Anonymous
05/31/2025 08:32
Subject: Re:Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you have blonde dysmorphia.
You look in the mirror and expect to see a blonde but you see a brunette. That's because you ARE a brunette.
If you want blonde hair then you'll need to bleach it.
FWIW I'm a brunette who had blonde hair as a kid. When I was in my twenties my hair was light brown and now at 40 it's dark brown. It might be that your hair is darker now than it was even 5 years ago.
+1
People think blonde automatically means more attractive and they cling to that.
I don’t love the Kardashians but I’m glad that they let a whole generation know it’s ok to be olive skinned with dark hair (ridiculous body advancements notwithstanding).
Anonymous
05/31/2025 07:47
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound like you have brown hair, not “dark blonde.”
Dark blonde hair can be darker than some brown hair. Blonde and brown are different colors. You are mixing up level with hue.
This is nonsensical.
No it isn't. You can have a level 6 blonde and you can have a level 7 brown. Level 7 is lighter than level 6. Lightness/darkness is determined by level. Hue is the color. "Blonde" and "brown" (or brunette) describe the hue, not how light or dark the hair is.
lol. Blonde denial is a thing.
Anonymous
05/31/2025 07:42
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
OP, I think you need a better colorist. Someone who will assess your coloring and give honest advice on what will look great on you.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:54
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound like you have brown hair, not “dark blonde.”
Dark blonde hair can be darker than some brown hair. Blonde and brown are different colors. You are mixing up level with hue.
This is nonsensical.
No it isn't. You can have a level 6 blonde and you can have a level 7 brown. Level 7 is lighter than level 6. Lightness/darkness is determined by level. Hue is the color. "Blonde" and "brown" (or brunette) describe the hue, not how light or dark the hair is.
You are just wrong.
You might be talking about overtones and undertones, which can impact how hair reflects certain the red and gold part of the light spectrum. Also really glossy, healthy hair will look brighter, especially in photos, even if it's darker than someone with dull hair, because it has a sheen. But the color itself (what you are referring to as the "hue") is on a continuum from light to dark, and blonde hair is lighter than brown hair.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:51
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound like you have brown hair, not “dark blonde.”
Dark blonde hair can be darker than some brown hair. Blonde and brown are different colors. You are mixing up level with hue.
This is not accurate according to hair colorists. They use a scale from 1 (black) to 10 (lightest blonde) and a colorist would distinguish between a light brown (level 6) and a dark blonde (level 7). There are not separate scales for blonde or brown hair and blonde hair can never be darker than even the lightest brown hair.
It gets somewhat complicated with tone, as reddish or golden browns can be more light reflective than dark ash blondes, so that might be what you are referring to. But most colorists will view the red or gold tones in hair to be highlights and just evaluate the base color. And a base brown will always be darker than a base blonde.
I mean, that's basically what I said. Level does not equal hue. And a blonde can have a darker level than a brown.
Uh... no. Blond *is* a level. Specifically level 7-10, from dark blonde to light blonde. Everything else is brown or black. Like this:
A blonde cannot have a darker level than a brunette.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:44
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound like you have brown hair, not “dark blonde.”
Dark blonde hair can be darker than some brown hair. Blonde and brown are different colors. You are mixing up level with hue.
This is nonsensical.
No it isn't. You can have a level 6 blonde and you can have a level 7 brown. Level 7 is lighter than level 6. Lightness/darkness is determined by level. Hue is the color. "Blonde" and "brown" (or brunette) describe the hue, not how light or dark the hair is.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:41
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
OP, you're just realizing now that you're not blonde anymore?
Happy dyeing.
Happy dyeing.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:39
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound like you have brown hair, not “dark blonde.”
Dark blonde hair can be darker than some brown hair. Blonde and brown are different colors. You are mixing up level with hue.
This is not accurate according to hair colorists. They use a scale from 1 (black) to 10 (lightest blonde) and a colorist would distinguish between a light brown (level 6) and a dark blonde (level 7). There are not separate scales for blonde or brown hair and blonde hair can never be darker than even the lightest brown hair.
