Anonymous
05/28/2025 17:06
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.
this happened to my daughter last year when she left the team she'd been with since U9. the coach didn't even do anything to stop the bullying. we ended up just doing some private training sessions in june to keep her active and ceased participating with the team she was leaving. it wasn't worth it.
Ive seen girls fake an injury in order to avoid practice.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 16:36
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.
This sucks! I will probably give away my anonymity with this statement but this is how I handled it. The coach knows and I gave the courtesy of a personal phone call as soon as we were made an offer to return.
The parents have not been notified although we know some know and some kids know as kids talk and they were confronted about attending tryouts.
Our coach has handled it well. I don’t think the parents will as we are making a major jump.
You can report it to Safesport. Alternatively, I am using it as a life lesson. Life is not fair. People are going to be in their feelings. My child knows they are not doing anything fundamentally wrong. Despite being young, they understand how irrational the parents and kids are and it is actually a great lesson in perseverance.
The one thing I did tell my child is not to state where we are going unless asked. I told them to make people pry.
We are going to a 1st team of a MLS Next/ECNL club and folks are going to have their emotions which is natural human tendency.
Why would anyone be anything but happy for a player that’s moving to a higher level?
We are MLSnext and we are happy with whatever players decide to do whether they move on to higher level, somewhere closer, or where they would get more playing time.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 16:11
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.
this happened to my daughter last year when she left the team she'd been with since U9. the coach didn't even do anything to stop the bullying. we ended up just doing some private training sessions in june to keep her active and ceased participating with the team she was leaving. it wasn't worth it.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 16:09
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:sucks for the kids who have lost their spot to the incoming kids.
Yes this is my son. I am so annoyed about it. I want him to enjoy the remainder of the season with his friends, but they have made it nearly impossible to do so by parading new kids in front of him. He was brave and understanding about not making next years team and said he wanted to do his best the remainder of this season. A few other boys are in this position and have stopped coming. We have two weeks left. Idk what we will do. It feels really awful. Such a bummer of a way to end the year.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 15:07
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.
I wouls report that coach to safe sport for bullying
Have an investigation opened up on the Coach because he has a group chat for next year‘s team? Wow. No wonder people don’t want to coach and be teachers anymore.
It’s called bullying by exclusion and it’s deemed an offense and subject to investigation/ intervention. Also, the coach can’t directly contact the players without the parents in the group.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 15:02
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.
This sucks! I will probably give away my anonymity with this statement but this is how I handled it. The coach knows and I gave the courtesy of a personal phone call as soon as we were made an offer to return.
The parents have not been notified although we know some know and some kids know as kids talk and they were confronted about attending tryouts.
Our coach has handled it well. I don’t think the parents will as we are making a major jump.
You can report it to Safesport. Alternatively, I am using it as a life lesson. Life is not fair. People are going to be in their feelings. My child knows they are not doing anything fundamentally wrong. Despite being young, they understand how irrational the parents and kids are and it is actually a great lesson in perseverance.
The one thing I did tell my child is not to state where we are going unless asked. I told them to make people pry.
We are going to a 1st team of a MLS Next/ECNL club and folks are going to have their emotions which is natural human tendency.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 13:23
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Get back to work, you’re losing your spot whining a bout this
Anonymous
05/28/2025 13:14
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is it normal to have the kids who have accepted offers for next season to continue to come to every practice. Obviously to tryout and a few practices to be evaluated and/or decide if you want to join. But, once they have committed, shouldn't they go back to their other club until fall? Or is this normal?
In the words of Allen Iverson, "Are we talking about practice?"
Seriously, its a practice. Are you really worried that some extra kids are showing up. It your DC getting less attention somehow? If a few extra kids join in a practice who are joining the team next year, wgy does it matter? The practice is scheduled, the coach will be there. its not harming anyone or causing anyone extra work.
I think it matters when the current team is trying to train as a team for summer post season tournaments. It throws it off with new kids who are not on the team- and yes, the current team members and paying team members, do get less feedback and attention. Not the new kids fault at all- my kid would absolutely go to any practice they were invited to also. But don't think the club and coach should allow it past a few times.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 13:12
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:DC is moving to a new club for next year and has attended a few practices with the new team. Not all of the practices, but maybe three total since accepting the offer. DC is also still attending practices with the current team even though their games have been over for a few weeks. DC did not report any awkwardness. I do not know if kids are getting moved down or if a few are leaving the team. I heard some may be following a coach from their club who is leaving and will be coaching their age group. A kid who will be joining DC's current team has been coming to some practices and it's no big deal. The kids do not care.
+1 maybe it’s bc it’s MLSNext but the kids don’t seem to care. Kids who are leaving haven’t been iced out of playing time and for the new kids practicing, at least you know the team is getting some committed ballers.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 13:02
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal to have the kids who have accepted offers for next season to continue to come to every practice. Obviously to tryout and a few practices to be evaluated and/or decide if you want to join. But, once they have committed, shouldn't they go back to their other club until fall? Or is this normal?
In the words of Allen Iverson, "Are we talking about practice?"
Seriously, its a practice. Are you really worried that some extra kids are showing up. It your DC getting less attention somehow? If a few extra kids join in a practice who are joining the team next year, wgy does it matter? The practice is scheduled, the coach will be there. its not harming anyone or causing anyone extra work.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 12:48
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
DC is moving to a new club for next year and has attended a few practices with the new team. Not all of the practices, but maybe three total since accepting the offer. DC is also still attending practices with the current team even though their games have been over for a few weeks. DC did not report any awkwardness. I do not know if kids are getting moved down or if a few are leaving the team. I heard some may be following a coach from their club who is leaving and will be coaching their age group. A kid who will be joining DC's current team has been coming to some practices and it's no big deal. The kids do not care.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 12:42
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.
I've seen opposite where the player that is leaving is nasty to current coach and incoming new players.
Anonymous
05/28/2025 12:41
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
You paying for this player ahead of time access to practices it looks like
Anonymous
05/28/2025 12:37
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:sucks for the kids who have lost their spot to the incoming kids.
They did this 2 years in a row at Revolution. We left after the second set of lies.
Fool me once…
Anonymous
05/28/2025 11:33
Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Season is over for most teams