Anonymous wrote:Will she be drinking before driving your kids? Why does a dui mean a person is a dangerous driver generally?
Anonymous wrote:TLDR: My mom has passed and her cousin has kind of acted as a surrogate grandmother for my kids. She lives a couple hours away and will occasionally take them on ski trip days or to the beach etc.
While Googling her name to look up her zip code (actually to send a thank you note for sending my kids Easter gifts...) -- I found out she has just been arrested for a DUI. She is 70. She texted me this morning asking if she could pick up the kids next weekend to take them to her lake house for the day.
I have no idea what the status of her driver's license is. But I am not comfortable with her driving with my kids in the car. She did NOT disclose this arrest to me and is probably humiliated -- but I just do not feel comfortable letting my kids ride with her and I need to think of a reason why, since they have done so for years.
No freakin idea how to handle this diplomatically. I'm not going to say, "Hey! Saw you got arrested!" I also can't keep making up white lies indefinitely.
Help.