It gets somewhat complicated with tone, as reddish or golden browns can be more light reflective than dark ash blondes, so that might be what you are referring to. But most colorists will view the red or gold tones in hair to be highlights and just evaluate the base color. And a base brown will always be darker than a base blonde.
I mean, that's basically what I said. Level does not equal hue. And a blonde can have a darker level than a brown.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:36
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
I think your eyes and brain have acclimated to increasing levels of blonde and now that there's nowhere lighter to go you have to darken some of it to create more contrast and then the lighter areas will pop and you'll feel more blonde again.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 20:31
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
My natural color is dishwasher blonde. I get highlights about every 6-8 weeks. My roots are never bad and I’m guessing it’s because my highlights are only a few shades lighter than my natural hair.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 16:47
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
You are going to thrash you hair and be bald by 30. If you want to be blonder, my best advice is get a nice synthetic, lace front wig.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 16:21
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I mean you sound like you have brown hair, not “dark blonde.”
Dark blonde hair can be darker than some brown hair. Blonde and brown are different colors. You are mixing up level with hue.
Different PP here. Point is, it's not really blonde. It's amazing how often I've met women who call themselves blonde but aren't. I suspect a lot of them must have been true blondes as children, received too many compliments about it, and will now chase that color all their lives.
OP, you're trying to dye your hair a color that's very different from your actual shade. Like the rest of the population who does the same thing, especially the portion of older women who need to hide their white or grey hair for professional purposes, you have to deal with roots. Some people need to treat their roots every two weeks. Consider yourself lucky.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 16:20
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
Anonymous wrote:The problem with "dark blonde" hair is that it's not brown - its dishwater/mouse colored. That's tricky because its essentially greige. True brown hair has a deep golden hue to it. Dark blonde does not.
Additionally, people who have dark blonde hair usually can't pull of the warmer tone of truly brown hair.
OP, how blonde do you want to be? The issue may be that you are aiming for the wrong tone. You may need it warmer or cooler.
One thing that I do recommend is Hue's gloss (which you can get on amazon). I think it helps keep the shine and can add some warmth as your hair grows out.
Hue products- find the shade you like. It's semi-permanent and simple.
https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/510C36A4-42F8-4540-8579-34381F47612C/
Anonymous
05/30/2025 16:19
Subject: Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
The problem with "dark blonde" hair is that it's not brown - its dishwater/mouse colored. That's tricky because its essentially greige. True brown hair has a deep golden hue to it. Dark blonde does not.
Additionally, people who have dark blonde hair usually can't pull of the warmer tone of truly brown hair.
OP, how blonde do you want to be? The issue may be that you are aiming for the wrong tone. You may need it warmer or cooler.
One thing that I do recommend is Hue's gloss (which you can get on amazon). I think it helps keep the shine and can add some warmth as your hair grows out.
Additionally, people who have dark blonde hair usually can't pull of the warmer tone of truly brown hair.
OP, how blonde do you want to be? The issue may be that you are aiming for the wrong tone. You may need it warmer or cooler.
One thing that I do recommend is Hue's gloss (which you can get on amazon). I think it helps keep the shine and can add some warmth as your hair grows out.
Anonymous
05/30/2025 16:14
Subject: Re:Feel like my hair is never blonde enough
The problem is that you have blonde dysmorphia.
You look in the mirror and expect to see a blonde but you see a brunette. That's because you ARE a brunette.
If you want blonde hair then you'll need to bleach it.
FWIW I'm a brunette who had blonde hair as a kid. When I was in my twenties my hair was light brown and now at 40 it's dark brown. It might be that your hair is darker now than it was even 5 years ago.
You look in the mirror and expect to see a blonde but you see a brunette. That's because you ARE a brunette.
If you want blonde hair then you'll need to bleach it.
FWIW I'm a brunette who had blonde hair as a kid. When I was in my twenties my hair was light brown and now at 40 it's dark brown. It might be that your hair is darker now than it was even 5 years ago.