Anonymous wrote:My child has multiple food allergies and we always bring food, never expect someone else to accommodate. Honestly, I would not trust someone else’s efforts to accommodate because you don’t know how careful you have to be about cross contamination unless you have lived it. I have never minded bringing her food.

I do mind if the host parents obsess about it or feel overly sad. I know it is well intentioned, but it does no one any good to repeatedly ask, “what about this, can you eat this?” and then express disappointment when the answer is no. It’s awkward for the kid and can coerce the wrong kid into eating something she shouldn’t.