Anonymous
06/10/2025 14:54
Subject: Think DW hates me
She doesn’t like you and is more than likely cheating.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 19:23
Subject: Re:Think DW hates me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Too little too late? Maybe she thinks you could have worked it out sooner. Waiting until the last minute adds stress.
She probably got used to the idea of being with her side of the family and then you threw in the last minute plot twist.
Let it go.
This would have been it for me. I would have been irritated that DH picked his work thing over my parents 50th wedding anniversary, but I would make peace with it.
Why would you expect him to care at all about your parents 50th anniversary? Getting an oil change is probably more important to him than that.
I guess I would expect him to care about going on a trip with me and the kids, being part of our extended family, etc.
If he doesn’t care, then he doesn’t care. I can deal with that.
I’m a little baffled about why he’s surprised that his wife doesn’t care to have him on this trip. Didn’t he make it clear that their family is less important to him than an oil change?
Anonymous
06/09/2025 15:23
Subject: Re:Think DW hates me
Have you tried doing the Wild Thing since she got back? That is your barometer of how she feels about you. If you get rejected routinely and only get occasional pity sex then yeah she hates you.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 15:20
Subject: Re:Think DW hates me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Too little too late? Maybe she thinks you could have worked it out sooner. Waiting until the last minute adds stress.
She probably got used to the idea of being with her side of the family and then you threw in the last minute plot twist.
Let it go.
This would have been it for me. I would have been irritated that DH picked his work thing over my parents 50th wedding anniversary, but I would make peace with it.
Why would you expect him to care at all about your parents 50th anniversary? Getting an oil change is probably more important to him than that.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 15:15
Subject: Think DW hates me
I get along better with my family when DH isn't around. Maybe that is the reason.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 15:00
Subject: Re:Think DW hates me
Anonymous wrote:Too little too late? Maybe she thinks you could have worked it out sooner. Waiting until the last minute adds stress.
She probably got used to the idea of being with her side of the family and then you threw in the last minute plot twist.
Let it go.
This would have been it for me. I would have been irritated that DH picked his work thing over my parents 50th wedding anniversary, but I would make peace with it.
I have told DH that we are can either be fine with him not being around or we can really want and need him around. It’s not really reasonable to ask me and the kids to flip flop between the two whenever it suits his schedule.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 11:52
Subject: Think DW hates me
Cruises charge per person. So maybe last minute addition wasn't possible, and/or she didn't want her parents to pay for it.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 11:34
Subject: Re:Think DW hates me
Listen bro, take the win and a couple of days off from work. If you typically corral the kids on vacation, let her experience it fully without you. She may love you more when she returns!
Anonymous
06/09/2025 10:32
Subject: Think DW hates me
Couple of options:
1) on cruises, there could be a physical/bed space in her room but not "space" on the cruise because they go by lifeboat capacity. So if there are enough rooms on the cruise with 3-4 bodies already booked, they can't add you.
2) she was told there's no room, by the cruise line or her brother, and believed them, and realized when she got to the room you could have fit. Then she came back and told you "I think you could have fit!" and you bizarrely took this as her rubbing your face in the fact you weren't there.
3) she didn't want to go through the hassle of trying to change all the reservations (flights too) two weeks out, and just wen with the path of least resistance. Did you offer to handle it, or just tell her to add you into the plans?
1) on cruises, there could be a physical/bed space in her room but not "space" on the cruise because they go by lifeboat capacity. So if there are enough rooms on the cruise with 3-4 bodies already booked, they can't add you.
2) she was told there's no room, by the cruise line or her brother, and believed them, and realized when she got to the room you could have fit. Then she came back and told you "I think you could have fit!" and you bizarrely took this as her rubbing your face in the fact you weren't there.
3) she didn't want to go through the hassle of trying to change all the reservations (flights too) two weeks out, and just wen with the path of least resistance. Did you offer to handle it, or just tell her to add you into the plans?
Anonymous
06/09/2025 10:26
Subject: Think DW hates me
Anonymous wrote:Why can't she have a break from you? I need a break from you just after reading this.
this.
Anonymous
06/09/2025 09:46
Subject: Think DW hates me
Anonymous wrote:Leaping to “she hates me” seems remarkably melodramatic and childish. Even if she wanted a week without you, which is unclear, why would that mean she hates you?
Yeah. I wanted to respond that his wife at least owed him a better response about checking with the company/etc, but the drama in the subject indicates he’s got something else going on
Anonymous
06/09/2025 07:58
Subject: Think DW hates me
Do you normally pull stuff like this? Maybe she wasn’t going to let your flakiness bother her. And didn’t feel like accommodating your last minute change of heart. Was there really a work conflict or did you exaggerate to preserve an out?
Anonymous
06/09/2025 07:11
Subject: Think DW hates me
Anonymous wrote:DW just got back from a week long cruise to celebrate her parents’ 50th anniversary.
She went with our 3 kids, her brother and his family, plus the in laws.
I had a work conflict when the cruise was booked. DW booked 2 rooms for her and the kids plus paid half of my in-laws’ suite.
My work conflict cleared 2 weeks before the cruise which I let my wife know immediately to see if I could join.
DW let me know before the cruise that there were no extra rooms and there wasn’t space to add me to one of the rooms. So I stayed home and went to work as usual and binge watched movies.
She just told me her brother got these really small rooms that only had space for 2 people apiece but the rooms she booked could have accommodated a 3rd person.
I’m left with the thought that my wife really did not want me to go. Odd to me because I usually spend all vacation time dealing with the kids. Money would not have been an issue either.
So does she hate me or is there another explanation?
she has a vagina. you will never get the real explanation from her.