Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 20:07     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 19:56     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 19:50     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous wrote:Why an ivory white dress for engagement photos?
Oh well.
Hooker heels like in the photo.

Slingback sandals are hooker heels? What in the victorian-era nonsense?
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 18:41     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Engagement photos are so, ick.
I like the one QEII did with Philip. A nice dress, simple pose. That photo and all the ones released by the family was required by their position. I'm sure they would have rather kept everything private if it wasn't for their status.
All this posing for photos is some sort of aping the bridal magazines which are selling dresses in a fantasy setup. These are magazine ads. In real life no one is hiking up a mountain in a $700 dollar bathing suit clutching a Gucci bag.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 18:36     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

I posted this note it comes in lots of colors including yellow, pinks, blues, even green
https://dessy.com/p/bridesmaid-dresses/dessy-collection/3140/
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 18:24     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

It also might be nice to wear different colors for your photos. Just a thought.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 18:22     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous wrote:Try this one https://dessy.com/p/bridesmaid-dresses/dessy-collection/3140/


This a lovely dress.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 16:53     Subject: Re:Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Love the dress and love most of the shoes suggested.

I kind of think a color would be better, but I do think the ivory is beautiful. So, if you like it, wear it!

One thing to consider--will any pictures be taken on grass? You would not want spike heels for that.

Also, while I love the gold block heel sanidals --the straps with the tea length dress might now work well if you are on the heavy side--as am I. I think the tea length looks better with simple pumps--and agree a bright color might be good. I do think a simple block heel sandal could work, though. But, I'd keep straps away from ankle area. What about peep toes?
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 15:07     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

I'm a PP who posted about colorful heels earlier. I actually like the dress and like that it's sort of "bridal lite."

Not the same, but I'm Indian-American and wore a red sari (very ornate) for my wedding. I wanted my engagement pix to feel somewhat "on theme" so I wore a red dress but much more casual (cotton / summery vibe) that I also looked and felt great in. So I can see your overall vibe here
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 15:02     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

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Anonymous wrote:I like the idea of really bright colorful heels, maybe multi-colored and shiny. Adds a little kick since this is engagement pic and not actual wedding.


+1. I prefer engagement photos that don’t read like “wedding lite”


This^.


X1000. It’s almost like ruining the wedding impact when wedding light attire is used. I’m really surprised op is going with a long white dress for engagement photos. Maybe not in my circle, but most engagement photos I see don’t take that track. They are casual or night on the town fun.


Maybe I’ve been poisoned by social media because I see a lot of brides wearing white bridal outfits throughout their “bridal era.” For the engagement shoot, engagement party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, etc. I thought it was what you were supposed to wear.

I figured since the dress is tea length and doesn’t have much in common with my wedding dress (scoop neck, 3D floral lace bodice, full organza a line skirt) it wouldn’t change the impact on the wedding day but now I’m rethinking.

I do want to wear a fairly formal dress to match the historic hotel where the shoot will be.

If anyone has non-white outfit suggestions, I’m all ears. I still have time to find something else. This is the hotel: https://ashlandspringshotel.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Architectual-Digest.pdf


The very idea of a “bridal era” makes me think you are fairly young- in your 20s? If so, live your Pinterest/TikTok/Insta dreams. If you’re any older, please pop the bubble and find your own personality. You can celebrate however you want. There is no “look” these events are supposed to have.


Thanks for your input. I’m actually a geriatric bride at 34! But I work in social media marketing so better or for worse I pick up the lingo and notice the trends, and sometimes even want to participate. I don’t live in a bubble, have plenty of my own personality, but the algorithms work as designed so I just assumed it was common and even traditional for brides to wear white outfits throughout their engagement for wedding and bridal events like an engagement shoot. I don’t come from a big family or prominent social circle—I haven’t even attended a wedding or adjacent event since I was 13– so I simply don’t have a frame of reference besides what is pushed to me via social media.

I like the dress and feel good in it, but I’m also not very fashion-minded and would be open to something else.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:42     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I like the idea of really bright colorful heels, maybe multi-colored and shiny. Adds a little kick since this is engagement pic and not actual wedding.


