One day I pretty much just woke up and decided I hated my husband. Within a year I was separated and less than two years later I was divorced.

A couple years after that I realized I didn’t hate my husband, but rather I hated men in general. My husband’s only failing was that he is a man. I didn’t realize that until we were divorced.

Then I realized I hated my sons too, because they were now getting into their teens and they would also become men one day. So I’ve drifted farther away from them emotionally and they spend more time with their father and his new wife.

I’m more miserable than I’ve ever thought a person could be.

As a 57 yr woman I think I get what you are saying op. The world loves to hate on mom, all the people in our lives are the “victims” of us! Look at the responses you have gotten so far, certainly you can’t feel this way because the world has decided we are everyone’s problem and we get treated that way. We never do enough and heaven forbid we get fed up. Must be menopause, must be you. How about elder care expectations that we aren’t meeting even though we bust our butt to do so. Children we doted on, society calls them “adult children” who now can’t take responsibility for their lives so take it out on us while passive dad as usual, gets a pass. I feel you op, I see you! I’m also tired of busting *ss to be told I’m the worst thing ever. And all you hater women, brace yourself, your turn is coming. Should have shown some love and compassion, maybe then we’d have some left for you.

Agree with other PPs that if you wake up and feel like everyone around you is a problem, then the real problem is you. You're seeing the world through the wrong lenses, so everyone seems bad and distorted. Time to practice some self care

Anonymous wrote:I’m 58 and I woke up this morning feeling this way-
-Parents who look like they will never die -87 &90
- two adult kids, boy that’s a dunce, daughter spoiled brat.
- A Brother, I haven’t spoken to in years. He doesn’t care about his mother.
- A spouse self absorbed.

I just want out.

I don’t get the parents comment. I would love if my parents were in great health at that age. Bodes well for you as well.

Anonymous wrote:It’s menopause and the lack of estrogen. I used to be the type of person that had a ton of friends and got along with everybody. After menopause, I started looking around and being like “what the hell.”

I had to start rethinking my friendships because I kinda like collected a bunch of misfit toys.

Anyway. It might be a midlife crisis also so you might’ve thought things were gonna turn out differently.. the problem, isn’t how they turn out. The problem was your expectation of how things were gonna turn out.

The world’s pretty shitty right now

Hahah omg I so relate to this! Why are we so afraid to approach the normal people!?

Briefly, I married into a family where the great-grandfather abandoned his entire life. The official line is that he was upset by being served a dish he disliked. He got up from the dinner table and walked out to never be seen again. Left behind a wife, six kids, and a business. It’s assumed that he started over somewhere under a fake name.

Sometimes, before I filed for divorce, I understood why he really did it. They are exhausting people.

No

Anonymous wrote:I got divorced and lost my relationship with my parents because XH made up a bunch of blatant lies and they believed him! But after some therapy I realized that I actually don’t like them and feel much freer.

My kids are my favorite people and so I don’t relate to that part. I hope I never feel that way.

Your parents sided with your spouse? wtf? Even if you were at a fault and they disagreed with your behavior- most would stand by.

Something is fishy.

I thing I decided this around the 1st grade, maybe even kindergarten.

Yes, for sure. Menopause doesn’t help.

It’s menopause and the lack of estrogen. I used to be the type of person that had a ton of friends and got along with everybody. After menopause, I started looking around and being like “what the hell.”

I had to start rethinking my friendships because I kinda like collected a bunch of misfit toys.

Anyway. It might be a midlife crisis also so you might’ve thought things were gonna turn out differently.. the problem, isn’t how they turn out. The problem was your expectation of how things were gonna turn out.

The world’s pretty shitty right now

i have terrible PMDD and before my period i have these ugly irrational thoughts. This sounds like a mental health issue.

No. Sometimes I am fed up with people, but nothing extreme.