Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 18:44     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Couple things, I misspoke. He isn’t the benecficiary of my trust, my kid is. He is the executor.

I asked him about the other night. He said, of course I want to marry you. He said he didn’t want to say much until I took the lead on how to tell my kid. He was extremely apologetic and said I will marry you tomorrow, or when you set the date. He is all in. I feel better.


Ridiculous. He's totally bs'ing you. Don't believe him. Huge red flag. Be very wary of him. He seems childish.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 18:43     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's future faking and immature. Huge turn off.


+1


+1000000
Cow/milk etc.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 18:38     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:Of course you bring it up! Why wouldn't you? It reflects his true feelings. Maybe he's wondering why you're not bringing it up, and feeling mighty stupid. And no, you should not have told your mother right away.



Sorry, just saw your update. Congratulations!
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 18:37     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Of course you bring it up! Why wouldn't you? It reflects his true feelings. Maybe he's wondering why you're not bringing it up, and feeling mighty stupid. And no, you should not have told your mother right away.

Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 18:32     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Couple things, I misspoke. He isn’t the benecficiary of my trust, my kid is. He is the executor.

I asked him about the other night. He said, of course I want to marry you. He said he didn’t want to say much until I took the lead on how to tell my kid. He was extremely apologetic and said I will marry you tomorrow, or when you set the date. He is all in. I feel better.


Oh, I have happy tears for you OP! This is so wonderful! Congratulations!
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 18:28     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Couple things, I misspoke. He isn’t the benecficiary of my trust, my kid is. He is the executor.

I asked him about the other night. He said, of course I want to marry you. He said he didn’t want to say much until I took the lead on how to tell my kid. He was extremely apologetic and said I will marry you tomorrow, or when you set the date. He is all in. I feel better.


Awwww.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 17:58     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:If you can't bring this up as a topic of conversation you shouldn't even be living together, much less get married.


X1000 this is such a red flag.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 17:55     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Congratulations!
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 17:06     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
OP here. Couple things, I misspoke. He isn’t the benecficiary of my trust, my kid is. He is the executor.

I asked him about the other night. He said, of course I want to marry you. He said he didn’t want to say much until I took the lead on how to tell my kid. He was extremely apologetic and said I will marry you tomorrow, or when you set the date. He is all in. I feel better.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 16:04     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. He was not sober, but not so drunk he could not have a detailed conversation about planning a wedding
Ok so you have to be direct with him. "The other night you said you wanted to get married. Now you're avoiding the topic entirely. We need to talk about this."


PP has given you the correct approach. Be calm when raising it. Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 16:01     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:He's future faking and immature. Huge turn off.


+1
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 15:50     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
He's future faking and immature. Huge turn off.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 15:46     Subject: Re:Marriage proposal, for real?
If he doesn’t take your talking about this seriously then that is a red flag. And make your kid your benificiary!
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 15:39     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. It isn’t that even care about being married. It is that he asked and expressed so many things and now is silent and when I raise to he blows me off. That is what I really a problem. If he hadn’t said anything, we would have just continued a very comfortable little family life. He he threw a rose and now a wrench.


You need to tell him this, almost very exactly. That you were fine, but then he upended it all, and now he wants to go on like it didn't happen. But now you are NOT fine. The conversation will tell you quite a bit.

Also, I'd make your daughter the beneficiary of your trust.


THIS. +100

WTF OP making your boyfriend the beneficiary of what sounds like a substantial trust? Please remedy that today.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2025 15:36     Subject: Marriage proposal, for real?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. He was not sober, but not so drunk he could not have a detailed conversation about planning a wedding
Ok so you have to be direct with him. "The other night you said you wanted to get married. Now you're avoiding the topic entirely. We need to talk about this."