+1. I prefer engagement photos that don’t read like “wedding lite”


This^.


X1000. It’s almost like ruining the wedding impact when wedding light attire is used. I’m really surprised op is going with a long white dress for engagement photos. Maybe not in my circle, but most engagement photos I see don’t take that track. They are casual or night on the town fun.


Maybe I’ve been poisoned by social media because I see a lot of brides wearing white bridal outfits throughout their “bridal era.” For the engagement shoot, engagement party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, etc. I thought it was what you were supposed to wear.

I figured since the dress is tea length and doesn’t have much in common with my wedding dress (scoop neck, 3D floral lace bodice, full organza a line skirt) it wouldn’t change the impact on the wedding day but now I’m rethinking.

I do want to wear a fairly formal dress to match the historic hotel where the shoot will be.

If anyone has non-white outfit suggestions, I’m all ears. I still have time to find something else. This is the hotel: https://ashlandspringshotel.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Architectual-Digest.pdf


Gorgeous location, op! Love the warmth and light in those photos.

Consider the dress pp shared and ask your photographer if they had some color suggestions based on the yellow glow. Then you could go from there if you want.

If you stick with white, I agree a great colorful heel, or the gold/white linked and some more casual jewelry.

Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:36     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:33     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I like the idea of really bright colorful heels, maybe multi-colored and shiny. Adds a little kick since this is engagement pic and not actual wedding.


+1. I prefer engagement photos that don’t read like “wedding lite”


This^.


X1000. It’s almost like ruining the wedding impact when wedding light attire is used. I’m really surprised op is going with a long white dress for engagement photos. Maybe not in my circle, but most engagement photos I see don’t take that track. They are casual or night on the town fun.


Maybe I’ve been poisoned by social media because I see a lot of brides wearing white bridal outfits throughout their “bridal era.” For the engagement shoot, engagement party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, etc. I thought it was what you were supposed to wear.

I figured since the dress is tea length and doesn’t have much in common with my wedding dress (scoop neck, 3D floral lace bodice, full organza a line skirt) it wouldn’t change the impact on the wedding day but now I’m rethinking.

I do want to wear a fairly formal dress to match the historic hotel where the shoot will be.

If anyone has non-white outfit suggestions, I’m all ears. I still have time to find something else. This is the hotel: https://ashlandspringshotel.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Architectual-Digest.pdf


The very idea of a “bridal era” makes me think you are fairly young- in your 20s? If so, live your Pinterest/TikTok/Insta dreams. If you’re any older, please pop the bubble and find your own personality. You can celebrate however you want. There is no “look” these events are supposed to have.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:31     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Get it in navy or nude.
It's beautiful but get a color. Light or dark depending on what looks good and stands out in the venue.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2025 14:31     Subject: Shoes to wear for engagement photos

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I like the idea of really bright colorful heels, maybe multi-colored and shiny. Adds a little kick since this is engagement pic and not actual wedding.


+1. I prefer engagement photos that don’t read like “wedding lite”


This^.


X1000. It’s almost like ruining the wedding impact when wedding light attire is used. I’m really surprised op is going with a long white dress for engagement photos. Maybe not in my circle, but most engagement photos I see don’t take that track. They are casual or night on the town fun.


Maybe I’ve been poisoned by social media because I see a lot of brides wearing white bridal outfits throughout their “bridal era.” For the engagement shoot, engagement party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, etc. I thought it was what you were supposed to wear.

I figured since the dress is tea length and doesn’t have much in common with my wedding dress (scoop neck, 3D floral lace bodice, full organza a line skirt) it wouldn’t change the impact on the wedding day but now I’m rethinking.

I do want to wear a fairly formal dress to match the historic hotel where the shoot will be.

If anyone has non-white outfit suggestions, I’m all ears. I still have time to find something else. This is the hotel: https://ashlandspringshotel.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Architectual-Digest.pdf


To add—I am plus size and frequently take a size 16, 18, and 16W.