicate other than for the divorce. They probably haven’t spoken for at least a decade at this point.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:30     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Should like you have an issue selecting partners.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:18     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Sounds like a win-win~!
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:15     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Another manbaby who needs women to do everything for him.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:06     Subject: Re:My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
It's kind of wild that your gf screens email from your ex. I wouldn't be comfortable with that situation at all. Is your girlfriend controlling and/or jealous?
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 13:25     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)

I don't understand why anyone past 50 with grown children would call their partner a girlfriend. She isn't a girl nor just a friend. She is your partner or significant other.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 13:21     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:So your girlfriend’s your secretary?


No. Parole officer.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 13:20     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:GF isn't exactly a neutral party.


This^.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 13:19     Subject: My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t want to completely block my ex because we share grown children, but so many of her missives are boundary-crossing or just nasty and unnecessary and unhelpful. So now for months everything goes to a new email address that I don’t access, and my gf reads them before sharing them with me if there is something important or helpful. I provide responses when needed.

It’s a big relief, and also reassures my gf that I’m not carrying on with my ex behind her back, but I feel a little guilty about this arrangement.

Is there a better way to handle this?


If she was only your ex then may be but you share children with her so be a grown up and handle it yourself.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 13:16     Subject: Re:My gf screens all emails from my ex (divorced)
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are my ex. I’ve never sent inappropriate messages, though.
We always got along. His gf won’t let him read messages or talk on phone with me or his own children. Or see any of us.
It’s spelled the end of his relationship with his kids, but I guess that’s her aim.


This sounds like a totally different situation?