Anonymous
06/02/2025 22:27
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
One combined home party for family.
Then do venue parties for friends/classmates. Combine if you can. Also remember that kids don’t need parties every year.
Then do venue parties for friends/classmates. Combine if you can. Also remember that kids don’t need parties every year.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 21:46
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
Anonymous wrote:You are the adult. You don’t have to convince them to have one combined party. You tell them that they are having one combined party. The kids do not get to argue. If they are that upset, they can choose to invite their friends or not.
If this will ring true, you tell them that now that they’re older, we need to start saving more for college. Then you calculate the money you saved, divide it by three , and put that much extra in the college accounts. My kids shut up very quickly when I say, “The thing you are asking for costs x and I have y in my bank account right now.”
As an aside, I have a family member who has an ultra high net worth. All of the kids have struggled with debt in adulthood. I am convinced it’s because they never had the “ we can’t afford that” conversation growing up. Saying no is a gift you give to your child. Please tell your kids no, and mean it.
Sounds like a way to create really happy birthday memories, especially the threat of not getting to invite their friends.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 20:39
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
Invite fewer kids and do a combined party. Each kid doesn’t need to invite their whole class. Each kid gets 3-5 friends, and then if family comes it’s one big party for everyone.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 20:30
Subject: Re:3 kids birthdays on the same week?
I’d actually recommend having a separate party for each child and simply sucking it up. Our birthday is a time to celebrate an individual, not to share what is most convenient for their parents and extended family. The most important person on a birthday is the individual child. You chose to have three kids, at the same time of year even. Please don’t combine or minimize birthdays.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 20:25
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
This is very common. My kids are a week apart and I know lots of families with multiple kids a week or two apart.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 20:22
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
You are the adult. You don’t have to convince them to have one combined party. You tell them that they are having one combined party. The kids do not get to argue. If they are that upset, they can choose to invite their friends or not.
If this will ring true, you tell them that now that they’re older, we need to start saving more for college. Then you calculate the money you saved, divide it by three , and put that much extra in the college accounts. My kids shut up very quickly when I say, “The thing you are asking for costs x and I have y in my bank account right now.”
As an aside, I have a family member who has an ultra high net worth. All of the kids have struggled with debt in adulthood. I am convinced it’s because they never had the “ we can’t afford that” conversation growing up. Saying no is a gift you give to your child. Please tell your kids no, and mean it.
If this will ring true, you tell them that now that they’re older, we need to start saving more for college. Then you calculate the money you saved, divide it by three , and put that much extra in the college accounts. My kids shut up very quickly when I say, “The thing you are asking for costs x and I have y in my bank account right now.”
As an aside, I have a family member who has an ultra high net worth. All of the kids have struggled with debt in adulthood. I am convinced it’s because they never had the “ we can’t afford that” conversation growing up. Saying no is a gift you give to your child. Please tell your kids no, and mean it.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 20:06
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
It’ll be over soon enough. Enjoy the parties while you have them.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 18:28
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
Anonymous wrote:Just spread out the parties.
This is what I do. I only have two but their birthdays are both right around Christmas so that limits the weekends we can have friend parties. Plus I also have to pull off Christmas. They each get a weekend in January a few weeks after their actual birthdays. Like one PP said venue parties can be easier than home parties, just block out the dates way ahead and make a reservation.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 18:24
Subject: Re:3 kids birthdays on the same week?
My kid has only had one party where he invited maybe 5 boys. His other birthdays were his favorite meal and cake or going to a restaurant and cake. You Mr kids don’t need full on birthday parties every year.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 18:07
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
I have two kids born one day apart and another kid a few weeks prior. I have parties for each individual child.
I only have one or no home parties. As long as money is not an issue, it is easy to plan a venue party. I often will do one home party and then a venue party the next day. I have done back to back parties at venues (do not recommend but doable).
If I were you, I would have one home party and two venue parties. Or combine two kids if possible at home or venue.
I only have one or no home parties. As long as money is not an issue, it is easy to plan a venue party. I often will do one home party and then a venue party the next day. I have done back to back parties at venues (do not recommend but doable).
If I were you, I would have one home party and two venue parties. Or combine two kids if possible at home or venue.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 17:28
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
One party at home for family. Have party at venues for each kid (you can space the parties out over 1-2 months).
Anonymous
06/02/2025 16:59
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
Anonymous wrote:OP I went to a dual birthday party this weekend. The parents have had the same basic party every year and it's always fun.
They rent a picnic area in Rock Creek Park and grill and order pizza, and just bring a bunch of stuff to play with: hula hoops, frisbees, lawn games etc.
It's no problem to have siblings, multiple ages etc. There's something for everyone.
+1
We know a family who does something similar (for two siblings close in age). . Tons of food, invite the entire family (siblings too), and hold the party at a public park and tell kids to bring “wheels” if they like. Bikes, scooters, trikes, whatever- because there is a big circular path in full view of the picnic area where the tables are. Always a good time. The only potential issue would be weather (so far has always been fine). Usually end up having 40ish people there if I had to guess. Not everyone brings the whole family, but people are welcome to do so.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 16:50
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
OP I went to a dual birthday party this weekend. The parents have had the same basic party every year and it's always fun.
They rent a picnic area in Rock Creek Park and grill and order pizza, and just bring a bunch of stuff to play with: hula hoops, frisbees, lawn games etc.
It's no problem to have siblings, multiple ages etc. There's something for everyone.
They rent a picnic area in Rock Creek Park and grill and order pizza, and just bring a bunch of stuff to play with: hula hoops, frisbees, lawn games etc.
It's no problem to have siblings, multiple ages etc. There's something for everyone.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 16:48
Subject: 3 kids birthdays on the same week?
Anonymous wrote:how old are your kids?
This is what I want to know too.
When they're really little, you can just skip the whole class-type parties and do family-only parties. When they get older and have deeper friendships, those parties should be limited to those friends.
You also don't have to have them all at your house. You can, in fact, say no to them when they ask for bounce houses etc.
Anonymous
06/02/2025 16:47
Subject: Re:3 kids birthdays on the same week?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would not have 3 parties at home. I would have one party at home for everyone or individual parties at destinations (gymnastics, bounce house, arcade etc.). I would have a dinner for family for all the kids. Family doesn't need to come to the party for school friends.
OP here- like a combined family dinner for all the kids? Because our family plus grandparents, aunts and uncles is like 15 already. Hosting that in addition to 3 birthday parties also gets to be too much.
I do suck it up most years, but surely there has to be a better way? They really like at home birthday parties.
Do one giant home party for all of them. Mobile laser tag in the yard?