I couldn’t follow the op but omg you have way too much time to waste.

I followed and I think you're overthinking. Don't make life hard right for the people who love you just bc you're getting married.

The only reason to go to Colombia is to whore it up. That country is sketchy AF for a group guys; it makes Mexico looks like Disneyland.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting married next month and my bachelorette is the end of the month. My finance’s bachelor party is the same weekend, and he’s potentially going to Colombia.

I called her on FaceTime and her male cousin grabbed the phone. The first thing he said was, “Can I go to Colombia? I heard that he may be going and it’s a competition, so now you all are going out of the country too? I heard that you guys can’t go because your friend is blocking”. In the midst of this I heard my friend say stop and called him a $hit starter.

After he gives her the phone she said he’s always trying to start stuff. She said earlier he asked what she did yesterday and she told him nothing. He asked what she did on Friday and she said nothing, just stayed in the house. She told him that she was glad because she’s had so much to do each weekend the last few months and the next thing in the bachelorette, so was happy for the down time. FYI, my bridal shower was last weekend. He was confused and thought it was the bachelorette last weekend. She corrected him and said no, it was last weekend and the bachelorette is the end of the month because my fiancé and I are having ours are the same weekend. He then asked her what we had planned. She told him we were going to NYC and that he was going to Colombia but didn’t think he was going out. That at one point, after hearing he was going there, that they (the bridesmaids) had planned to go to DR instead but another bridesmaid couldn’t because she’s in another wedding so it wasn’t feasible.

After she explained how this came up she said that she told him to stop because she didn’t want me to know that they had planned these other potential plans outside of the country. She said even though she didn’t think I would really care she didn’t want me to think, “oh dang that would’ve been nice it we could’ve gone”.

I feel like she’s been talking behind my back and this was an inappropriate conversation to have?

Wut

Sorry English is not native language. I’ve tried to clean it up below:

I’m getting married next month. My bachelorette is the end of the month in NYC . My finance’s bachelor party is the same weekend, and he’s potentially going to Colombia.

I called my best friend on FaceTime and her male cousin grabbed the phone. The first thing he said was, “Can I go to Colombia? I heard that may be your fiancé is going and it’s a competition, so now you all are going out of the country too? But I heard that you all can’t go out of the county because one of your friend is blocking”. In the midst of this I heard my best friend say stop and called him a $hit starter.

After he gives her the phone back she said he’s always trying to start stuff. She tried to give the backstory of why her cousin said that. She said earlier he asked what she did yesterday and she told him nothing. He also asked what she did on Friday and again she said nothing, just stayed in the house. She told him that she was glad because she’s had so much to do each weekend the last few months. The next thing she has going on is the bachelorette, so was happy for the down time. He was confused and thought it was the bachelorette last weekend (my bridal shower was last weekend). She corrected him and said no, it was last weekend and the bachelorette is the end of the month because my fiancé and I are having our getaways the same weekend. He then asked her what we had planned. She told him we were going to NYC and that he was going to Colombia but didn’t think he was really going. That at one point, after hearing he was going there, that they (the bridesmaids) had planned to for us to go to DR instead (I wasn’t privy to this) but another bridesmaid couldn’t go because she’s in another wedding so it wasn’t feasible, so they stuck with the NYC plans.

After she explained how this came up, she said that she told her cousin to stop because she didn’t want me to know that they had tried to plan my bachelorette outside of the country. She said even though she didn’t think I would really care she didn’t want me to think, “oh dang that would’ve been nice if we could’ve gone” and potentially disappointed.

I feel like she’s been talking behind my back and this was an inappropriate conversation to have, especially about why the other bridesmaid couldn’t go to DR and what my fiancé is doing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's also not talking behind your back to talk about other people like the one who nixed DR (thankfully) or the apparent non secret where the bachelor party is.

You may mean you are being left out of the loop or in the dark but if it's a surprise let it be. Jerky cousin is troublemaker.

This all sounds very LMC.

LMC? Nope. This sounds low-IQ.

They go hand-in-glove.

Willing to bet this low-IQ trash lives in flyover country.

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting married next month and my bachelorette is the end of the month. My finance’s bachelor party is the same weekend, and he’s potentially going to Colombia.

I called her on FaceTime and her male cousin grabbed the phone. The first thing he said was, “Can I go to Colombia? I heard that he may be going and it’s a competition, so now you all are going out of the country too? I heard that you guys can’t go because your friend is blocking”. In the midst of this I heard my friend say stop and called him a $hit starter.

After he gives her the phone she said he’s always trying to start stuff. She said earlier he asked what she did yesterday and she told him nothing. He asked what she did on Friday and she said nothing, just stayed in the house. She told him that she was glad because she’s had so much to do each weekend the last few months and the next thing in the bachelorette, so was happy for the down time. FYI, my bridal shower was last weekend. He was confused and thought it was the bachelorette last weekend. She corrected him and said no, it was last weekend and the bachelorette is the end of the month because my fiancé and I are having ours are the same weekend. He then asked her what we had planned. She told him we were going to NYC and that he was going to Colombia but didn’t think he was going out. That at one point, after hearing he was going there, that they (the bridesmaids) had planned to go to DR instead but another bridesmaid couldn’t because she’s in another wedding so it wasn’t feasible.

After she explained how this came up she said that she told him to stop because she didn’t want me to know that they had planned these other potential plans outside of the country. She said even though she didn’t think I would really care she didn’t want me to think, “oh dang that would’ve been nice it we could’ve gone”.

I feel like she’s been talking behind my back and this was an inappropriate conversation to have?

Wut

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Work on your writing. What you wrote is incomprehensible.

Sorry English is not my first language.

OP, even if the writing isn’t clear, the drama is evident. If you are friends with people who are “always starting something” or who need to make everything a competition, that must be an exhausting way to live. Do not get married. Instead, go to a therapist. If you can’t afford one, ask whether they have a sliding scale. Some insurance programs also let you go to therapy online for free. My insurance offers LiveHealthOnline, but there are many companies. I have found that the virtual therapists who have lots of openings tend to be duds. The good ones will have one client drop, and they’ll immediately get scooped by another. If you don’t connect with your therapist, you can always book your next appointment with someone else. Best of luck to you.

Anonymous wrote:Work on your writing. What you wrote is incomprehensible.

Sorry English is not my first language.

Work on your writing. What you wrote is incomprehensible.

Anonymous wrote:
This is messy. Ewww

How is it messy?

That's not "behind your back", that's just talking.

Freak. Why are you on a mommy site?

This is messy. Ewww

I feel dumber after reading part of this thread.

Anonymous wrote:You're cool with your fiance cheating on you in Colombia? Because that's the only reason to go to Colombia.

Well, now that the coke trade has been quashed. Good hiking, though.

OP, as others have noted, your post makes you sound 14. If you are over 14, I suggest you re-read it and ask yourself what ever made you think you were ready to get married. You barely sound ready to go to the prom.

You're cool with your fiance cheating on you in Colombia? Because that's the only reason to go to Colombia.