Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 18:11     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:What about for a DMV boy heading to an SEC school? Any tips to get into a top frat?


He won't. But he needs to be open to any of them.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 18:04     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!


I had a good enough time in my sorority but, damn, there is ZERO chance I would do any of this. I thought it was somewhat superficial in the 90's but this is . . . . not ok.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 18:01     Subject: Rush coach
I’m from the NE but lived in the south for a bit when my kids were in middle/high school.

It’s just a different world. An entirely different culture. And Greek life is a BIG deal to them. Moms start prepping their girls for rush in 9th grade and steer them away from any college known to have an especially messed up rush reputation.

If your kid wants to rush an SEC school and you don’t have southern UMC/wealthy relatives who are nice and want to help, I understand why people would pay for help if they can afford it.

They dress differently than we do and they all wear the same things. Conforming is important though nothing will make up for the fact that you don’t know people in the houses.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 17:35     Subject: Rush coach
I wish there was a shock collar that would go off everytime someone made a rude comment about how someone else chooses to live their life or the choices they make.

Zap. Zap. Zap.

Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 17:06     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:The mother of my daughter’s friend is paying almost $3,000 for a rush coach. ???!!!

Will be a freshman at a Southern school. For the love of God….


The only thing that bothers me about this situation is that you’re so judgmental about how other people choose to live.

I hope you did not share your outrage (???!!!) with your DD. It would be sad if you were raising her to judge and mock her friends’ choices when they differ from hers.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 16:10     Subject: Rush coach
I feel like I judge
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 16:08     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!


This sounds super stressful and over the top. Glad my DD has expressed no interest in Greek life.


Can you break this down to us like we are 3yrs old? Or otherwise repost this using full sentences that non-rush people can understand? Please. Not trying to be funny. DD is interested in Alabama but I don't know what you're saying.


PP here. What don't you understand? Did you read the PP's recommendations? If you are fine with creating a persona to gain access to a friend group, then go for it. My DD is more interested in meeting friends at school in a more organic manner. She's crossed all schools with dominant Greek life off the list. You might want to watch that documentary about Alabama Greek Life. I think it's called Bama Rush. If after that you and your daughter feel compelled to pursue, by all means, go for it.


DD just wants to meet people organically but also understands that at a school like 'Bama she might need to join a sorority. She doesn't want to create anything or stress but wants to have a good experience. You are being judgy and I am looking for non-judgemental advice. I didn't understand that list of recommendation so I want that PP to break it down in simpler terms.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 16:04     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!


This sounds super stressful and over the top. Glad my DD has expressed no interest in Greek life.


Can you break this down to us like we are 3yrs old? Or otherwise repost this using full sentences that non-rush people can understand? Please. Not trying to be funny. DD is interested in Alabama but I don't know what you're saying.


PP here. What don't you understand? Did you read the PP's recommendations? If you are fine with creating a persona to gain access to a friend group, then go for it. My DD is more interested in meeting friends at school in a more organic manner. She's crossed all schools with dominant Greek life off the list. You might want to watch that documentary about Alabama Greek Life. I think it's called Bama Rush. If after that you and your daughter feel compelled to pursue, by all means, go for it.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:56     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:And then there was a response explaining why someone would use to answer OP question and. followed up with offers of assistance


+ 1
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:30     Subject: Rush coach
OP, its not a waste of money if your DD genuinely cares about rushing and she's already going to be in unfamiliar territory.

There are little quirks and oddities during rush that might seem unusual to a student from a family with no experience in greek life. As with standardized tests, you can prepare on your own or enlist assistance from more organized professionals.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:25     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. A lot of moms who didn’t rush want to understand the process and there are many nasties who want to gatekeep. I will list some information in case this is helpful. Nice people feel free to add if you are coming from a good place.

1. Recommendations from alumni don’t hold much weight anymore and even less if they don’t know your kid well.

2. Caveat if rec is from an super active alumni who goes to the conventions etc but this is fairly hard to find.

3. Recs from current students helps but do not rely. Some schools do not allow
any recommendations but go ahead and get rush chair email and send if your want and they keep a file.

4. What does help if knowing girls in the house and this is the biggest thing. How do you scale that mountain?? See if girls from the area are in said house. Look to see if you know girls in common and see if someone can introduce. My daughter is always open to helping girls. She gets the stress and so do most other sorority girls. They are nicer than you may believe.

5. Start following instagram of girls you may know and follow the intragram of all the houses. Do not put in comments but you can like a nice photo. Commenting is too try hard.

6. Before following on instagram get your instagram in order. Lots of friends photos. Nothing crazy and have a few friends look over for their opinion. You are communicating that you are fun and nice and don’t look like you will be a problem ie the drunk girl.

7. In a perfect world you are able to grab a coffee with some girls before rush starts. Keep in mind that getting to know new classmates is a huge bonus as they may know girls in the houses.

8. Organize your rush gear. Get a rush bag (scout/longchamps etc)to put your heels and make up. You will walk house to house in sneakers or do not try to do rush in heels because you will have blisters day one.
-white sun dress
-cute jean shorts
-black cocktail
above is a definite
-also add other cocktail depending on colors for even but it will be short and stylish but not over the top
jewelry-ask mom if you can borrow a few things or buy fakes hint most of the jewelry is fake but needs to look good so one nice price and a few fakes will do
-figure out the make up in hot weather now. Help your daughter and take her to get it done professionally so she knows how to do it. Nothing worse than looking clownish.

If you are totally clueless then by all means get a rush consultant because they may have a bunch of new alumni who can help with introductions but guessing you can really get this done on your own.

Good luck! I loved greek life and my kids love(d) it as well!!


I had a wonderful sorority experience, but it was ages ago at a school that was much more casual about rush.

So thank you for this! I’m not sure whether my DD will decide to rush, but I genuinely appreciate your advice. Thanks for being so open and specific.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:17     Subject: Rush coach
And then there was a response explaining why someone would use to answer OP question and. followed up with offers of assistance
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:17     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's my question:

What's up with the posters who are chiming in either to bash Greek life or to say that their kid has no interest in rushing? If that's the your truth or how you feel, why post at all? This isn't a thread for you.

It's like me posting on a thread about a certain private school as a public school parent to say private schools suck. Not relevant, helpful or remotely necessary.


Read the OP again. She started this thread to discuss how insane this is, not for tips. So actually, this isn’t a thread for you.


Yea, you're right, I misread.

So my next question is: why do you all care what somebody else's mother does with her money?
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:13     Subject: Rush coach
Anonymous wrote:Here's my question:

What's up with the posters who are chiming in either to bash Greek life or to say that their kid has no interest in rushing? If that's the your truth or how you feel, why post at all? This isn't a thread for you.

It's like me posting on a thread about a certain private school as a public school parent to say private schools suck. Not relevant, helpful or remotely necessary.


Read the OP again. She started this thread to discuss how insane this is, not for tips. So actually, this isn’t a thread for you.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2025 15:10     Subject: Rush coach
Here's my question:

What's up with the posters who are chiming in either to bash Greek life or to say that their kid has no interest in rushing? If that's the your truth or how you feel, why post at all? This isn't a thread for you.

It's like me posting on a thread about a certain private school as a public school parent to say private schools suck. Not relevant, helpful or remotely necessary.